I left my husband of 16 yrs about 7 yrs ago because he committed adultery and refused to change. Before I actually "left" him, I met someone online that made me feel good about myself. We met about a year later and have been together since then, until February when i made him get out of the house. He has many past issues, drinks, and is emotionally and verbally abusive, to me and my kids, who are teens. Well, somehow, he has come back into my life, because i thought that he had changed, but i was wrong. He continues to drink, not as often, but says that he has a right to drink on the weekend. He is now living with me and I have no intention of marrying him anytime soon, I told him this the other day. I asked him to please leave again. I told him he can have 2 months to find a place, and he just about flipped out. He told me on the phone that he would kill me first before he moves out again. He always says things he doesnt mean, and i dont know what to do to get him out of here. I care for him deeply, but i refuse to have my kids subjected to his mood swings. Also, i just want to be alone for a while, i know that i should have never let him back in, but he is here now and i cant get him out. I have prayed daily for an answer, and am hoping someone can offer more advice....Thank you
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You can get him out if his name is not on the lease or on the mortgage. If that is the case, pack up his things, and call the police. They will see to it that he leaves. If you need a restraining order, make it happen.
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JayCeeGirl
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You may need to get a restraining order. He has threatened to kill you. You should definitely be able to get one.
He's technically living there, whether or not he pays rent or helps with bills, so you'd need to formally evict him. The cops cannot make him leave unless there is a legal reason to make him, like a restraining order or eviction. The restraining order should be able to get him out immediately while eviction can take awhile. Who knows if he'd make good on his threat if you do evict him, so I wouldn't take the chance. I'd contact a women's shelter or you courthouse to find out how to get the restraining order and get him out and ensure your safety in the process.
He's technically living there, whether or not he pays rent or helps with bills, so you'd need to formally evict him. The cops cannot make him leave unless there is a legal reason to make him, like a restraining order or eviction. The restraining order should be able to get him out immediately while eviction can take awhile. Who knows if he'd make good on his threat if you do evict him, so I wouldn't take the chance. I'd contact a women's shelter or you courthouse to find out how to get the restraining order and get him out and ensure your safety in the process.
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Wishing you safe days! When they say things they don't mean but continue to say them anyways it is a danger signal of what will be soon fact. Get away from him.
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Call a womens shelter if necessary. If anyone ever threatens your life take it very seriously. See what your rights are and then send him formal notice that he has to leave by a certain date. Take the kids and yourself out of the house until that date and then make the police go over and check to see that he's gone. Then change the locks...
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sounds like you need a restraining order...
1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
1-800-787-3224 (TTY)
http://www.ndvh.org/
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