Those little reminders

[Missinyou]

It's funny how many little things remind us of the ones we have lost. This morning, just like every morning, I made my 3-berry smoothie, but when I went to get a straw out of the cupboard, I purposely chose a purple one, simply because that was Patsy's favorite color. I even had a different color in my hand and then I saw the purple one...and I took that one instead. I have come to realize it's not the monumental things that remind us of them, it's those little things that just happen to show up...like a purple straw.

 

[JeanR]

It's been 10 months and I was thinking that I had hit all the firsts, but I started thinking about it and I know I haven't. I've experienced the holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, vacation spots, but there are a host of little things yet to be encountered.

I began to list them: a Phillies game, a Flyers game, family picnics upstate, favorite restaurants, Ben's family coming from Germany for the holidays, even updating family information on doctor's forms. I have to stop thinking about because the list just gets longer.

I avoided the Phillies this year and now the season is just about over. I know the kids are disappointed that we didn't go, but going will be tough. Our first date was to a Phillies game back in 1976. I really made my husband laugh when I asked him in the 7th inning, "what's the name of the other team?" And, there was a group of kids who smoked pot the whole game that sat right in front of us--made for an interesting evening! lol

We held hands for the first time that night and I was surprised that Terry didn't kiss me good night. He waited for our second date for that. lol

Ok, I didn't mean to go off onto memory lane--sorry guys.

I really miss him.

 

[pammie54]

Missingyou,
Yes it does seem to be those little reminders that touch our hearts so. Thanks for sharing the purple straw!

 

[Michee1209]

I'm hoping the reminders are fewer as time goes on. I'm at the stage where everything reminds me of Jacob. It's hard to even look at the world around me.

 

[Missinyou]

The reminders will become fewer and farther apart...but don't expect them to end anytime soon... It will be fifteen months tomorrow...and they still keep coming... I still have not been able to clean out her craft room. I walk in, take a look around, cry a little, and leave...and it's still there next time. I know this is not encouraging...but it does get easier, in spite of it all. You are young and life has it's way of helping us along in our times of sorrow. Lean on the Lord and He will give you all the help you ask for.

 

[Michee1209]

Yeah.. I have to deal with all the immediate stuff right now and I keep putting it off on my family because it's hard for me to talk "business" right now. I kind of feel bad about that..

I had to pick up his belongings and remains yesterday. It was pretty hard. I haven't even opened the bag yet.

 

[JeanR]

I closed the closet door the night Terry died. I did clean out his belongings in our room, but it took several months. I am moving in November and I know that that closet is waiting for me.

His suits will be hard. He wore a suit well! He was so good looking, but he didn't know it. I miss him with every inch of my being.