URGENT Prayer NEED

[AndresWife]

NEED URGENT prayer

Today, I recieved a letter from an atty my husband has hired in the USA. The atty said I have 20 days to agree to the settlement suggested, and that even if I DO NOT respond.. it will STILL proceed anyway. It is fair.... BUT since I dont want it.. and am standing for our marriage to be restored, I give it ALL to GOD to handle...

Please PRAY for us...Only God's intervention in this will help.

I know my husband is currently back in the USA now because he has to be here in this country to do this. Since the location of the atty is close to his parents homes, that means he is only 4 hrs away right now. PTL

Although he DID pay the $ to start this.. I know he is hurting SO badly right now. He really needs your prayers... as do I....I am Praying for a miracle.. and that God will STOP this.. just like he has stopped it 2X before. What God starts, HE completes... I am standing strong, and know that Gods will is stronger than any letter.

I pray that when he gets the cc copy of what was sent to me, that as he reads it, he will realize he DOES NOT want to proceed with this, and knows in his heart that it is wrong. Of course I also want him to realize how much he wants us to be together again, but that is all in Gods hands. My husband needs prayer.. I know that this is tearing him up deep inside, as he has always been so against the D word. I pray that God will use this time, to open his ears, eyes, heart and that he will use this situation to shock him.. and give him a realistic real live view that this is NO small thing, and it is set up to destroy not only our marriage, but him and I both, with deep hurting pain, much more than he thought possible. He told me he loves me in Jan, he told me he has been faithful.... why then is he doing this? Because he doesnt want to hurt.... well.. this aint gonna help that... and I know God has a reason for this happening... Just gotta keep trusting.. and standing STRONG. Also praying that he will feel the urge to come see me, call, or contact me.... with the walls down... and his heart open... and led by GOD... ...........& not just by what I want...and desire so badly

Prayer is powerful... MUCH PRAYER is needed!

Blessings,

AndresWife
~One Day Closer To Our Marriage Restoration~

Yeah.. I feel sort of like a piece of garlic in one of those little garlic squishers about now.. but the good thing is the icky stuff gets tossed out... PTL... so I still feel like a breakthrough is in process! PTL

 

[tammyhw67]

oh sweetie, I am so sorry this is happening, I will pray for you and you keep standing, even if it does go through DONT GIVE UP!!!!! God can do anything . i will chaeck with you often to see how you are doing. keep your faith. GOD BLESS YOU

 

[wheels4Christ]

BUT since I dont want it.. and am standing for our marriage to be restored, I give it ALL to GOD to handle...

Sister, there is nothing GOD can not do. Our Heavenly father will bless and reward you for standing for your marriage.

As for the papers... if I may suggest... do NOT sign them. Do not contribute to this process. If it goes through ...at least you didn't have your approval on it.

My prayers are sent to you asking for His comfort and guildance. God bless.

 

[bkg]

I agree - don't sign the papers and do not hire an attorney. Pray hard!

 

[desi]

Hire the best attorney you can find and go after him for whatever you can get. Look at him as someone who has betrayed you and your marriage, as he has until the divorce is final or he changes his tune. Being nice to him during a divorce intiated by him will only make it easier for him to mistreat you legally and otherwise. This is from my experience and may be different from that of others here.

 

[einnc]

I pray for God's perfect will to be done in both of your lives. Whatever the outcome may be just know that God has a purpose for everything. My prayers are with you.

 

[sarah marie]

Hire the best attorney you can find and go after him for whatever you can get. Look at him as someone who has betrayed you and your marriage, as he has until the divorce is final or he changes his tune. Being nice to him during a divorce intiated by him will only make it easier for him to mistreat you legally and otherwise. This is from my experience and may be different from that of others here.

Hire the best (God!) and appeal to God to go after his heart. Look at him as a sinner (just like you) that has been redeemed by Christ's precious blood and through the eyes of God's grace and mercy. Letting Christ's love for him flow through you will only make it easier for God to win him back. This is from the Word of God and a path to glory proven through God's promises.

