I find myself wishing I was dead all the time now. My husband has decided that he doesn't love me anymore and says that he probably never really did. I love him so much, It's not that I can't live without him, I don't WANT to. No one seems to understand. People say just pray and it will get better. I pray all day, nothing has changed. I am ready to completely give up.
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thinking about suicide too.
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NO, my love, do not give up. Stay strong...even if you are weak. God will make you strong when you are weakest. He does love you...he has not forsaken you. He is near to you whether or not you know it. Peace joy and love be yours der sister. I pray that your heart will stay the fight, that you might find joy in the midst of suffering. Please, PM me if you want to talk...I'm here for you. With all love, Lauren
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You need to talk to someone - preferably someone in person. A pastor, mature woman in your church, a professional counselor or therapist... someone! You are carrying a huge weight and it is going to crush you. But that does not need to happen and that is not inevitable! There is a lot of help oput there, but you will need to take the first step.
I know that often Christian friends don't know what else to say and so they say "Pray about it!" I don't doubt for one second the power of prayer or God's power, but often he uses other people to help us. If you have been turning to others for help and they just tell you to pray, you need to turn elsewhere! Try another church or a counseling center. Try the phone book. Pleae don't do anything, anything at all that can't be undone!
I know that often Christian friends don't know what else to say and so they say "Pray about it!" I don't doubt for one second the power of prayer or God's power, but often he uses other people to help us. If you have been turning to others for help and they just tell you to pray, you need to turn elsewhere! Try another church or a counseling center. Try the phone book. Pleae don't do anything, anything at all that can't be undone!
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medkaren7 said:
My goodness. I can't even begin to describe how heartbreaking this post is.
I've been suicidal, too. Including recently. If you wanna talk, I'm here for you.
Rosa
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you just need to stick in there. i know i don't know what you are going through, but i've gone through it in different ways. and i know that things only get worse before they get better. i've learned that ending my life would just be the easiest way out that i can think of. but what about all the people that do acare about me. my friends, family, and other people in my community, i may not see it now but there are people that care about me...and there are people that care about you. your husband is being foolish if he can't see what this is doing to you. i care and i am here anytime.
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I know that my dad and my kids care about me, but somehow, right now that is not enough. My marriage and my husband mean the world to me. I promised to love him forever, and he promised the same. I don't understand how he could just stop and decide that he loves someone else, even when she says she won't leave her husband for him. I am so confused! He says he is not sure he wants a divorce, but he won't come home, he doesn't love the other woman anymore, but he is not in love with me either and it is my fault. I don't know what or who to believe. I just know I have reached my limit and can't take anymore. without him, not much matters. I know I probably sound stupid, but I don't care, I just love my husband.
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I have an appointment with a christian counselor tomorrow (9-28-04), but I don't think it is worth going. I can't be honest with him about what I am thinking because of what I do for a living. If it gets back to them, I am suspended or fired. I know I need to talk to someone, but what good will it do if I have to lie? I just want it to stop I don't even know why I am writing this.
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medkaren7 said:
I don't think you're necessarily stupid for loving your husband, or that you're to blame for him no longer loving you. It's damn near impossible to just stop loving someone. However, you've recognized that something is very wrong w/ this whole situation, and you need to keep that in mind if healing is something you wish to achieve (which I'm sure you probably know, so there is no need for me to say it).
Is it necessary to see this particular counsellor? Is there any way you could see a different one- one you could be completely honest w/? You're right; lying won't help the situation. That is why you may want to see a professional who won't divulge the details to your place of work.
Stay strong, babe. I'm praying for you, and always willing to listen if you need some support.
Rosa
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You said you have been praying and nothing is changing but let me tell you sis remember when Lazarus was sick? Mary and Martha called for Jesus. He didnt come. A couple days later here comes Jesus strollin down the road but you know what he did when he got there he said "Show me were you took him" if you will show Jesus were along the way your heart was broke or where your husband left you or what it was that caused this depression he will reach down from heaven and say with a loud triumphant voice "COME FORTH!" He will be there for you dont you give up. Dont you dare give up in the middle of your miracle. There is revival coming in your life and in your home...dont give up now. Your going to make it sis nd your going to make victoriously cause Sundays on its way!!!
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Oh my hunny, im really sorry about all this. I bellieve you have every right to be happy. Keep on praying, stick with things, everything will start to look better. You have your children, and the rest of your family there for you. And the lord is with you 100% of the time, he will listen and help guide you through all of your troubles.
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Well, 2 hours before I was supposed to leave to go to the counselor, My husband drove up and said he finally made up his mind and he was definitley going to file for divorce. He is trying to figure out if he wants the house now, and he will let me know tomorrow. I don't know what else to do except keep praying that he will come home. I almost wish I didn't love him so much, but my daughter does too, and now we have to tell her. I really would like to go hide in a closet for about a year.
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