Unhappy with my height

Miss Spaulding · Oct 25, 2011

Well, to start, you're right that you won't be getting any taller, and there's nothing you can do about it. Therefore, I'd look myself straight in the eye in the mirror and say, "You're short. You'll always be short, and right now I'm going snap out of this self-pity. Now get over it and live with it." .......That's my frank, no-nonsense advice to your problem.

God specifically created you to be short...why? Who knows. He obviously figured the perfect height for you would be 5'5''. It's OKAY to be short! Trust me...it's okay. I know reading this you'll be agreeing but still feeling all down-in-the-dumps about it, but seriously, there are worse things in life, buddy. My cousin, Lewis, who is more like my brother because of how close we are, is only about 5'5'', maybe a half inch more. However, he certainly makes up for it in personality/character, and that's what counts.

Throughout my childhood and teenage years I've never been too insecure about my height. I was confident in who I was because I was at a good social status at school (I didn't get picked on, had many good friends etc) and had relationships.

I've quoted you here...and look at would you've said. Now, I would venture to say that you presently, at your age of 21, still will say that you have a good social status, can probably still find a relationship, have plenty of friends, ect... Personally, you may very well be only 5'5'', but it sounds to me that you have more of 6 foot tall personality. People like you, and it's not because of your height, it's because you're you.

-Sharon

Purity_over_Passion · Oct 25, 2011

You wanna get out of the habit of being self-conscious?... If you have a habit of picking your nose, or your butt. Of smacking while chewing gum, or looking at girls boobs during conversations, how would you go about breaking those habits?

I know weird examples. My point is, its a habit and you just have to stop doing it. You know the basic reality that this is something that you cannot change nor will it ever change. So just stop thinking that way. If you are worried bc you are short and therefore are insignificant you should read about David. He was short. I don't know if he was 5'5" but compared to the Shaq he killed he was small. Even though I do hear now in asia they are breaking people femurs and implanting a 3-6 spacer to make you taller. (maybe you can explore that option).

cherrymdsn · Oct 29, 2011

The best thing you can do is remember that often times the tallest person in the room doesn't have the greatest height. Use your personality and accomplishments and energy to show off and get noticed, whether that notice comes from the girl you want to attract or the prospective employer you want to impress. I am a girl, but I am also extremely short - and honestly I still often loom larger in a room than anyone else there! You are short, but you are not small.

peckaboo · Nov 19, 2011

My brother-in-law's 5'4" and he's one of the coolest, most well-liked and well-respected guys I know. (Also, my sister, his wife, is about 5'. They make tiny, perfectly packaged babies together )
I've always been insecure about various aspects of my looks and would definitely echo the people on here who've said that this isn't to do with your height; it's to do with your mind. I always thought that once my teenage skin cleared up I'd be really happy with the way I look, but guess what? My skin's been fine for years and now I worry that my ears are too big, lol! It's human nature to be discontent, and it takes conscious effort to fight it. I also read somewhere that (the article was aimed at women) if you have great hair, there'll be someone in the room with more shapely legs; if you have amazing legs, there'll be someone with straighter teeth; if you have great teeth, there'll be someone with a flatter stomach... Changing "this one thing", whatever it may be, is never the route to confidence, as you'll just find some other thing to feel conscious about - ask any woman who's had a boob job whether she still has "ugly days"!

anaunJq · Dec 4, 2011

maybe some really good boots or insoles for shoes maybe idk

Sarrapin · Dec 5, 2011

Well, firstly, men generally keep growing until they are about 25 years old. At the very least that should offset your depression until then.

Secondly, you're still within "normal" range, albeit shorter than the "average" by a few centimetres. Being Asian, your group's average height is something between 166 to 170 centimetres. Like you, I'm "shorter" at about 168-170 centimetres. But it's when you get below 5 feet that you've got reason to feel the way that you do.

If you want to look at it this way: you're only going to shrink in time and you can't do anything to alter your height (except to wear those shows that explodingboy posted) so why worry about it? I can guarantee you that people are more likely to initially notice and judge you based on your looks and persona than they are your height.

If people are shallow enough to judge you based on the latter alone, then they are not people whom you would want to know or whose approval you should want. As you said though, you've been in relationships before so it should clearly show you that your height is a non-issue. That said, let's just say that I wouldn't try getting the attention of a 6 foot something hottie.

liars_paradox · Dec 15, 2011

tcwoods91 said:
That's Satan trying to get at you! Your height in no way diminishes who you are. God made you to be 5' 5". That means something!

But, God also makes people born with some sort of birth defect. Just because God makes you born with something, doesn't mean that you should be happy with it.

I'm not trying to discourage the OP, or say that being short is anything like a birth defect. But, God does make us to be things that are problematic for us in our lives.

For the OP, it's not that easy to be a short guy when women all want taller men.

Also, being taller makes other men look at you different as well. Just simply because a man is tall, he can give off a "commanding" presence and other men will simply listen to him because of his charm which his height contributes to.

Of course, short people can be leaders. It happens. But, my point is, being born tall really helps a person in their life. Being short does make life harder for you.

I'm not short, nor am I tall. But, I know what it is like to have some sort of short-coming that other people don't have.