 

[chris320]

Hire the best attorney you can find and go after him for whatever you can get. Look at him as someone who has betrayed you and your marriage, as he has until the divorce is final or he changes his tune. Being nice to him during a divorce intiated by him will only make it easier for him to mistreat you legally and otherwise. This is from my experience and may be different from that of others here.

I would say you need to hire an attorney, to ensure that you get a fair settlement and are not taken advantage of by your husband. Nonetheless, until the divorce goes through, God still requires you to walk in love towards this spouse.

-Chris320

 

[bkg]

Hire the best (God!) and appeal to God to go after his heart. Look at him as a sinner (just like you) that has been redeemed by Christ's precious blood and through the eyes of God's grace and mercy. Letting Christ's love for him flow through you will only make it easier for God to win him back. This is from the Word of God and a path to glory proven through God's promises.

Thank you, Sarah Marie for being a voice of faith...

Didn't Jesus tell Peter to forgive 7x70 times/day? Didn't Jesus say "give to caesar what is Caesar's" and that we'd all have to give up everything to follow him?

Yet when it comes to a struggling marriage or one on the virge of divorce, Christians turn into money hungry vindictive people who seem to care more about "sticking it" to the spouse than walking in the light of Jesus' love. No wonder divorce is rising faster in the church than out - Many Chrisitian's will seek Christ only when others are treating us the way we want - but be damned if we'll act out of love towards someone who isn't loving us first...

Divorce sucks no matter how you slice it - and it makes me admittedly sad to see how those who have not been through a divorce talk more about "getting your fair share" than restoration, love or forgiveness...

AndreasWife - I'm STILL praying for you. Take the hand of Jesus and walk with Him during this time - ignore worldly advice and stand on the word of God.

 

[desi]

Yes pray! Always pray but use wisdom too. We could all quit our jobs and pray with trust in the Lord, God will provide. However, when we act judiciously in concert with prayer God provides more, house versus cardboard box. Anyone remember the parable of the servants and the talents. Don't bury yours.

 

[AndresWife]

Thank you all for your responses.
I am sorry I havent been online lately to check them, but I have been trying to get past what I SEE and get Focused on what God is doing, with what I dont see.
No, I dont want to go after my husbands Juggler Vein, (so to speak) first of all, that to me would not be a good thing to do, and would only put higher walls up, and second, I love my husband too much to do that to him, and third, I dont think that since I am representing God as a Christian wife, that I should go that direction anyways.
Yes, I will be cautious and should I feel like I am getting caught in the legal crossfire, I will protect myself with a Christian Lawyer if needed, but just to protect me, not to proceed, but I dont want to delay our marriage restoration by taking things into my own hands, and not trusting God.
This past week, I have gone daily to the beach, to walk before dusk for a mile and a half, praying, and singing inside my heart, trying to listen and understand what God wants of me. I truely feel that He wants me to trust Him, and to know NOTHING will happen that hasnt been filtered through HIM first. God knows my heart,and how much I love my husband, and even what it will take for my husband and I to be restored. My job is to trust HIM...not doubt, and be patient.
I did hear from his atty again, I didnt cry, I just said, ok God, you have this handled, and yes, it hurt me deeply to see his signature on documents filed in the courts, however I also know my husband well enough to know for him to even write his signature on those papers at all, ripped his heart out too. Has he contacted me? No, but I know that when he does, it will be because God prompted him to do it.
I have also been praying that God will find a way for us to be in the same place physically rather than across the ocean from eachother, so He can do the healing that is needed in our marriage, and rebuild the trust and show him that I will no longer be caught in the mental turmoil that I had been in when I left. He needs reasurrance of this, and to know stability is there, and I wont go off the deep end again. Only God can handle all those details.. and ya never know.. He may even make him work with a Military Chaplin one on one.. for work... and be surrounded with Godly men, or even couples with restored marriages.. or He could even send him to the base here locally, because NOTHING is impossible for God. So.. Trusting and beliveing, and waiting to see what God will do next!
Standing Strong... and staying focused on God..
AndresWife