Unequal Marriage

[lancers1990]

Even though we are both Christians, we are unequal in our Christian maturity. Any suggestions on how I can really encourage her to grow (not just saying you should read your Bible)?

She goes to church and even a Bible study group with me, but she never participates in the discussion. She just sits there.

 

[pete56]

Lancers

It sounds to me like you are judging your wife's faith against your own standards.

Remember faith is a personal journey of discovery and nothing you do (except pray) will change another persons faith (or lack of it), only the Holy Spirit has this ministry, all we can do is co-operate at best and keep out of the way at other times.

I know it is hard to not get involved with your wife's growth, but I would advise a hands off approach - yes discuss, in a loving and supportive way all matters of faith, but don't try to "help" her to grow, she will find her own way, trust God and trust her!

Bless you brother

Pete

 

[Maccie]

The leader of your group should be encouraging everyone to make a contribution.

And maybe your wife is not happy with you in that group. Could she be thinking you are sitting there ready to judge her? Or criticise her? I'd say lay off her, let her develop her own way. Who is to say she is less mature than you? Only God can judge that. Is there perhaps a woman's group she could go to? She might feel less pressured there.

 

[lancers1990]

She chose this group!

 

[KleinerApfel]

lancers,

can I ask why you feel your wife has a problem?
We are not all at the same stage in Christian maturity for any number of reasons - not all of them bad.

She may seem to be behind you, but she may have started from further back than you, or then again she may just be taking longer because some flowers take longer to bloom but are worth the wait. (Or you could have misjudged her?)

Have you asked her how she feels about things? What exactly do you feel she should be doing that isn't happening?

The suggestion of a womens' group is a good one. if she doesn't settle soon, maybe gently suggest it? Women need other women, (see Titus 2.)
But don't push if she really just needs to be with you.

God bless, Susana