I guess, however, the OP has to learn to stop being so bothered by his short-comings, because his preoccupation with them might prevent other people from seeing his strengths.

Height isn't everything, and there are other things that are important to other people. More importantly, there are other things that God values in people.

To the OP: Your life won't be determined solely by your height. Focus on what your strengths are rather than what your weaknesses are. If you can't fix your weakness, then don't worry about it. Just focus on what you do actually have to offer other people.

liars_paradox · Dec 15, 2011

Sarrapin said:
Well, firstly, men generally keep growing until they are about 25 years old. At the very least that should offset your depression until then.

I don't know where you heard that from. I think that what you said is true for girls or something. I think that OP is correct in saying that 21 is when you reach your max height in men.

Sarrapin said:
Secondly, you're still within "normal" range, albeit shorter than the "average" by a few centimetres. Being Asian, your group's average height is something between 166 to 170 centimetres. Like you, I'm "shorter" at about 168-170 centimetres. But it's when you get below 5 feet that you've got reason to feel the way that you do.

If you want to look at it this way: you're only going to shrink in time and you can't do anything to alter your height (except to wear those shows that explodingboy posted) so why worry about it? I can guarantee you that people are more likely to initially notice and judge you based on your looks and persona than they are your height.

It really depends on who is in your environment. Most people really don't think like that. They don't go, "Well, he's actually not short for an Asian, because statistically..." What they do is they compare him to all the people around him, and evaluate that way.

Sarrapin said:
If people are shallow enough to judge you based on the latter alone, then they are not people whom you would want to know or whose approval you should want.

Dude, that's just about everyone. I can feel where the OP comes from, because I can't find anyone in real life who isn't like that.

Sarrapin said:
As you said though, you've been in relationships before so it should clearly show you that your height is a non-issue. That said, let's just say that I wouldn't try getting the attention of a 6 foot something hottie.

Well, you have at least a point there.

Sarrapin · Dec 22, 2011

Responded, but now just really don't care. Suppose we just agree to disagree on everything.

Lindseyk · Dec 25, 2011

i am also unhappy with my height. i am 5 foot 2. its not uncommon with my family, but it doesnt make me feel any better.

GPguy · Jan 1, 2012

Bud, you're more than cool.

5'5" isn't all that short in the first place and even if it were, you're as tall as you make yourself. Physical height does not matter at all. Worry not about anything. God made you just the way you are, appreciate Him and His work.

Blessings.

Jonathan

EyesOfKohl · Jan 2, 2012

Don't worry about it, you shouldn't compare or look to others. Learn to be who you are and what you're given. It's a blessing. I've seen in war-torn countries, children with no legs or arms from landmines or explosions, you just don't know how lucky you really are.

redwngsfan019 · Jan 4, 2012

Hey, I'm 5'5 also. I'm not gonna lie, I got picked on a bit (not bullied tho) while in HS. It also was a benefit because if anyone tried messing with me I had a ton of people who would back me up =p but no one hated me until I switched HS's because the one I went to the schools were rivals so a lot of people in my 2nd HS hated me just because I went to the other school. But imo it doesn't really matter now, I do wish I was a bit taller but o well. Also idk about where you all live but around here 5'5 seems like it really isnt that short anymore. Seems like a lot of people I know are my height or just a bit taller.

FromTheDarknessToTheLight · Jan 8, 2012

I'm 5'2, My entire family is short, My father is 5'5, my mother is an inch shorter than me, everyone on my fathers side is really short. my father is Hispanic, my mother Caucasian. Give me those three inches, I'll take them .

Oh, and I'm white, so yeah... If anyone should be conscious about their height, it's me. You're just fine as you are, Asians are usually on the short side, it's common.

a2prosper86 · Jan 22, 2012

I'll just say this... you can be short and rich, prosperous, happy, filled with the power of God, loved and radical for the Lord or you could be tall but sad, depressed, failing, alone, out of God's will, disgraced and pathetic - which would if God handed it to you would you choose. He gave you the short option so take it and maximise yourself in Him. You can be short in the physical but tower above in the spirit you know!

xxxx

Boss_BlueAngels · Jan 27, 2012

5'5" isn't bad. Heck, 5'5" would be better for me since I'm a pilot. It can be tricky getting into the small and cramped airplanes I fly. Heck, during WWII, you might even be too tall to fit into the tailgun or ball-turret position in a heavy bomber.

Fenny the Fox · Jan 28, 2012

I'm only 5'4" and 21. And haven't grown in over three years, so this is what I got. My family on one side are tall, the other tend to be pretty short. Some things are just what they are, and you have to learn to accept them/live with them if they can't be changed.

But height really isn't that big a deal. I can't think of once that my height has seriously affected me in any way.
[Apart from the occasional hard time getting something off the top shelf or cabinet or something, but those are not a big deal overall.]

omanid · Jan 28, 2012

All you can do is try to stop those insecure thoughts and let God do the rest...

the only advice I have for you is to cultivate awareness of your thoughts and pushing out the bad and popping in the good (scripture).

Christina84 · Jan 30, 2012

I'm short too but i guess we just have to live with it..

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