For many it is difficult time in their life to turn 40.... How was it for you?? What did you do??
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Turning 40, how did you feel??
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For me was easier then turning 30. At 40 I think I finally grew up and realized what God had planned for my life..... was the first time i ever had bday party and actually enjoyed it....
What about you??
What about you??
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Turning 40 was a real mixture for me. My husband planned a surprise party for me where he had my closest friends show up just as I was getting off work at the restaurant I work at. He had planned the whole menu and us ladies ( about 12 of us) had the most fun evening and I found out that my motor head husband is still full of surprises and somewhat of a closet romantic
Turning 40 was depressing because those 40 years went so fast! I really got the sense that my life really is a vapor. I think too that it is pretty normal to take stock of where you are and who you've become. In ways it's empowering being 40 and having come through some of life's challenges wiser and more insightful and in ways it was disappointing - especially thinking about some of the things that I thought I would have accomplished by 40.
Turning 40 was depressing because those 40 years went so fast! I really got the sense that my life really is a vapor. I think too that it is pretty normal to take stock of where you are and who you've become. In ways it's empowering being 40 and having come through some of life's challenges wiser and more insightful and in ways it was disappointing - especially thinking about some of the things that I thought I would have accomplished by 40.
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This has been the greatest time of my life. I have grown spiritually and have (hopefully) grown wise. I thought it was much more "traumatic" turning 30. Saying bye to my 20's was tough.
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I'm so glad to see that others had a tougher time with 30 than 40. That's the way I was about it and I thought I was the only one who felt like that. I am more spiritually mature now and hopefully become more so all the time. I also try to stay young since I have two teenagers and co-lead a 4H group. My oldest is the new youth leader at our church and I'm his assistant.
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Turning 40 (or 30 for that matter) was no big deal for me. I'm waiting for one of the milestones to be an issue, perhaps 90, LOL.
I think what was hardest for me though was that no one remembered. My friends all got the big "Lordy, Lordy look who's 40" and I got nothing...nada...zip.
That was disappointing.
Chris
I think what was hardest for me though was that no one remembered. My friends all got the big "Lordy, Lordy look who's 40" and I got nothing...nada...zip.
That was disappointing.
Chris
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Forty's been hard, much harder than 30, which I didn't really feel was a big deal. I've always been a late bloomer, so at 30, I was just getting started with my career. Now I'm taking stock of everything that didn't happen that I expected to happen by now ...
But the good part has been celebrating with both my high school friends and college friends. There's nothing like having people EXACTLY your same age to commiserate with.
But the good part has been celebrating with both my high school friends and college friends. There's nothing like having people EXACTLY your same age to commiserate with.
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To be honest I'd rather forget my 40th birthday. I had a party but it was spoilt by the fact that I was so disappointed that my husband did absolutely nothing for it.
His 40th was so important to him so I organised an interstate trip because he wanted to be with his family for such an important milestone, two parties, a special day out on the day and a present I knew he would love.
For mine he did nothing. I had to organise it all and even though I told him exactly what I wanted for a present (because he wanted to know what to get me) he didn't even do that. On the actual day there was not even a card or a flower and because we were on a work trip some of his employees organised a dinner when they found out it was my birthday.
So turning the age of 40 wasn't a problem it was just how unloved and unimportant I felt from my husband.
Does that sound bitter? I'm really not, it is just a sad memory and I guess I know, now that he has done the 'trade me in for a younger model thing', that it really was evidence of where his heart was - and it wasn't with me.
Oh dear, sorry to be a wet blanket but thanks for listening...it is not something I normally talk about. I have always regretted organising my own party, would rather not have had one for the memory that it is.
Didn't realise until reading this question how much of a sad memory it still is for me.
Hope
His 40th was so important to him so I organised an interstate trip because he wanted to be with his family for such an important milestone, two parties, a special day out on the day and a present I knew he would love.
For mine he did nothing. I had to organise it all and even though I told him exactly what I wanted for a present (because he wanted to know what to get me) he didn't even do that. On the actual day there was not even a card or a flower and because we were on a work trip some of his employees organised a dinner when they found out it was my birthday.
So turning the age of 40 wasn't a problem it was just how unloved and unimportant I felt from my husband.
Does that sound bitter? I'm really not, it is just a sad memory and I guess I know, now that he has done the 'trade me in for a younger model thing', that it really was evidence of where his heart was - and it wasn't with me.
