Things people say

[memoriesbymichelle]

I find it interesting that even though I take careful consideration to choose my words carefully, I am sure I probably hurt some feelings along the way.

And likewise sometimes, someone will say something and not mean anything other than what they are saying and it will hurt me in some way even though they don't mean it.

So yesterday I posted a remark on a picture of a friend of mine's family. They were out on a hiking adventure that looked like alot of fun and posted a group picture. So I posted "what a lucky family". Today I go on FB and my friend posted that while she agreed she would change the word "lucky" to BLESSED. And THAT made me sad! She is correct that she is blessed and she did not mean anything other than that. And while I am blessed also, I am not blessed to have a fantastic husband anymore, or to be able to go on hiking adventures (or any adventures) with my kids or anyone. Why was I hurt? I have no idea! Well I do have an idea, but I just wish it wasn't so. Why am I fighting back tears right now? I don't even know.

Does this ever happen to you?

 

[blackribbon]

((hugs))....she is both lucky and blessed...she just doesn't realize it. She is blessed to have found a good husband and lucky enough for him to still be here.

I find that words mean more now and when I can't find the right ones or people try to change them, that I can be a bit hurt or hyper-sensitive.

I'm sure that she thinks that it is just being "blessed" ... not realizing that we can be blessed and still lose things that are important to us. Maybe when God is in control, "luck" isn't the best of words but it is the only one we have to use. I think I get why you feel so hurt...it is kind of like saying you aren't blessed because your husband died...even though she doesn't mean it that way. ((hugs)) again.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

((hugs))....she is both lucky and blessed...she just doesn't realize it. She is blessed to have found a good husband and lucky enough for him to still be here.

I find that words mean more now and when I can't find the right ones or people try to change them, that I can be a bit hurt or hyper-sensitive.

I'm sure that she thinks that it is just being "blessed" ... not realizing that we can be blessed and still lose things that are important to us. Maybe when God is in control, "luck" isn't the best of words but it is the only one we have to use. I think I get why you feel so hurt...it is kind of like saying you aren't blessed because your husband died...even though she doesn't mean it that way. ((hugs)) again.

Yeah....kinda....yesterday it just hit me like why are some people more blessed than others (me). She is my friend from high school and we were close back then. We aren't as close now because we live in different states but she totally did not mean anything by changing my word and honestly I would agree with her. She also recently lost her mom, so it's not like she doesn't know about death etc. And she thinks I AM blessed, that I have great kids and we are just blessed in different ways. Which IS true, but you know....there are just those days or those moments.......just like when I listen to my friend complain because her husband says mean things to her (he just doesn't think before he speaks, he's not terribly malicious) and I think "at least you have a husband AND you don't have financial worries" but then I think SHE HAS CANCER! So it's just how some things hit you on some days. We will all be together in wonderful heaven soon enough so until then....i will plug along