Unwarranted Extra Attention...........

[Iggster]

Did anyone ever misjudge you for your motives? In the process of acting as a brother or sister, instead of a complete moron, you decide to befriend someone. But that someone led themselves to believe that your gesture of friendship was more than what it should be.

1. How did that friendship end?
2. What did you feel like throughout the process of disconnecting yourself from this person?
3. In your experience, what did you see as a tell-tale sign(s) to high tale it out of there?
4. What made you ultimately say," Enough is enough?"
5. After the experience and prayers, how did you feel about it?

 

[wvmtnkid]

I think that when you realize the other person is taking things in a different direction than what you intend from them to go, it's time to sit things straight. Sometimes it isn't easy, but it's better to set it straight then having one person in the relationship thinking there is more there than what there really is. Sometimes it's hard to distinguish someone just wanting friendship from someone wanting more, especially if you are the person wanting more. Be gentle and kind, but honest. There may be some hurt feelings (or maybe feelings of embarrassment) for awhile. And honestly, sometimes the friendship doesn't survive. But if it were me, I would rather know than go on thinking there was something that could develop into more when in reality there wasn't.

 

[Brutus/HisCatalyst]

Did anyone ever misjudge you for your motives? In the process of acting as a brother or sister, instead of a complete moron, you decide to befriend someone. But that someone led themselves to believe that your gesture of friendship was more than what it should be.

1. How did that friendship end?
2. What did you feel like throughout the process of disconnecting yourself from this person?
3. In your experience, what did you see as a tell-tale sign(s) to high tale it out of there?
4. What made you ultimately say," Enough is enough?"
5. After the experience and prayers, how did you feel about it?

1. It ended due to her fear of relationship, but God restored the friendship
2. (I know it's a sunday school answer but it helped)Gave the relationship to God
3. She said she didn't want to be so close and know that she wasn't seeking a relationship.
4.I didn't because my other close female friends helped this one to see that I'm just friendly like that(if I can say taht with humility)
5.I was fine with it because I was blessed enough to trust God.

 

[waterbear]

Did anyone ever misjudge you for your motives? In the process of acting as a brother or sister, instead of a complete moron, you decide to befriend someone. But that someone led themselves to believe that your gesture of friendship was more than what it should be.

1. How did that friendship end?
2. What did you feel like throughout the process of disconnecting yourself from this person?
3. In your experience, what did you see as a tell-tale sign(s) to high tale it out of there?
4. What made you ultimately say," Enough is enough?"
5. After the experience and prayers, how did you feel about it?

1. While I do end friendships, I haven't (explicitly) for this reason.
2. Usually a couple days/weeks of unpleasantness and obsession until all the emotional bonds break.
3. If a person actually succeeds in getting me angry (very rare), barring any commitments the relationship will be over.
4. See 1. and 3.
5. Well the emotional attachments eventually reach the 'stranger' level (which is peaceful). On deciding to distance myself from someone... I'm a bit mixed on that. On one hand, I only have finite time to spend with people, however it certainly isn't polite to end a relationship that perhaps only I find annoying. That I got annoyed annoys me too

 

[Diane_Windsor]

1. How did that friendship end?
2. What did you feel like throughout the process of disconnecting yourself from this person?
3. In your experience, what did you see as a tell-tale sign(s) to high tale it out of there?
4. What made you ultimately say," Enough is enough?"
5. After the experience and prayers, how did you feel about it?

I had something similar happen with a priest that I had a crush on though I had made a concerted effort not to tell him about it and I kept my distance.

1. Our 'friendship' ended when he threatened to sue me-he had absolutely no case whatsoever. I'm guessing that he didn't read the part in Scripture where it says that we should not sue our brethren.

2. Anger and sadness . Anger that my earthly shepherd abandoned and even threatened me, and sadness that his superiors sided with him before even hearing my side of the story. He wouldn't even give me an explanation for abandoning me in the first place.

3. LOL When you have a member of the clergy threatening to sue you-I think it's time to leave. Though I was scared, I did see this as God's confirmation for me to pursue other avenues. I was not happy where I was at, and my heart was not in it. I am much more content looking for jobs.

4. N/A

5. I'm still in the process of forgiving this priest, although I know that come Judgement Day both he and his superiors will have to answer to God Almighty on why they had abandoned a sheep that was placed in their care. I wouldn't want to be in their shoes when they have to give an answer to that. May God have mercy upon them both.

DW