The Three Magic Words

[exitstageright]

I am very curious here. Am I the only one here in their 50's(being 57 years old)that has NEVER been told by a girl or a woman, "X....,I love you?" When I was growing up,the ONLY time I ever heard those words was when I was watching television. I thought that saying those words was an act of fiction,just like the fiction that I saw on television. I have been married twice. Four years for the first time and six years for the secound time, I have NEVER heard those words. How can one EVER feel loved without ever hearing those words? I know that God loves me. However, I HAVE to live with some of the knuckleheads down here on Earth. The women that I pursue have a lot going for them. By that ,I mean that the type of woman that I find attractive has AVERAGE looks,have the same amount of education that I have,being a collage graduate,can speak with intelligence,shares the same passions that I do,and has a good sense of humor. However,these women always tell me,
" I am busy,but thanks for thinking about me." I think that this sentance is a code for," I do not find you attractive!I do not want to go out with you!I think of you as a brother,BUT NOT as a potential lover!"Now ladies, I am right or am I wrong? I WILL admit to being wrong. It seems the only women who want me are the ones who are only interested in how much money that I make. I want a woman who WANTS a man. NOT one who NEEDS a man. Most sucessful single women that I met give me the imperession that they do NOT want a man.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Did I mis-read your post? You said you have been married twice? And never been told "I love you"? REALLY? WHY would you even marry someone if you never heard them say that? Doesn't make sense to me. Were they arranged marriages or something?

 

[exitstageright]

Did I mis-read your post? You said you have been married twice? And never been told "I love you"? REALLY? WHY would you even marry someone if you never heard them say that? Doesn't make sense to me. Were they arranged marriages or something?

No they were not arranged marriages. A lot of things that happen in life do not make sense. I was desperate when I was younger. I am not a cute ladies' man.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Why did they marry you then, if you're not good looking and they did not love you?

 

[exitstageright]

Why did they marry you then, if you're not good looking and they did not love you?

For Money. What else is there? My first wife wanted me to support her family. My second married me in order for her to spend MY money and not HER money. My secound ex-wife is a multi-millionare. She did not want to share her money. She has a trust fund worth 7.5 million dollars.The trust gives her an allowance of $4,000 per month. If you do the math,that will last her 1,875 months or 156 years!! Just one small example. One day we needed a battery for our garage door opener. The cost was about four dollars. She told me that she would buy one in a couple of days. Well, two days passed and I could not open the garage door. I asked her,"Why didn't you get the battery today?" Her repsonse was,and this is the truth. Her response was,"We cannot afford it!" One day I told her," Well, you can just keep your money,but you will not have me!" I rather be alone than to spend my life with someone who feels that her main mission in life is to emotionally torment me. I make $43.75 per hour or $91,000 per year.Therefore, I am well off financially.

 

[edwardfsmith]

I would love to hear those 3 words too in my life.
I do not remember ever hearing them

After my last experience with my best friend though I am not sure just hearing them is enough anymore. They were typed to me once. It changed my life. I was so happy.
I do not think it was ever the truth though.


now I am not sure if I could ever trust it in the future if I was to hear them
I feel exactly like in highscool when that sweet girl came up to me and started talking to me.
I was wondering what the joke was going to be.

 

[SteveNZ]

I am very curious here. Am I the only one here in their 50's(being 57 years old)that has NEVER been told by a girl or a woman, "X....,I love you?" ..............etc ........... It seems the only women who want me are the ones who are only interested in how much money that I make. I want a woman who WANTS a man. NOT one who NEEDS a man. Most sucessful single women that I met give me the imperession that they do NOT want a man.

I am sorry you are in that situation exitstageright?

To be honest to myself it seems so unreal!!
But life as you have lived it is real enough.

I have had the term used including in my marriage vows.
The words when spoken in truth show a heart that has thought through things.

I am stubborn. never marry unless the Lord brings you together and ask him if you may have a bride who loves you. Hmmmmm .... marriages of convenience are common enough but they are human inventions.

