So my ex (1 year ago today) has decided since our divorce he is going to sow his wild oats & have multiple partners...none of which are serious relationships. He brags about trips to the city for "hooking up" and has had women in & out of his home while the girls are there for visitation.
Two of these women have now contacted our children to ask why their Dad just dropped out of their lives. His pattern is to have a girlfriend he introduces to the kids & has stay with he & the kids on the weekends he has visitation. She sleeps with him, etc. Then all of the sudden after 2 to 3 times of the girls spending a weekend w/he & this...um lady...he will tell the kids she is just a friend...never was a girlfriend & then they disappear to be replaced with a new one.
I finally told him that our kids would no longer stay at his home if his "friends" are there. So this weekend he listened & as far as I know so far there is no lady friends staying.
The thing is I have no legal recourse. As long as the girls are not in physical danger he has every right to bring a woman in each night! The judge would admonish him to be a more responsible parent but legally the judge would have no way of holding back visitation.
If I were to keep our youngest from him because of this it could backfire on me. Not that my ex will ever take me to court...that would require spending money & time on something that just isn't that important to him.
But here's the deal...our kiddos love him. They want to spend time with him. They NEED time with their Dad. They NEED him to be a stable father to them. The very last thing I want is for them to break from him & not have a relationship but it's moving in that direction because of his actions.
In my state at the age of 12 the kids can decide where they want to be. If they don't want to see him they don't have to. My 13 y/o often times does not go on visitations because she can't stomach the different women cycling through. My 16 y/o goes but is usually off w/friends instead of spending time with her Dad. The 19 y/o sees him a few hours each visit she comes home from college...that's about it. And the 20 y/o doesn't have a relationship with him at all.
It stinks. Completely.
They need a strong male role model that will show them unconditional love on this side of heaven...a father's kind of love. Praying that someone steps into that role & fills the gap for them.
I truly wish God would push my ex to his knees before Him. But that's not how He operates. *sigh*
Just sort of a vent. If you're moved in that direction prayers would be greatly appreciated.
Two of these women have now contacted our children to ask why their Dad just dropped out of their lives. His pattern is to have a girlfriend he introduces to the kids & has stay with he & the kids on the weekends he has visitation. She sleeps with him, etc. Then all of the sudden after 2 to 3 times of the girls spending a weekend w/he & this...um lady...he will tell the kids she is just a friend...never was a girlfriend & then they disappear to be replaced with a new one.
I finally told him that our kids would no longer stay at his home if his "friends" are there. So this weekend he listened & as far as I know so far there is no lady friends staying.
The thing is I have no legal recourse. As long as the girls are not in physical danger he has every right to bring a woman in each night! The judge would admonish him to be a more responsible parent but legally the judge would have no way of holding back visitation.
If I were to keep our youngest from him because of this it could backfire on me. Not that my ex will ever take me to court...that would require spending money & time on something that just isn't that important to him.
But here's the deal...our kiddos love him. They want to spend time with him. They NEED time with their Dad. They NEED him to be a stable father to them. The very last thing I want is for them to break from him & not have a relationship but it's moving in that direction because of his actions.
In my state at the age of 12 the kids can decide where they want to be. If they don't want to see him they don't have to. My 13 y/o often times does not go on visitations because she can't stomach the different women cycling through. My 16 y/o goes but is usually off w/friends instead of spending time with her Dad. The 19 y/o sees him a few hours each visit she comes home from college...that's about it. And the 20 y/o doesn't have a relationship with him at all.
It stinks. Completely.
They need a strong male role model that will show them unconditional love on this side of heaven...a father's kind of love. Praying that someone steps into that role & fills the gap for them.
I truly wish God would push my ex to his knees before Him. But that's not how He operates. *sigh*
Just sort of a vent. If you're moved in that direction prayers would be greatly appreciated.
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