Transfer vs. Boyfriend

[clbeale]

Hello. I really need your prayers and opinions about a pressing matter that I have been struggling with. I have been dating the GREATEST christian guy for a year and a half, and we have recently decided that we want to transfer to the University of Georgia because the college we go to now is soo boring. As we wait for our acceptance letters, I am faced with the scenario that theres a good chance that only one of us will get in.

Pros of transfering: I already have an apartment up there, they have an incredible program for christian students, its a better quality education.

Cons of transfering: While the college is boring, I do love it here, and it is close to my family. I make great grades here.

Also there's another factor... my Boyfriend's last relationship was strictly long distance, so he is strongly against going through that again. He is seriously the most amazing, most compatible, (and not to mention most beautiful) and respectful person i have ever met. He is my very best friend, and i REALLy do not want to lose him. I can't imagine a better partner for life. But how do you balance that factor with the whole "don't base your college decision on a boyfriend?"

I have the option to go to a community college on the UGA campus for a semester then transfer into UGA if he gets accepted and i don't. I am a deans list student... will it look bad on my record if I go to a less prestigious, non-university college?

I know this is long. But i am so heart broken about this, and we are expecting our decision letters any time now. Any advice or prayers would be appreciated beyond words. Thank you.

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

It sounds that you are just dealing with the "what if's" right now, am I right?

If that is the case I would say stop and cross that bridge when you come to it.

 

[PassionateOne]

's for you on your decision.

I, also, just want to add, even though you love your bf. If you are meant for each other, then LDR shouldn't be a big deal, there are ways to make it work.

My advice, is for you to do what's best for YOU. If you get accepted to this other college and it's a good opportunity for you and you don't go because of your bf, then you will, probably regret it and if you ever get in a fight with the bf you will always 'hold it over his head' and that, right there will put alot of pressure on him and your RL. So think very carefully about everything.

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

Nevermind

 

[Bunnymedic]

It sounds that you are just dealing with the "what if's" right now, am I right?

If that is the case I would say stop and cross that bridge when you come to it.

I agree,try not to worry about it right now.
If you are on the Deen's list and doing well,you both will most likely get in anyway.

On side note,if he really loves you and believes you are so wonderful (as you do about him) then being long distance shouldnt destroy your relationship.

 

[Tenorvoice]

I agree,try not to worry about it right now.
If you are on the Deen's list and doing well,you both will most likely get in anyway.

On side note,if he really loves you and believes you are so wonderful (as you do about him) then being long distance shouldnt destroy your relationship.

Well said.

I know that for me, I would absolutly love it if my SO would transfer down here next school year to teach in a Christian primary school, since she may be loosing the job she has now (long story, I believe its in my BLOG).

I struggle w/ my flesh wanting her here, and my Spiritual leadership that I should be putting into practice even now to tell her to find where G-d leads her to go, and it will not matter to me. Because I know that G-d has planned for us to be together, and we will be when the time is right in His plans.


Even the right thing at the wrong time is still the wrong thing.

 

[overit]

Personally, I would go to college. You are young, if it's meant to be, it's meant to be, you have years and DECADES to be married and be with the one, very few to be on your own and go to school.

On the LDR thing though, you guys may or may not make it that's true. For some it's easy for some it's not. I had one, but it was VERY hard for me to handle in the end and I would never do it again. So with that being said I don't think it's fair to say if he loves you he'll make it work even LD becuase if he's been through it and said he never wants to again there is a reason and doesn't make him feel for you any less, he just doesn't like that situation. Lot of us find we don't.

Go for the school you want, again, if you guys are meant to be it will happen, either LD or you'll find eachother again. I agree you should NOT base your school decision on a BF.

 

[MrsSeptemberPenguin]

It seems you're dealing with a lot of "what ifs", and I think you should just cross that bridge when you come to it instead of worrying about it. Pray about it, and trust God to work it out for you and your bf if that is His desire for you.

 

[clbeale]

thank you so much for your responses! i agree completely with you. i am not going to let myself fret over it now, and when the decision letter comes, I will accept it for what it is, no matter what it says. God is the one who has placed me in this unbelievable time in my life right now, and I trust that he will continue doing so. sometimes it just gets hard, you know? the flesh and my own desires make me upset or anxious. But i'm learning to give those worries to God. So Thank you again for taking the time to read my thread and responding, it really means a lot! God Bless you all!