Unequally yoked

[truezeta]

2 Corinthians 6:14

Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?



As Christians we know we are not to date anyone who has not accepted Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior. My question is how do you guys feel about being unequally yoked in other areas such as spiritual development. Should you or would you date a babe in Christ as a mature Christian? Would you or should you date a mature Christian if you are a babe? Both scenarios have pros and cons. I think a mature Christian can help nurture a babe in a relationship but has to be careful not to allow the babes immaturity to affect their walk in Christ. What do you all think about that?

 

[ChildOfGod20]

i think it's fine as long as ur both christians and both willing to know God better. but if ur a mature christian and ur SO is a new believer and ur SO seems to want to stay where they are at and doesn't care about knowing God better because they feel like "oh well i believe in God and i'm going to heaven so that's all that really matters" then i think u need to reevaluate that relationship bc a person like that is most likely not going to encourage u to know God better or help u to become a better Christian.

 

[melandshanetria]

2 Corinthians 6:14

Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?


As Christians we know we are not to date anyone who has not accepted Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior. My question is how do you guys feel about being unequally yoked in other areas such as spiritual development. Should you or would you date a babe in Christ as a mature Christian? Would you or should you date a mature Christian if you are a babe? Both scenarios have pros and cons. I think a mature Christian can help nurture a babe in a relationship but has to be careful not to allow the babes immaturity to affect their walk in Christ. What do you all think about that?

Good question!!!!! We never know, the mature christian may strengthen the babe christian's walk along. If the babe in chirst get to the point where they are stuck in a rut and dont' want their walk to increase, then I will definitely evaluate this. Some babes in christ strugge with their walk, not saying that mature christians don't either, because WE ALL struggle with it at some point or time, but some babes are very confused at this stage because they are just starting out. I wouldn't say that dating a babe in christ is being incompatible, because God will increase their knowledge if they sincerely want to grow more in christ, it just all depends on the people that are involved in this predicament.

 

[white dove]

I wouldn't say that dating a babe in christ is being incompatible, because God will increase their knowledge if they sincerely want to grow more in christ...

I've never heard that before when asked such a question! You've opened my eyes some...


This question really presses on me, as I've actually seen cases where one person remains stagnant & the other thirsts for more wisdom throughout their walk (due to one reason or another, sometimes the level of maturity is not solely dependant upon a lazy attitude but perhaps something else). This can put some unnecessary strain in the relationship & doesn't aide in either one of the two to grow nor be challenged to grow much more in their walk. True, when we're single, we grow independantly of others; but evenso, within bible group or studies, within our christian peers, we are able to be challenged at times and be given spiritual encouragement. When involved as a couple, your growth continues as such (your relationship with God remains your own relationship with God), but wanting to learn more about the other person, your thoughts naturally turn to where they are in their walk, etc. And, desiring to grow together in different ways, spiritually-growing together makes sense.

I know this young lady who met her husband at church. During the course of their pre-marital counsel, they were administered some "tests" to see how equally-yoked they were. If one person was perhaps lagging in one area (and the other person in another), they were given issues to work on seperately; through doing such things, they would ideally be more able to grow together in Christ.

I guess I still align myself with those who feel as though it is crucial to be able to grow together in Christ. Yes, our relationship with God is very-much of an individual thing; however, when two marry, they become one. And, dating (as well as courting) paves the way for two to perhaps grow in a more intimate relationship.

 

[melandshanetria]

You may be the one to help him to grow more in Christ so to speak,or vise versa depending on which one is the babe here....I don't feel that it's being incompatible. There is nothing too impossible for our God and sometimes God put spritually mature and immature marriages, friendships, ect...together just so the babe may grow more and be encouraged to grow more as well by the individual that's on a mature level... I don't see why anyone would turn down a relationship or a friendship with a person because they are not on a spritually mature level as their spouse or their friend. We all have room for growth and improvement and the only way that we could do that is through God For instance, my mom got saved before my dad did. She used to go to church every Sunday and leave my dad at home watching football on t.v. He knew a little of the Bible, but didn't have full understanding of it, but after my mom would come from church, she would minister to him and read the Bible and explain the scriptures to him to increase his knowledge and understanding, and needless to say, now he's a pastor over a church, and have been for 15 years now. Be blessed.

 

[Hediru]

I am in that way unequally yoked with my bf. I accepted Christ at the age of 10, and I was there when he did - at the age of 22. It has been such a blessing for me, because my faith that was at that point half my age was beginning to feel stale. Watching my bf dive into the faith the way he did and watching how God transformed his life helped renew my own faith. He is a fast learner and I feel honored to help him take his first baby faith steps. 3 years later, we are much more equal, in fact if we are still unequal, I'm ashamed to admit that the scale might be tipping slightly in the opposite direction. But we help each other out. It truly is a blessing!

 

[truezeta]

I am in that way unequally yoked with my bf. I accepted Christ at the age of 10, and I was there when he did - at the age of 22. It has been such a blessing for me, because my faith that was at that point half my age was beginning to feel stale. Watching my bf dive into the faith the way he did and watching how God transformed his life helped renew my own faith. He is a fast learner and I feel honored to help him take his first baby faith steps. 3 years later, we are much more equal, in fact if we are still unequal, I'm ashamed to admit that the scale might be tipping slightly in the opposite direction. But we help each other out. It truly is a blessing!

Wow, that is awesome Hediru! I pray you guys continue to grow stronger in the Lord.

 

[Hediru]

Thanks.