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Time to confess

Mindi.Heart

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My name is Mindi,

Growing up i was forced to face many forms of sexual abuse. I never talked about it nor told a soul but now i'm finding that it is causing problems in my relationships with my mother, my family, and my Boyfriend. So now i think i just need to come out with it all here tonight.

First there was Steven. My step fathers nephew. When i was about six or seven he would lock me in a closet and touch me, telling me it was a game. he did this every time he came over until i was old enough to know it was wrong and would refuse and run away.

Next Was Dennis. My stepfather. When I was ten he got into an accident causing major brain damage. When he came home form the hospital, i could tell he wasn't the same guy. everyday that summer my mother would go to work my brother and sister would go off to play, and dennis wouldn't let me go out to play with them, instead i had to stay home and clean the house and when i was done he would make me sit on his lap while he kissed me and touched me, then he would yell at me and tell me i was wrong for letting him do that, then he would hit me i would cry and hours later when my mother was on her way home he would apologize and sometimes give me money.... this went on for years until i was fourteen and refused to be in a room alone with him. i would beg my brother or sister to stay home with me or beg my mother to take me to work with her...

Last there was Levi. A boy i used to see on the bus everyday. I didn't really know him, but i saw him a lot. When i was Twelve i went to the movies with my friends Jason and Davey. They went to see Harry Potter but I didn't want to see it so i went into the theater next to theres to see some comedy. I was alone in the theater except for a group of five boys, one being Levi. No matter where i sat they made there way to where i was, i'd get up and move, and they followed me until i was trapped. I was surrounded by them, each one grabbing apart of me to hold down or cover as Levi continued to rape me. Lucky for me i forgot to turn off my phone, i hit jason on the speed dial he came into the Theater and quickly got me out of the theater and into his car, and back home.

That was it. Just needed it to be out there, thank you for listening......
 
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Mindi dear welcome to CF and recovery. As a man all I can do is apologize for the actions of others and assure you that you will be respected, loved, and prayed for here.

Moderators look over posts in this forum and if anything is even the slightest bit off we will jump on it quickly and delete or edit it to make sure you are comfortable and safe.

But I can also tell you you wont find any of that here. You will find new friends and family to love you and listen and share their stories with you also so together you can all be healed and made whole by Christ's love.

Again, welcome to Recovery. If you need anything, I, or other mods are always around.
 
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Mindi, I am so sorry you went through those experiences. They are things which should never happen to any child.
I know how very hard it is to give words to the pain... posting what you did was a very brave thing to do, and a huge step towards learning to deal with the past and move forward. You will find support and understanding here, sweetie, and talking to others who have been through similar things does help a lot.
I don't know whether you have ever talked about this in 'real life'... I know that starting by talking online helped me to get to the point where that was possible... I pray that it will do the same for you, and that eventually you will be able to find the support you need in your family and friends.

If you need to talk at anytime, sweetie, please PM me (you will need 15 posts first)
Praying for you, sweetie :hug:
 
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