Unsure of ending relationship.

[magicbean3]

Please dont judge me, I understand what I'm doing is wrong.

I've been in a relationship for 3years and last year my partnerd was texting another girl.
Feel free to read my other posts.
Tbh, he saw how unhappy I was, and how it hurt me and when tried to talk about it,he
Refused, he just ignored me, or said what he did was my fault.
Just to clarify it wasnt my fault, i am a very loving person and I don't feel in any way to have caused what he did...
Anyway, its been a year since then, everyday I think about it, everyday I resent him more.
I've just started uni, and I have instantly clicked with another guy.
he is lovely, sweet and a Christian, which my bf was baptized but doesn't show belief.

me and this guy get on so well, and we both I think understand how we feel. we wouldn't commit adultery. I know even talking about him in this way is wrong.

I'm not sure really why I am posting this. I have been considering breaking up with my boyfriend,but I don't want to hurt him, his family or mine. I do still love him and care. I just want to feel appreciated, and not spoken down to.
I feel thia guy could be something special me and some friends went out and he was pushed over by a group of strangers and he has unfortunately fractured his collarbone, and we spent the whole night in a n e, and we stayed up all night talking about our lifes account what we want to do in life. I feel perhaps God intentionally did this, because he knows how unhappy I am.

 

[lutherangerman]

I don't have any answers except that I really know how you feel. I will say a prayer for you!

 

[.Iona.]

You say you don't want to hurt him, but you need to think about how you are feeling. sounds like staying in a relationship with him is hurting you more. In the long run, if you feel this way stringing him along, even if with good intentions of not hurting him, will actually just hurt him more.

Sometimes the kindest thing to do, is the more difficult option for you. Pray about it.

 

[elenore]

you're using him by sleeping with him with no intention of marriage. that isn't right by either of you. you may love him, but unless you do want to spend the rest of your life with him and he feels the same, it's only going to end anyway.


PS. forgive yourself if you need to. sometimes that alone can be holding us back from going in the direction we should be.

 

[peckaboo]

She didn't say they're sleeping together - let's not jump to conclusions.

It seems to me you have two options:
Break up with your current bf at some point (whether or not you get together with the other guy is beside the point), or
Stay with your current bf and marry him.

A marriage in which you feel unappreciated and insecure isn't going to be a happy one.

 

[MCab]

Ask yourself "what do I want?" You can stay in your unhappy relationship. Or you could possibly start something new. Feelings will get hurt with that last option, but it'll be temporary (at least on your end). And it won't be as bad as the misery you're in now.

How they (bf & family) react to your decision is their business and not your fault.