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Ugh!!! So confused, help please!

DannyD

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Ok, there is still girl I like...a lot. There are so many things about her that I just love. And before anybody says that I'm probably lusting, I'm 100 percent sure I'm not. Things are different from this girl from the others that I had a crush on in the past. I figured that in the past, all of my crushes have been focused on looks/lusting and all that good stuff, but with this girl everything is focused on the inside. I could go into everything about why I like her and all of that good stuff, but I don't want to write a novel-length post!


Anyways, unfortunately for me, feelings are one-sided. A friend of mine (and hers) were talking to each other and this other friend said that she said something like that she finally gets a guy to like her who is perfect and that it stinks because she doesn't like me back. She said she doesn't know why but for some reason she just doesn't think of me in that way. She then said something like she's not going to worry about it because if it's meant to be, she'll start liking me. - but I'm not sure if I'm suppose to know that stuff or not! ;)

I have placed my trust fully in God that He will lead me to "the one," whoever she may be...and I'm not trying to rush His plans or anything, but I truly believe that this girl is the one. My question is this... She knows I have a huge crush on her, and she "thinks it's sweet." Do I need to...maybe try to continue pursuing her? For clarification, I'm not going to make her uncomfortable or anything. But sometimes should I let my "crush side" get out when talking to her? I'm not sure if I'm making any sense here...hopefully somebody will understand what I'm saying. And again - I don't think I'm suppose to know that she doesn't like me...she's never told me anything about it in person...and I'm afraid to ask! ;)

I've known that stuff for a couple of weeks now, and I would think that my feelings for her would be diminished after hearing that stuff, but it's weird...because everytime I hang out with her, the feelings are only getting stronger and stronger. It's pathetic, I know, but I can't help it!

One more thing then I'm finished...Ugh! This is so confusing for me! Every night in my prayers, I pray for this girl. In addition, I have been kindly requesting to God recently that He takes away my feelings for this girl if they weren't meant to be. I don't know why, but like I've already said, my feelings are only getting stronger. It doesn't make sense, because I know she doesn't like me but the feelings are getting stronger and stronger and stronger....it's driving me crazy! I'm not sure what God is doing or if He's trying to teach me a lesson about something, but it sure is confusing me! I guess I'll just have to continue to trust in Him and eventually I'll figure out what's happening.

Any comments/questions/advice would be greatly appreciated...thanks in advance.

Dan