*The Dorms......(should i be afraid?)*

[GuitarMia05]

Me and my best friend Sarah are sharing a dorm at NCMC this coming up Semester (North Central Missouri College)....she's scared to death about moving up there because of all the junk people has told her about dorm life...can you help me give her some encouraging words about living in the dorms...im totally excited...it's going to be a big change...yeah it will have it's stressfull moments but i know that God can get us through anything!

 

[ICE_girl]

campus life is incredible! I love being able to live on campus. It's so much easier to get to know people and have others there to hang out with. Its nice to be able to have a break from studying sometimes and being in the dorms helps with that, since there are other people to hang out with! This doesn't near cover what all dorm life is about, but it's a start

 

[awesome liver]

don't live with your best friend. you might not be best friends after the end of the semester. just sayin'.

 

[ZACTAK]

don't live with your best friend. you might not be best friends after the end of the semester. just sayin'.

I roomed with my best friend and although our friendship did suffer a few set backs I actually feel closer to him now... would I live with him again? Heck NO! I wouldn't recommend two best friends living together, but if that is what you want, I say go for it. My story is probably better than most, although I hate living with my best friend and can't wait until Wednesday, it was OK... but I have another friend who lived with her best friend and they hardly ever hang out.

However, you have to make sure you have a line of communication and not allow every little thing that irritates you about the other gets built up, otherwise you are in for a very long semester. Things are going to get on your nerves and your friendship is going to suffer a little bit.

GuitarMia - hello... I go to Southwest Missouri State University! (Missouri State University starting in August)

 

[MetalBlade]

Well just tell her, regardless of what will happen, at least you know who your remate is! I am finishing my schooling up on main campus next fall. I am living in a dorm to, I think it is both scarry and exciting at the same time. I don't know who my roomate will be though...

 

[ICE_girl]

it is nice knowing your roommates.... i don't know who mine will be next semester. I had a bad situation with one of my friends. She and I were pretty close, decided to room together, now we don't talk! I really wouldn't recommend that either...

 

[Manda_24]

don't live with your best friend. you might not be best friends after the end of the semester. just sayin'.

I didn't room with one of my friends but I was in the same building as her and we would get mad at each other then, I'm really glad we didn't room together, I'm sure we would hate each other by the end, there is just something about rooming with best friends, so just be careful, give each other space and stuff like that.

Dorm life isn't that bad, I got tired of it towards the end. You meet so many new people by living there and most are closer to campus than other housing choices. There are rules to keep everyone behaving, not being too loud, partites, etc.

 

[I can eat 50 eggs]

I loved living in the dorms, lived there 4 years until I got married. I met 2 of my best friends in the dorms. It's great being able to sleep until right before class. When I finally moved off campus my last year, to get to the same 8:00 class, I had to get up 1.5 hours earlier.

 

[bliz]

Dorm situations very greatly from school to school, dorm to dorm and year to year. You may be moving into a squalid den of iniquity. You may be moving into a home away from home. It is impossible to generalize! At some schools rules are a joke, at others they are strictly adheared to.

 

[California Dreamin']

I had no friends at my university so it sucked in dorm.

 

[squeakyclean1]

I loooved dorm life! I just finished my first year of college, and I lived in a dorm. I sort of knew my roomate before we moved in, and now we're best of friends. Granted, that does not always happen, but for us it did! Dorms are a great place- there is someone around at all times that you can get to know or hang out with, plus borrow movies, share food, etc. Don't be scared of it because then you won't have fun. Approach it with an open mindset and let it prove for itself.

 

[GuitarMia05]

friends wont be a problem for me at college, alot of the people i know from sports *our conference* are heading up to NCMC, so finding friends won't be a problem....im just worried about my friend, she keeps finding the negatives about college...

 

[chris_J_N]

Me and my best friend Sarah are sharing a dorm at NCMC this coming up Semester (North Central Missouri College)....she's scared to death about moving up there because of all the junk people has told her about dorm life...can you help me give her some encouraging words about living in the dorms...im totally excited...it's going to be a big change...yeah it will have it's stressfull moments but i know that God can get us through anything!

oh dorm life is so much fun!!!!! really nothing to worry about. when i was in bible college our dorm was connected to the cafitera. every night we had a blast breaking into the cafitera. if they locked it we carded the doors. if they dead bolted it we took the smallest guy and had him climb through the venalation shaft. we always seemed to out smart the secerity. it was a blast!!!!!!

