Things I have lost...

Hi, I was just passing by, and saw this thread. So I take it your spouse (husband) died. So if you don't mind me asking, how long ago? It does take time to grieve, and I am sure time to settle into a new routine.

Well, I can hope that you have a church that you are going to, and perhaps it would have some type of ministry that you could get involved with. Trying something new and being around new and different people might be an uplifting change.

Can relate to not feeling like you belong.

I also lost (this is long-term, not things I lost initially btw, which is a bigger list, and bypassing the obvious biggies, like "my best friend" etc etc):

- countless hours of sleep; I'm only now years later not totally dreading going to bed (still doesn't wow me)
- all those little inside jokes that nobody else would ever understand...and so mostly aren't very funny any more
- most of our "friends" who it turns weren't really friends (and therefore no great loss, actually)
- any desire to return to my (and our) favorite vacation spot
- pleasure from shopping at Lowes or similar places, which we visited often for this or that (the first time I went in without her I broke right down...luckily nobody was in that aisle and I was able to regroup pretty quickly to get the bleep out of there)
- my birthday. What I mean is I lost her very near my birthday and so I have no desire to ever celebrate it or even really acknowledge it again

There's probably more, but that's off the top