Things We Maybe Shouldn't be Saying

[mkgal1]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yr-Lvbj1Wk8

 

[akmom]

Hmmm... do you have a bulleted list for those of us with slow Internet that can't handle videos?

 

[Shane R]

1. God's not giving you more than you can handle.
2. Everything happens for a reason.
3. Will all the visitor's please stand?
4. I covet your prayers.
5. You must be blessed with the gift of singleness.
6. I need to love on some kids.
7. I'll pray about it.
8. Jesus is my co-pilot.
9. God helps those who help themselves.
10. You just need to forgive yourself.

 

[akmom]

I guess I'd have to watch the video to know *why* we shouldn't be saying those things. I do tire of the first one though. Where in the Bible does it say that God never gives us more than we can handle? 1 Corinthians 10:13 is talking about temptation.

 

[mkgal1]

1. God's not giving you more than you can handle.
2. Everything happens for a reason.
3. Will all the visitor's please stand?
4. I covet your prayers.
5. You must be blessed with the gift of singleness.
6. I need to love on some kids.
7. I'll pray about it.
8. Jesus is my co-pilot.
9. God helps those who help themselves.
10. You just need to forgive yourself.

Thanks for listing those, Shane.

I can fill in the short reasons Jeff gave, but I didn't jot down everything.

1. God's not giving you more than you can handle.

Reason: That's not true. God allows things [not necessarily "gives them"] that are more than we can handle so we lean on Him more...so we need to rely on His grace, His strength, His wisdom.

2. Everything happens for a reason.

Reason: Sometimes things happen that are senseless. Sometimes evil shreds things apart. That's why we have grace & the beauty of Jesus, who is victorious over that evil. Be careful when you say this phrase, because sometimes it's the LAST thing someone wants to hear. We need to learn the ministry of presence. When things go wrong, we need to learn to sit in someone's grief with them. Just to be present. To be a person of love next to them saying, "I'm here for you....I love you....we're in the trenches together".

3. Will all the visitor's please stand?

Reason: It's just awkward. Let relationships just happen.

4. I covet your prayers.

Reason: Why use the word, "covet"---a word that actually means a sin? Why not just use "need" or "would appreciate"..."could use"?

5. You must be blessed with the gift of singleness.

Reason: That person may not *want* to be single.

6. I need to love on some kids.

Reason: "I love kids" is fine. There's no need to say, "love ON"....that's kinda creepy.

7. I'll pray about it.

Reason: If it's true---no problem. If it's being used as a synonym for, "I don't know how to say 'no' to you....." then just say, "no". It's okay. We can't say "yes" to everything.

8. Jesus is my co-pilot.

Reason: That's bordering on heresy. Jesus is the pilot. Without a pilot we die.

9. God helps those who help themselves.

Reason: God gives grace to the humble, binds up the brokenhearted. He gives grace to those that have no ability to help themselves. That's exactly who He helps. To say "God helps those who help themselves" is actually putting a huge barrier between what God actually says is true and those that He says He helps...which are those that are willing to receive His help.

10. You just need to forgive yourself.

Reason: We aren't the highest authority---God is. What we need is to soak in that God has forgiven us. Rest in what He's done for us. We're a new creation in Him.

That's the gist of it

 

[akmom]

Sounds reasonable to me.