***Trigger***cutting (Moved from Christian Advice)

[lovernotafighter]

My friend just admitted to me that she has starting cutting. I'm really worried and totally freaking out right now

I know I have to do SOMETHING, but I have no idea what I can do.

Please help

 

[SoldierOfSoul]

I think the first thing to do would be to tell her parents. She needs help bro.

 

[forGod1]

My friend just admitted to me that she has starting cutting. I'm really worried and totally freaking out right now

I know I have to do SOMETHING, but I have no idea what I can do.

Please help

You mean cutting herself? Well, like the first response said, tell her parents.

 

[BabySteps]

uh yeah you might want to let the people closest to her know, cause that can turn into a serious addiction. i'm serious, it's very bad.

 

[lovernotafighter]

I think the first thing to do would be to tell her parents. She needs help bro.

I'm not sure I would be able to contact her mom

 

[SoldierOfSoul]

I'm not sure I would be able to contact her mom

Well whatever you have to do, tell whoever is her guardian.

I knew one girl like that, she was really messed up, she had cuts up and down her legs, its bad man, it needs to be stopped now.

 

[lovernotafighter]

Well whatever you have to do, tell whoever is her guardian.

I knew one girl like that, she was really messed up, she had cuts up and down her legs, its bad man, it needs to be stopped now.

Her mom is her guardian, I'm just not sure how I would contact her, because she works during the day and after school my friend will be home, and would probably answer the phone, and probably hang up if I asked for her mom...

 

[Maremma]

Go to the school councilor. She has all the contact information and can call her at work or home.
I also think it is wise that the school councilor also be involved in the event the mother does not seek immediate help on her own gumption. Quite sadly a lot of times (no always and never prejudge) children begin cutting because there are problems at home.

 

[SoldierOfSoul]

Her mom is her guardian, I'm just not sure how I would contact her, because she works during the day and after school my friend will be home, and would probably answer the phone, and probably hang up if I asked for her mom...

Well bro, whenever you get a chance let her know about it as soon as possible. Or you could tell your parents and have them tell her mom.

 

[JCFantasy23]

I wouldn't tell her parents unless you know the situation with them first. That can end pretty badly. I would try talking to her first and seeing if you can help her, if not get outside help, but parents aren't always the first ones to go to.

 

[wayfaring man]

Yea, It depends on the kind of parents and their current state of relating.

Firstly, pray. Then when sensing the time is right. Speak one on one with your friend from the heart. Tell her how much you care, and are hurting over this...then if she is receptive to your appeal, pray with her for The Lord to work healing and deliverance in her life for His Holy Name's Sake.

May The Lord Be Pleased to Bless !

wm

 

[precious_in_his_sight]

I use to be a cutter when i was 13 and what convinced me to stop was when I saw how much it hurt my friends and worried them. I realized when I cut I wasnt just hurting myself I was hurting everyone who loved and cared about me. Do you know WHY she is cutting? Cutting is a) a way of taking away from emotional pain by inflicting physical pain and b) a cry for help when people wont listen to what you are saying and other cries for help you feel the need to start DOING things to express ur need for help and the seriousness of ur distress

 

[lovernotafighter]

I use to be a cutter when i was 13 and what convinced me to stop was when I saw how much it hurt my friends and worried them. I realized when I cut I wasnt just hurting myself I was hurting everyone who loved and cared about me. Do you know WHY she is cutting? Cutting is a) a way of taking away from emotional pain by inflicting physical pain and b) a cry for help when people wont listen to what you are saying and other cries for help you feel the need to start DOING things to express ur need for help and the seriousness of ur distress

Her boyfriend was cheating on her, then they broke up. It's been pretty rough for her.

 

[ChristianEMT]

You are being a great friend, and are taking action by getting advice from the Christian community. If she has developed enough trust to talk to you about it, she may be able to talk to you about whatever is triggering her to self harm. The most important thing is to remove her from whatever is triggering her if that's possible. Something has her bound that she feels like she has to cope with cutting. Talk to your pastor, or someone that you trust. Telling her parent to fast may make her lose trust in you, People don't cut their self to die, but to cope. She needs to talk about what is bothering her and you need her trust so you can help her. Theres another forum in recovery about self injury under mental health, if you'd like to take a look at it. I'm praying for you both!

 

[znr]

There is a forum here for self injury. You might want to read a little and see how others cope and deal with this.

Self-Injury Support - Christian Forums