to avoid talking to someone

[PristineSkies]

Have you ever had the need to curb the desire of talking to someone... can be a female friend, male friend or just anyone. How do you deal with it if you want to talk to someone but you want to avoid it for any reasons? I am sure everyone comes across such situations...

 

[Sketcher]

Yes, on the basis that I cannot trust this person with whatever it is I want to talk about.

 

[PristineSkies]

Yes, on the basis that I cannot trust this person with whatever it is I want to talk about.

Yes but how would you curb the will to talk to him? How would you control yourself if you want to initiate a conversation but you should not 'cos you know it is not right

 

[K9_Trainer]

What twisted said^

How do I deal with it? Self control basically. I instead talk to a friend that I CAN trust, or an outside friend that doesn't even know the friend I can't talk to. Or I talk to my friends from forums on MSN or make a post about it.

Another thing that may help is a diary or journal. I'm an extrovert though, so I like to talk and it's how I deal with my emotions, journals don't do me any good. I just do the above and find somebody else to talk to.

Usually once I get it out to SOMEBODY, I'm good.

 

[Sketcher]

Yes but how would you curb the will to talk to him? How would you control yourself if you want to initiate a conversation but you should not 'cos you know it is not right

Easily, I can't trust the person. It takes more compulsion for me to talk to somebody than it does to avoid talking to somebody.

 

[PristineSkies]

What twisted said^

How do I deal with it? Self control basically. I instead talk to a friend that I CAN trust, or an outside friend that doesn't even know the friend I can't talk to. Or I talk to my friends from forums on MSN or make a post about it.

Another thing that may help is a diary or journal. I'm an extrovert though, so I like to talk and it's how I deal with my emotions, journals don't do me any good. I just do the above and find somebody else to talk to.

Usually once I get it out to SOMEBODY, I'm good.

Diaries don't work well in my case too though I am not much of an extrovert.

I am in a situation where I need to exercise some restraint and self-control 'cos I won't be able to concentrate on work or studies this way. Usually I am able to exercise restraint for days but then something or the other happens that I start communicating again.

 

[PristineSkies]

Easily, I can't trust the person. It takes more compulsion for me to talk to somebody than it does to avoid talking to somebody.

I am not sure about the trust part with him but I am very open to that friend and I get concerned also, but anything beyond friendship is not just in our case. This is the reason I avoid talking to him much cos I am not bold enough to face any kind of hurt.

 

[Lonely_Sailor]

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I am in a situation where I need to exercise some restraint and self-control 'cos I won't be able to concentrate on work or studies this way......

So you are worried that if you start talking to this guy you will become too involved with him and not be able to focus on what is important to you right now.

Don't be afraid to be social, just make sure you take care of the things that you need to focus on

 

[Blank123]

basically it just mean exercising self-control, and forcing yourself to focus on the right priorities in your life. if you know you're spending too much time talking with him for whatever reason, find something else to fill your time with: work, hobbies, other friends, take a class, etc...

 

[kevlite2020]

I live by the simple principal of not having anything in my life that I'm afraid to talk about with anyone. That doesn't mean I'm proud of everything I do because there are some aspects of my life that truly shame me, but that doesn't mean I want to hide those things. I'm comfortable with anything I could say about myself to any person, so I don't usually get in situations where I need to avoid talking to someone.

The only time I do avoid talking to someone is if they are really annoying, haha... But anyways, if you really need to avoid talking to someone, tell them. If you talk to that person, say you'd love to chat but you can't right now, you are too busy, and leave it at that. Ignoring someone is easier when you don't hide from them. Just make it clear you are unavailable at the moment.

 

[Stravinsk]

Have you ever had the need to curb the desire of talking to someone... can be a female friend, male friend or just anyone. How do you deal with it if you want to talk to someone but you want to avoid it for any reasons? I am sure everyone comes across such situations...

Choose confidants wisely.

I need to curb the desire to talk to certain people regularly(or about certain subjects), whether they be people I know fairly well or not, for various reasons. Sometimes it is difficult, but one must decide to follow through if they think the reason is good enough.

 

[white dove]

Lose. Their. Number.



Seriously. If the temptation is there, it usually will win - especially if this person has been a strong emotional support for you.


In addition to deleting their phone number from your address book in your phone (er, I mean phone book in your phone ), delete all those dialed calls, missed calls or incomings with their number. Tell them what you're doing though (by that, I mean you distancing yourself from them for the moment). I'm not sure of the specifics, so maybe this isn't that kind of situation. Other than that, if you feel tempted to call them, call someone else. By talking to another friend, it will help you see that sometimes you don't need to go to that other person.

Hope it works out for you!