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I have lost two babies in the last 9 months. I would be close the delivery with the first one right now. I was due April 5th. Everytime I see a baby it is like someone stabbed me in the heart.

I have to wonder though if it was God's protection. I am not with the man I am supposed to be and I know it. We aren't married. The first time I got pregnant was an accident. The second time was intentional on my part.

I have prayed and asked God to forgive me for this, but the pain is still there.
 

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LALaurie said:
I have lost two babies in the last 9 months. I would be close the delivery with the first one right now. I was due April 5th. Everytime I see a baby it is like someone stabbed me in the heart.

I have to wonder though if it was God's protection. I am not with the man I am supposed to be and I know it. We aren't married. The first time I got pregnant was an accident. The second time was intentional on my part.

I have prayed and asked God to forgive me for this, but the pain is still there.
Same here. God knows what he does and its for a reason although to be honest I can't see why.
 
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LALaurie said:
I have lost two babies in the last 9 months. I would be close the delivery with the first one right now. I was due April 5th. Everytime I see a baby it is like someone stabbed me in the heart.

I have to wonder though if it was God's protection. I am not with the man I am supposed to be and I know it. We aren't married. The first time I got pregnant was an accident. The second time was intentional on my part.

I have prayed and asked God to forgive me for this, but the pain is still there.

God forgives us for anything when we seek that forgiveness as you have.

That does not make the pain go away. Remember we don't always have an emotional reaction that "tells us" we are forgiven. We need to use our faith that we are forgiven.

Seek out some spirtual counseling in real life and support from a local church. We need to stay in fellowship with other Christians in real life in order to grow. That is why St. Paul tells us to not give up the assembly!
 
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CordieLaLa said:
Same here. God knows what he does and its for a reason although to be honest I can't see why.
God forgive me. I said I couldn't see why He took my babies from me when in fact, I very clearly can.

The man I was with was not a good man at all. He was a selfish, mean and twisted liar (may God forgive him). The only thing he didn't do was hit me. One miscarriage could be considered as bad luck. But two is God speaking to me quite clearly.

I know what you mean when you say it feels like being stabbed in the heart. A work collegue was due the same time I was and she starts her maternity leave next week. It's crazy. I feel like I'm living my pregnancy thru hers.

God has forgiven you. In fact, He loves you. You know why? Because he spared you from being permanently tied to a man that isn't right for you. He's given you the chance to start again on a clean slate. Meet a good man, get married then His blessings of children will come!
 
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aww hunnie iam soo sorry for your losses.. i know how hard it can be.. and i know April 5th will be hard my due date was Oct 29th her fathers bday and its hard on that day mind u i dont think it bothers the father too much since were no longer together but it gets to me... if u EVER need anything or just want to chat im here to talk
much love
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LALaurie said:
I have lost two babies in the last 9 months. I would be close the delivery with the first one right now. I was due April 5th. Everytime I see a baby it is like someone stabbed me in the heart.

I have to wonder though if it was God's protection. I am not with the man I am supposed to be and I know it. We aren't married. The first time I got pregnant was an accident. The second time was intentional on my part.

I have prayed and asked God to forgive me for this, but the pain is still there.
I just recovered from a miscarriage a week after my one year anniversary with my husband. It actually happened the day after my pregnancy was confirmed, after months of speculation. Trust me, Its God's protection. It sould be that he wants to protect you from the 'unwed motherhood... maybe your health would have been at risk, maybe the baby's... As Job 1 says, the Lord has given and the Lord has taken away... All praise be to the Lord. Intead of focusing on our losses, we must focus on what we have. You have life, you have your health, you have family... and.. most of all you have a destiny that only God has the power to fulfill... its not that the babies werent part of your destiny.. but rather they were. They are teaching you just what God went through when he lost his own son, Jesus, die. And it was a painful death, so I'm sure it was agonizing and painful to watch. But guess what, that death gave Him power. And just as Jesus' power canme through His death... so should your anointing come through your loss. Lean on Him and let him whisper in your ear sweet nothings and let Him kiss the pain. Let this experience teach you just how big and powerful and knowlegable God is over all.. and how compassionate He is that He would also suffer loss for the sake of the world. God bless you
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