Well.. Last week was a hell of a week. I don't mean that as in it was a really cool, but that it really was hell. I've known this gal for almost 5 years. We've been buds for the first three years of our knowing and this past year we've pursued deeper relationship. Her parents have seened this develop and watch us grow. They've watched us grow in God and supposedly they have seen that applied to our relationship.
However, last Sunday, it went down the tubes. I gave my girlfriend a hug in chuch and her dad got ticked beyond belief. It basically came out that I was never to see, speak, or be near his daughter again. He's also the assistant pastor, youth pastor, and my worship pastor so he said I was to never play on a worship team with her again. He then went on to say I don't listen to my own heart or listen to God.
Needless to say I got our senior pastor involved. I won't go into details but it basically came out that these past 15 months me and his daughter have been pursuing relationship he has burned with anger and supposedly their convictions are that we should not pursue deep relationship with eachother unless I know, she knows, and everyone in the family knows that she is "the one" I am to marry. If I don't know that then we are "giving our hearts away and it is unhealthy". Unhealthy was vaguely defined. Their example was that she sends me a "good morning" message every now and then to my phone. We are 18, I guess too.
I am not sure what my point is of this message. I am grieving right now and I am really angry. My heart is for this beautiful young lady. She's been my bud and friend for the past 5 years of my life. And because her parents were not bold enough to share their convictions a year ago, it came out in an ugly way. So now I have to cut my heart off from her out of respect for this craziness.
If anything has anything to share, great.. I'm just really grossed out right now. I am not sad about my investment into the relationship because I invested in a Godly girl who's got an amazing heart. God has blessed our relationship greatly. I am just sad it had to get ripped to pieces in this way.
Becareful of family folks...
However, last Sunday, it went down the tubes. I gave my girlfriend a hug in chuch and her dad got ticked beyond belief. It basically came out that I was never to see, speak, or be near his daughter again. He's also the assistant pastor, youth pastor, and my worship pastor so he said I was to never play on a worship team with her again. He then went on to say I don't listen to my own heart or listen to God.
Needless to say I got our senior pastor involved. I won't go into details but it basically came out that these past 15 months me and his daughter have been pursuing relationship he has burned with anger and supposedly their convictions are that we should not pursue deep relationship with eachother unless I know, she knows, and everyone in the family knows that she is "the one" I am to marry. If I don't know that then we are "giving our hearts away and it is unhealthy". Unhealthy was vaguely defined. Their example was that she sends me a "good morning" message every now and then to my phone. We are 18, I guess too.
I am not sure what my point is of this message. I am grieving right now and I am really angry. My heart is for this beautiful young lady. She's been my bud and friend for the past 5 years of my life. And because her parents were not bold enough to share their convictions a year ago, it came out in an ugly way. So now I have to cut my heart off from her out of respect for this craziness.
If anything has anything to share, great.. I'm just really grossed out right now. I am not sad about my investment into the relationship because I invested in a Godly girl who's got an amazing heart. God has blessed our relationship greatly. I am just sad it had to get ripped to pieces in this way.
Becareful of family folks...