Too many mothers

[Etharia]

I have been to the local high school 7 times lately and everytime i do, several girls come in and all of them with a child in tow. One girl, whom my heart goes out to, is just recently 16 and has a young infant. She came into the school to register but couldn't becasue she needed some signatures from her mother. She said she hadn't seen her mothe in over a week but would try to get a hold of her. What kind of world do we live in where the 16 yr. old daughter has to be the responsible one? And why do so many young and beautiful girls feel the need to have sex before they can even drive? It just saddens me to see all of the hurting teenagers at the school. And you can tell they are alone just from their faces. Ok, I've completely forgotten what the point of this topic was....

 

[LifeInYou]

What kind of world do we live in where the 16 yr. old daughter has to be the responsible one? And why do so many young and beautiful girls feel the need to have sex before they can even drive? It just saddens me to see all of the hurting teenagers at the school. And you can tell they are alone just from their faces. Ok, I've completely forgotten what the point of this topic was....

This is VERY sad. I've had to be the mom to my mom since the age of thirteen. (Just the other week I had to go buy her a little food and some supplies she needed because she is back in a hospital and she really has nobody else to take care of her) She has a mental illness and all through jr. high and high school I had to make grown decisions for myself. I relate better to those older than me now because of this. But of course, I've come across many whose stories are MUCH worse than mine. Thankfully however, I've never felt dependent on others or the need to give myself to any guy in that way.

Here's my solution to helping women stay pure:

1. Take the Bible seriously
2. Bible= "A woman who fears the Lord shall be praised."
3. Fear=Respect=Love
4. Love Him=Love His commands
5. Command: I Timothy 4:12 "Don't let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith, and in PURITY."

The only obstacle we now have is to get them to take the Bible seriously.....*sigh*....Lord help us!

 

[Multi-Elis]

I've come across many whose stories are MUCH worse than mine. Thankfully however, I've never felt dependent on others or the need to give myself to any guy in that way.
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I was a mother to my mother, but the story above is much worse than mine, I mothered my mother at age 19. But I still haven't learned to be independant. I don't relate to older people so well. I don't feel the need to give myself to any guy in that way thanks to my relationship with my father. But I always feel I wish I had stronger role model woman to look up to and call my own. It was hard to look at all these strong women of virtue in my church... while my mother was like an 8 year old in the mental ward...
But I don't complain. That is not my attitude. Rather I hope that I can overcome the problems with Christ, and thus become strong.

 

[LifeInYou]

But I always feel I wish I had stronger role model woman to look up to and call my own. It was hard to look at all these strong women of virtue in my church... while my mother was like an 8 year old in the mental ward...
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I feel this way too, but I resolved this issue in my mind by telling myself essentially that I am going to be THAT role model. My mom was an EXCELLENT mother before she had her breakdown-a woman of virtue, a mom who raised her children in the Truth, etc,etc. I look to that woman when I want someone to look up to, not the woman in her condition now. My mom attributes much of what has happened to her to environmental stress, and by not being wise when choosing a husband. (there are many more factors, I'm sure) So what can young women like you and I do? We need to learn from it, just as they need to learn from it. Otherwise there really is no point to it happening, IMO.

This whole situation has made me EXTREMELY strong, and has adequately equipped me to do what the Lord has asked me to do. Which is what it is all about, right? Praise Him in your times of joy, but also in times of sorrow and you will be blessed.

Multi-Elis PM ANYTIME if you'd like to talk or I'm on AOL IM all the time too. brighteyedgirl21




"...and I will praise You, oh my Reedemer.."