Oh dear, sorry to be a wet blanket but thanks for listening...it is not something I normally talk about. I have always regretted organising my own party, would rather not have had one for the memory that it is.
Didn't realise until reading this question how much of a sad memory it still is for me.
Hope
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I re read that post and thought what a horrible post but I'll leave it there because it is real.
On the other side of things, this is a great age to be. As others have already said there is a maturity that comes and brings freedom and life. Even in my current struggles the spiritual maturity and life that is being birthed in me is worth it all. I am starting to feel comfortable in my own skin and learning who God has really made me to be.
I am really looking forward to the next 40 years being continually transformed into the image of Jesus
Hope
On the other side of things, this is a great age to be. As others have already said there is a maturity that comes and brings freedom and life. Even in my current struggles the spiritual maturity and life that is being birthed in me is worth it all. I am starting to feel comfortable in my own skin and learning who God has really made me to be.
I am really looking forward to the next 40 years being continually transformed into the image of Jesus
Hope
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Hope....thank you for sharing!I don't know how "THE DAY" of turning 40 will actually be, but right now I'm looking forward to the next phase of my life....seeing my daughter grow & what her future holds, it's kinda exciting for me!
The most traumatic age for me was 25....isn't that weird?? I think it was the whole "QUARTER CENTURY" mark thing....
...that's what got me! lol
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Even though I am in my (almost) late 40's, with aches, pains and long with diabetes and multiple sclerosis; I am having a time of my life. I am still a "kid" in my heart and I am learning to enjoy life regardless of my circumstances.
Old is what you think is old. To me old is nothing but matured wise person with youthful heart and aging body.
By the way, I think as I am in the 40's, my wife and I are better lovers than when we were in the 20's with full energy.
in my heart and I am learning to enjoy life regardless of my circumstances. Old is what you think is old. To me old is nothing but matured wise person with youthful heart and aging body.
By the way, I think as I am in the 40's, my wife and I are better lovers than when we were in the 20's with full energy.
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Good for you Jim. Sometimes I think I'll never "grow up". We are like fine wine...only improve with age (or turn to vinegar? I didn't say that!)
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Ladyday95 said:
I agree with you. Turning 30 was a lot harder for me than turning 40. Don't know how 50 is going to feel but I have a couple years to get used to that idea
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biblebeliever said:My husband will hit 50 the year before me so I'll still be younger than he is.
My wife is 50 and I will be 47 in 3 months.
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I remember, like many of you ones, that turning 30 was much more of an
time for me than turning 40 was. 30 really felt like I'd stepped away from my 'youth'.....outwardly, anyway.....though not in my heart. I sometimes think.....well, I know that I'm still a kid at heart in many ways. Our kids teased me unmercifully as my 40th birthday approached and cracked jokes about 'how old you are, mum' but it really felt like just another day to me. Didn't have a party or anything......just a lovely day with my family. I was baptised in a river just after my 40th birthday and the years since then are the ones in which I really began to focus on God and my relationship with Him. Many blessings and opportunities to serve Him have come to me since I turned 40.
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this is silly of me but why do the numbers 50 scare me? turning 40 was weird,but ever since that I actually forget which 40 I am..oh 44..that's right almost 45..which is FIVE years from 50.I do this alot. I sit and think ok,20 years ago I was 24.That doesn't seem that long ago si it's going to go fast.add another 20 and I'm 64 my life here is almost at the end..on to the place where age won't matter but hey,I'm not done here yet. I wish to turn back to 40.it goes fast!
my life here is almost at the end..on to the place where age won't matter but hey,I'm not done here yet. I wish to turn back to 40.it goes fast!
biblebeliever said:My husband will hit 50 the year before me so I'll still be younger than he is.
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Ritz said:this is silly of me but why do the numbers 50 scare me? turning 40 was weird,but ever since that I actually forget which 40 I am..oh 44..that's right almost 45..which is FIVE years from 50.I do this alot. I sit and think ok,20 years ago I was 24.That doesn't seem that long ago si it's going to go fast.add another 20 and I'm 64
It does go fast. Sometimes I sit & think about the "doubling" thing...you know, when you were 20, 30, even 35 you could conceivably think about still enjoying life when you doubled your age...getting into the 40s & up, though...that idea gets harder & harder....I mean, I hope & pray that I'm healthy enough to still enjoy life & all that at age 80, but....
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