 

[NorwayUnn]

It makes me sad to read and realize that true love is so hard to find, and it must be devastating to never hear the words ''I love you'' coming from the heart of the one you love.

The values of this world, like beauty and material assets will fade away, and they certainly do, but the values of the Lord are eternal and are what we should keep our eyes on. How about a hug from a sister on the other side of the ''big water''?

 

[dayhiker]

Ya, those are sad stories. I'm glad I've not experienced that type of thing.

I guess I've been lucky with the loves I've had.

 

[visionary]

I love those words.. If I were you I would give them freely, do not expect them to return, and rejoice if they come from the heart of one who cares for you. Praying that your day will come when THE ONE AND ONLY comes into your life.

 

[edwardfsmith]

I am not sure about the rules of letting another know she is loved.
I thought it would be ok and a compliment, but I guess it is scary too and makes some want to run away.
Now I am not sure if the best course of action is to keep ones feelings of love to oneself. at least with friends of the opposite sex.?
To me love is good feelings.
And my way if thinking is that you can love a friend.
like you can love family and others who are important in your life.
I guess not everyone has this view though

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I remember how desperately I wanted to hear those words from my first love. Then I remember hoping someone after that would feel that way about me. Then I remember the first time my husband said it to me, it scared the daylights out of me, cuz no guy had ever told me that first and I thought it was kinda soon in our relationship (for a guy). But after some prayer and more time it was the best relationship I've ever had. Not perfect by a long shot, and maybe my memory of the not so good things is faded by his death, but still....I long for someone to love me more than I love them (for a change) cuz it's usually that I love them more.

 

[Inkachu]

NO offense, but you need to take some of the responsibility here. When it comes to serious, intimate relationships, people treat us the way we ALLOW them to treat us. You married women who wouldn't even say they loved you. Not very good choices in women, my friend.

I think you need to let God do some serious work on you, and in your life. It's not too late for you to find love; there is no such thing as "too late" with God.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

NO offense, but you need to take some of the responsibility here. When it comes to serious, intimate relationships, people treat us the way we ALLOW them to treat us. You married women who wouldn't even say they loved you. Not very good choices in women, my friend.

I think you need to let God do some serious work on you, and in your life. It's not too late for you to find love; there is no such thing as "too late" with God.

Amen! Preach it sista!

 

[exitstageright]

NO offense, but you need to take some of the responsibility here. When it comes to serious, intimate relationships, people treat us the way we ALLOW them to treat us. You married women who wouldn't even say they loved you. Not very good choices in women, my friend.

I think you need to let God do some serious work on you, and in your life. It's not too late for you to find love; there is no such thing as "too late" with God.

I picked these women because they were the only ones who showed any intrest in me. At least the one that I knew about. I am not the type that most women find physically attracive. When I walk into a room that has a lot of women in it,such as a dance,I DO NOT turn heads. That is just the fact,mame.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I picked these women because they were the only ones who showed any intrest in me. At least the one that I knew about. I am not the type that most women find physically attracive. When I walk into a room that has a lot of women in it,such as a dance,I DO NOT turn heads. That is just the fact,mame.

Post a pic of you.

 

[dayhiker]

Its my observation that very few people, either man or woman, that turn heads when they enter a room.

 

[edwardfsmith]

I know how attractive it can be when someone shows interest in you
Especially if you do not get much interest.
For whatever reason.

I understand

 

[exitstageright]

I know how attractive it can be when someone shows interests in you
Especially if you do not get much interest.
For what ever reason.

I understand

I thank you for your understanding. I wonder why it is that I have better sucess communicating with men,than with women? I guess men are really from Mars,and women are from Venus.

 

[exitstageright]

Post a pic of you.

I do not think so. What if I meet someone and she reconize my picture from this thread? She might say," OH!,I know you.! You are that desperate guy I saw online!" She probalbly would just walk away. Now, I could be wrong. However,I just cannot take that chance. I thank you for the suggestion though,and may you have a Happy Thanksgiving. Yes, I have a lot to be thankful for.