Hi there! I'm currently dating a lovely special needs lady, as I am in some ways special needs myself. I find her to be likeable and attractive in every way except that she likes to ditch me for her family and other endeavors often, leaving me alone for 3-5 days at a time. We of course still text and maybe talk during these times apart, but I find it challenging to be away from her for so long and then reconnecting after.
So what I'm wondering is, am I just in need of more things to do while I'm away from her to make the times away from her easier on me, or should we be spending more time together, or perhaps a bit of both, a little more time together, while I spend time more time being busy with other things. I'm not sure what to do. I've often thought of telling her that during these times apart it gives me a lot of time to think about trying out dating someone else, so that maybe she will spend more time with me. My mom is the same way, where she is always busy and never much time for me, and I'm not sure I want to marry someone who is the same.
So what I'm wondering is, am I just in need of more things to do while I'm away from her to make the times away from her easier on me, or should we be spending more time together, or perhaps a bit of both, a little more time together, while I spend time more time being busy with other things. I'm not sure what to do. I've often thought of telling her that during these times apart it gives me a lot of time to think about trying out dating someone else, so that maybe she will spend more time with me. My mom is the same way, where she is always busy and never much time for me, and I'm not sure I want to marry someone who is the same.