 

[coolhandluke]

dorm life is great...i'm not sure if i would live off-campus if my scholarship didn't pay for room and board also...probably b/c some of my good friends are getting an apartment together...and i would probably live w/ them and that would be great as well...but especially your first couple of years, you should definitely live on campus. you get to know all these new people better, and its just easier to build closer relationships...b/c you live with these people and you get to know them...the good and the bad. it's really great. and it's easier to get involved w/ stuff on campus...and you can roll out of bed 10 minutes before class and get there on time (depending on how far away your dorm is to your class) which is always nice...b/c you won't get to sleep before 3 or so ever! anyway, yeah...dorm life is great. there are some bad aspects...but overall, it's awesome.

 

[Sascha Fitzpatrick]

One thing I would suggest for you two, seeing you are best friends, would be to have a contract written up on how the room is to be kept and the 'rules' that will be adhered to (ie who is responsible for what, if you share a playstation or something - the period of time each is allowed on, what to do if you have a friend of yours staying that isn't HER friend, etc etc).

I know it can sound ridiculous, but a lot of friendships get destroyed due to living together - so one of the best things to do is to write up a list of 'house' rules which you both agree to and sign as you move in.

I'm moving back to my parents later in the year, before my wedding, and the only reason I see this not causing too many problems is because I've requested a contract be written up as to what I'm responsible for, and what we each expect from each other...

Just a suggestion!

Sasch

 

[Wroth]

I've heard the "Don't room with your friends" thing and I think it's not very accurate. You need patience. Plain and simple. That's the only thing I learned at university this year (yes, I'm a future engineer ) - patience. Understand that not everyone is like you and you'll be fine. Understand that you will need to sacrifice as well - you are living with a large group of people for 8 months - don't cause friction the first night. My roommate, a guy I've known since kindergarten, isn't the cleanest of kids - but his stuff stayed on his side and there was no problem. We shared pretty much everything - frigdge, microwave, my computer for a point when his was broken - and we still hang out over the summer. He and I are both engineers, with the exact same schedule, etc... We were nearly attached at the hip (people teased us about being married because one of us would cook on alternating meals) - we don't want to kill each other. Another one of my friends roomed with his buddy as well - they're on good terms still. I think the thing about friends is you can't be surprised by what they do - I knew about all my buddy's vices and I didn't care, that's him.

As to what dorms are like? A gongshow. A party. TONS OF FUN!! I don't drink or do any of the other "vices" that is associated with dorm-life and I had an absolute blast. The key is to meet everyone and get to know your floor. Then you build friendships quickly and the fun begins right away. Be open to new things and DON'T JUDGE PEOPLE. That's the surest way to get shut out - no one likes someone who's a party-pooper - let them live their own lives and make their own mistakes. Have fun laughing and learning from them.

 

[Godsgurl042002]

Mia and i are best friends yes this is Sarah , and were like sisters, okay we have gotton in Many fights but there is always forigivness and i believe that we can do it, we don't need to listen to this Negativety.. we are always going to be best friends, i'm sure were are going to have some more fights long the way but there is always forgivness and there is always love for my friend Mia... i'm not scared anymore in living int he dorms.. i was .. but not that miai s living iwth me i'm so excited! and i can't wait to punk out dorm.. iti s going ot rock.. were going to have the best dorm ever Mia! I'm going to pray about it all God is goign to take care for us! bye all

 

[GuitarMia05]

Way to go Sarah...you tell em....lol.... you mouthy punk you!! lol... no... I know God will get us through we just have to think positive...id' rather be with you than some druggie anyday!

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Headphones and a fan.
In the name of all that is holy she should own these items.

 

[GuitarMia05]

Headphones and a fan.
In the name of all that is holy she should own these items.

Yes...i have both those items... and MORE!! thanks for the advise Mr. Cheese!