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I have been at my job for 8 years. I don’t love it, but I like working there and it’s a nice environment. Anyway, I do not have a degree in the field I am in, but over the years I have learned what I need to do to get the job done. I have also learned something of the field through experience with it, and I did take a class. Anyway, I have a new boss. My old boss was very detail oriented, and I am not, so he would note things I did wrong and return them to me. It didn’t happen that often, but for the most part, I felt as if I was doing a good job. In comes the new boss…suddenly, nearly everything is being returned to me. Some of it is because he is new, and doesn’t know about the procedures, and those times he is “wrong” if you want to put it that way. Everything has post it notes all over it, with phrases like “What is this supposed to mean?” or “Why are we doing this?” I feel like he’s accusing me of being stupid. I am maintaining a 4.0 in my law classes, so I know that I am not. Like I gave him a report, and there was an extra sheet of paper in there that was unrelated, and he came to me and asked why I did that. I said it must’ve printed out among the other pages and to disregard it. It had nothing to do with the report, and was obviously an error. He also has been taking little things away from me, and doing them himself when they are my job to do. That irritates me. And yesterday, he asked me a question about a deadline, and when I answered him, he acted like he didn’t believe me, which upset me. Then this morning, I overheard him asking my former boss whether what I had said yesterday was true! He doesn’t believe me, and thinks I am stupid!!! It’s to the point where I want to call in sick everyday, I can’t sit still at my desk, and I hate the person. I don’t even want to do any work, and I sure don’t want to talk to him. This is not good.
 

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dont be discouraged. you need to be patient with your new boss... the bible tells us to be good to everyone. he may just be learning the job and want to know what everything is about. you are going to have to try to get thru this. it may be hard at first but if after a while he continues to do this.. go to him and talk to him alone. and tell him how you feel. you may be over reacting here. sometimes when a new boss comes in ..they want to change things..because the way things were done before was not working, and the ones that hired him know this.. so he is going over everything to make sure it is done right. is he doing anyone else like this? is it only you he is doing like this? is it possible that you need a degree in this field to do the job correctly? i know that if you have to have a degree and dont, and the others do... they are going to feel like you dont deserve it maybe? that they have worked hard to get where they are? i dont know... but i am trying to help you .. just learn what he wants you to learn..getting a new boss ..will be different... he will either be strictor or not... and it seems like you got a strictor one. if you dont want to quit ..then you have to put up with him. try to be good to him. maybe you are just taking him the wrong way... you should never hate no one..it seems to me ..that he is getting to you very bad.. just dont worry about him...if he sends things back to you.. then do it the way he requires it to be done.. that way you will show him you can do it... and then you will have to learn his ways of wanting things done... and you will better please him.. dont get discourage..its like starting all over again..because a new boss can come in and turn things upside down... and then all of a sudden everything starts to look better and the company works better..gl and i will be in prayer for you
 
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I think you are over reacting. I hear this guy, based upon what you said, asking for information about how the company does things, about how you do things. No two companies or offices, even in the same area, do things the same way. He's trying to learn how your office does things.

You hear him trying to set you up to point out your failures. I think your own feelings about not having a degree are causing you to be on guard the whole time and taking what he says out of context.

Chill! Give the guy the benifit of the doubt. Don't go on the defensive all the time. At risk is your job - not for incompetence, but for your attitude.
 
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yeah , chill ! just ask him if there is anything you can help him with! sounds to me like he is trying to learn a job too. also prayer is a weapon. Ask God to help you to understand this charator. HE WILL . Have confidence in yourself. IT will show.
 
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Don't get me wrong, I know he is not purposely setting me up to see my mistakes. I just seems as though he doesn't like the company or the procedures, and wants to change them. He acts disgusted when he doesn't agree with how we do things. A friend of mine overheard him talking about our new timecard procedure, and how dumb he thinks it is. Like he'll even swear about stuff. It's like, just accept it man. Especially for a new person to come in and act like that is kind of weird. I tend to not step on toes when I am new, ya know?

I also realize that he is new, and asks a lot of questions. That's fine, but I don't like when he asks me, and then asks my former boss the same thing, as though he does not think I know the answer, and I have been there longer than either of them. I don't care if I don't have a degree in the field; I don't want one, and am going to school for something else. This job is not my life's career.

I guess it was just hearing him side-step me first thing in the morning that hit me the wrong way. I try not to get annoyed with him, but I'm not always successful.
 
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I have done some consulting in ny day... one of the things I always do is ask many different people the exact same question.

Unless your nes boss has said someting to you about your lack of a degree, I think you are way too sensitive on that matter and reacting to a slight that simply isn't there.

He's a new person and he's being very critical. But his is a new boss, and that makes a big difference. The company may have brough him in expressly becasue he will view things differently.

I personally would not be offering my opinion right and left about what ideas I think are "dumb" or not, by try not to be too offended.
 
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i think its fine for him to ask everyone how something should be done.. when a new guy comes in.. they are going to be alot of change.. its most likely the one over his head..is the one that wants change..to bring things up to date. for a company to be a success they will bring new people in ..to get things running in order...most nice boss'es can be to lenient. its time for change in your buisness.. they are bringing him in to change it.. he most likey has alot of experiance with how it should be ran. im sure they will be lots of changes, and the company most likely needs it.. i would suggest you go with the flow and help him. pray for him also.. that he will do what is right. sounds like to me..that hes stirring things up and in a good way.. hes learing how it was ran before ..and he wants to run it better.. and that cant be wrong. and you may friend need to calm down..when you say that you hate him..i would worry about that more than him... no man can pluck you out of Gods eye... and to hate someone over a job.. you might need to see whats up with your spirtual life.. i will pray for you .. because a job should not be over your life or family!
 
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Give it some time and maybe things will get better. If they don't, you always have the option of finding a different job. Sometimes new bosses want to change everything for a variety of reasons - some good and some not so good. And the employees just have to live with it. If they can't, they quit. That's just how things work.
 
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I really don’t think my main point is coming across, but that’s ok. I do not care about the degree. That is not it. I’m sure everything will be fine. Besides, when I am done with school, I will be on to a better place, so if I can just hang in there for a bit, I’ll live with it.

All I wanted was a bit of encouragement from folks, really. I'm not a jerk, and I actually have a good attitude about most things, according to people I know and what is in my heart. I do not go around bad-mouthing the bosses I've had, and quitting jobs left and right. I think I have a hard time putting what is in my head into a post, and people are not understanding me correctly.

Onward and upward!
 
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I was trying to give you a message here too, freedom for all. I did say to try to understand this new boss when I said, maybe he is trying to learn something . who knows what he/she is about. I can tell you really want to hang in there with that job right now. SO Do It! I know it isn't easy, but you can hang in there and learn something maybe yourself. And most important, to Pray. God dose give if you ASK. I am sorry I don't mean to come across like I am preaching. Its my way of things after raising 6 kids. God Bless Grace-2
 
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