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Memories remain with us. That's how we work as humans. The good news of teh Gospel is that God gives us a new beginning because of Jesus. Paul could still refer back to the times he persecuted Christians. His shame at that was seen against God's great mercy.
Your avoidance of such material, your attitudes now both are indicative of a person with a past as far as behaviour goes. You must stop seeing yourself so negatively and begin to live out of the new creation that you are. Enjoy your partner. Anticipate being a great husband and finding sexual fulfilment with her which we be far more satisfying that what you obtained by images. There are many positives in your post. Build on them and discover the freedom and wholeness that Jesus gifts to you.
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Your avoidance of such material, your attitudes now both are indicative of a person with a past as far as behaviour goes. You must stop seeing yourself so negatively and begin to live out of the new creation that you are. Enjoy your partner. Anticipate being a great husband and finding sexual fulfilment with her which we be far more satisfying that what you obtained by images. There are many positives in your post. Build on them and discover the freedom and wholeness that Jesus gifts to you.
John
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joey_downunder
big sister
I have an idea of what you're experiencing having read previously banned books (they were banned years ago for a reason!). I had to totally fill my mind with the things of God to flush out the disgusting refuse that had taken hold of my thinking.
You are experiencing severe guilt, self-condemnation, self-hatred, extreme doubt in your own moral conscience, doubt that God could possibly be strong enough to change you or even be willing, merciful or loving enough to forgive you. The fact that you recoil from it should give you some hope of genuine long-term change.
I have quite a few links for you:
Most important one if you don't already have a bible - Proverbs 1 - ESVBible.org because you need to learn the wisdom of God. Some verses may be challenging - accept God's forgiveness as you confess those sins. It stuck with me- my mind was re-programmed by the end of the month by reading a chapter a day AND reading and/or listening to sermons that dealt with the verse/s that jumped out at me.
Suggested topics: Forgiveness (look for ones dealing with God's forgiveness),
grace, pornography(make sure you look ones that minister to repenting men/women)
Cure sex addicts. Help abuse survivors. Heal sex addiction & sexual abuse recovery
You are experiencing severe guilt, self-condemnation, self-hatred, extreme doubt in your own moral conscience, doubt that God could possibly be strong enough to change you or even be willing, merciful or loving enough to forgive you. The fact that you recoil from it should give you some hope of genuine long-term change.
I have quite a few links for you:
Most important one if you don't already have a bible - Proverbs 1 - ESVBible.org because you need to learn the wisdom of God. Some verses may be challenging - accept God's forgiveness as you confess those sins. It stuck with me- my mind was re-programmed by the end of the month by reading a chapter a day AND reading and/or listening to sermons that dealt with the verse/s that jumped out at me.
Suggested topics: Forgiveness (look for ones dealing with God's forgiveness),
grace, pornography(make sure you look ones that minister to repenting men/women)
Cure sex addicts. Help abuse survivors. Heal sex addiction & sexual abuse recovery
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joey_downunder
big sister
No worries. And remember God can change what we cannot in our strength.
If you believe in Jesus Christ this passage applies to you no matter how condemned you feel at the moment. Romans 8:1-11 - ESVBible.org
MOURNFUL AND VEXED : Apprising Ministries
If you believe in Jesus Christ this passage applies to you no matter how condemned you feel at the moment. Romans 8:1-11 - ESVBible.org
MOURNFUL AND VEXED : Apprising Ministries
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OP,
I would recommend keeping in touch with some of the guys who posted on here with similar struggles. Although I myself have not struggled with such things, I have friends (male and female) who have struggled with porn addiction and other even more intense addictions.
Other recommendations...
1) Find someone, preferably a Christian counselor, in real life to meet regularly with. This person can hold you accountable.
2) Delve heavily into God's Word. Read a bit every day. Focus especially on God's grace.
I HIGHLY recommend reading about "Paul's Thorn" (2 Cor. 12:7-10)
God's grace covers your sins if you truly repent. He has not and will not abandon you.
God bless.
- Rose
I would recommend keeping in touch with some of the guys who posted on here with similar struggles. Although I myself have not struggled with such things, I have friends (male and female) who have struggled with porn addiction and other even more intense addictions.
Other recommendations...
1) Find someone, preferably a Christian counselor, in real life to meet regularly with. This person can hold you accountable.
2) Delve heavily into God's Word. Read a bit every day. Focus especially on God's grace.
I HIGHLY recommend reading about "Paul's Thorn" (2 Cor. 12:7-10)
God's grace covers your sins if you truly repent. He has not and will not abandon you.
God bless.
- Rose
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joey_downunder
big sister
Have you thought about showing her this forum so she can read what you're going through for herself? Remember you were 17 - that's a long time ago, it repulses you, you strongly regret ever having seen it.
Frankly some of what you have seen sounds like you have been traumatised by it NOT thrilled by it.
Frankly some of what you have seen sounds like you have been traumatised by it NOT thrilled by it.
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