Unforgiving Brother

[Gentlemantech48]

What started as simply a personality conflict with a brother who was painting our house turned into a matter of spiritual warfare. The conflict was simply over the fact that I wanted this "friend" to paint my house following the same guidlines as the professional who was going to paint it. He wanted to do it his way and skip some of the important preparation steps. I finally got frustrated and told him he had a bad attitude, which I later apologized for. In the midst of this my wife and I separated and he made himself both judge and jury over the matter. He called me "evil", he said he didn't think I was "really saved". In essence he set himself up as God and judged me very harshly. More importantly I asked for his forgiveness and he would not forgive me. I reminded him of what the Bible said about unforgiveness which only fueled his judgemental attitude further. In the end I felt he had put himself in a very dangerous position with God because The Word has said He would not forgive a person who refused to forgive his brother. In my final email I prayed that God would turn his flesh over to Satan that his sould might be saved. I think out of frustration I took that scripture out of context but I am truly concerned about this man's relationship with God and his judgemental attitude.

BTW, I am back with my wife but this man continues to spew out judgement upon me.

 

[MrJim]

Is there a pastor you guys can go to help resolve this?

 

[nChrist]

In my final email I prayed that God would turn his flesh over to Satan that his sould might be saved. I think out of frustration I took that scripture out of context but I am truly concerned about this man's relationship with God and his judgemental attitude.

If you're looking for agreement for your actions, I don't think you will find it. If you're asking for comments, I think you should take a stronger look at yourself and your own actions. If you're not asking for comments, I wouldn't understand why you would post this here. I would also suggest that you speak with your pastor if you can't resolve this. It would appear that the best outcome would be for you to drop this and deal with your own problems.

 

[ReformedChapin]

What started as simply a personality conflict with a brother who was painting our house turned into a matter of spiritual warfare. The conflict was simply over the fact that I wanted this "friend" to paint my house following the same guidlines as the professional who was going to paint it. He wanted to do it his way and skip some of the important preparation steps. I finally got frustrated and told him he had a bad attitude, which I later apologized for. In the midst of this my wife and I separated and he made himself both judge and jury over the matter. He called me "evil", he said he didn't think I was "really saved". In essence he set himself up as God and judged me very harshly. More importantly I asked for his forgiveness and he would not forgive me. I reminded him of what the Bible said about unforgiveness which only fueled his judgemental attitude further. In the end I felt he had put himself in a very dangerous position with God because The Word has said He would not forgive a person who refused to forgive his brother. In my final email I prayed that God would turn his flesh over to Satan that his sould might be saved. I think out of frustration I took that scripture out of context but I am truly concerned about this man's relationship with God and his judgemental attitude.

BTW, I am back with my wife but this man continues to spew out judgement upon me.

Is this man part of your congragation? Or is it someone you just know from another church? If he is from your church the first step is to talk to an elder/pastor in your church.

Secondly, although I don't know all the facts about this issue. Some people just like to get in others face and use christianity to damn others. If the issue doesn't become resolved in a timely manner and he is not part of your church I suggest you just ignore this person.

 

[underheaven]

I think He said, 'take the plank out of your own eye first',did He not.?