The Celibate Thread

[fellowshipseeker]

Hi there,
I just thought I'd post this to see if there's anyone on here who, like me, believes they have a calling from God to permanent celibacy? If so, we should all get to know each other so we can encourage each other and build each other up in our mutual calling.

Thanks, Fellowshipseeker

 

[Nanopants]

Welcome o/

I'm not celibate personally. I'm actually the opposite: I believe I have a call from God to remain non-celibate. Perhaps we can find a way to build each other up no matter what our calling? Just a thought.

 

[Purge187]

Hi there,
I just thought I'd post this to see if there's anyone on here who, like me, believes they have a calling from God to permanent celibacy? If so, we should all get to know each other so we can encourage each other and build each other up in our mutual calling.

Thanks, Fellowshipseeker

What makes you believe that God wants you to remain sex-free forever?

 

[Messy]

Hi there,
I just thought I'd post this to see if there's anyone on here who, like me, believes they have a calling from God to permanent celibacy? If so, we should all get to know each other so we can encourage each other and build each other up in our mutual calling.

Thanks, Fellowshipseeker

Yes, I asked Him and He said: Marry Me, time is short. They were marrying and giving into marriage.

 

[fellowshipseeker]

To Nanopants
Hi, yeah I know the genral purpose of the singles forum is to be mutually encouraging, but we celibates have a special calling and I wanted to make a thread specifically for us

To Messy
Sorry, I'm not sure what you're saying here? Are you celibate yourself or not?

To Purge187
I believe God called me to this. I came to the decision when I was 21 as I had never had a girlfriend up to that point and didn't have a great desire for one.

I also looked at Jesus saying, " Some have renounced marriage because of men, some were born that way and other have renounced marriage because of the Kingdom of God. Let the one who can accept this accept it"

I figured that I could be celibate because I'd never really wanted a girl in my life, so I decided to make it permanent and told God so.

I'm a few years on now and although things have got harder I'm still absolutely intent on staying celibate.

 

[Messy]

To Messy
Sorry, I'm not sure what you're saying here? Are you celibate yourself or not?

I've been divorced twice and asked God if I could marry someone else and then He said: Marry Me, time is short. I didn't want to stay celibate and never remarry, but I made the decision to obey Him.

 

[Kingsdotter]

Hi there,
I just thought I'd post this to see if there's anyone on here who, like me, believes they have a calling from God to permanent celibacy? If so, we should all get to know each other so we can encourage each other and build each other up in our mutual calling.

Thanks, Fellowshipseeker

Hi, I am still trying to figure out if my calling is permanent. However i think it's a good idea for us to get to know each other, and encourage each other.

 

[Strider1002]

I'm celibate, of course; I'm not married. But one day I will be.

 

[nick garai]

I definitely do not have the gift of celibacy.

 

[Nanopants]

Yep, same here.

Also I'm curious and I'd like to know why some people think celibacy is a "special" calling?

 

[Paulie079]

Yep, same here.

Also I'm curious and I'd like to know why some people think celibacy is a "special" calling?

It's unique and not an easy thing to embrace I would imagine.

 

[Nanopants]

^That being the case, could it even be considered a gift as Paul refers to it?

I'm not saying it's not a gift, and I imagine that to those who possess that particular gift, it wouldn't be a struggle.

 

[Paulie079]

^That being the case, could it even be considered a gift as Paul refers to it?

I'm not saying it's not a gift, and I imagine that to those who possess that particular gift, it wouldn't be a struggle.

Regardless, perhaps you should make a thread about the topic instead of hijacking this person's thread as they have already respectfully stated and reiterated the purpose of it, and it was not to argue about the gifted nature or lack thereof of celibacy.

 

[Nanopants]

Am I breaking a rule Paulie?

 

[Kingsdotter]

^That being the case, could it even be considered a gift as Paul refers to it?

I'm not saying it's not a gift, and I imagine that to those who possess that particular gift, it wouldn't be a struggle.

It's not a struggle for us, that's what makes it a gift.

 

[Nanopants]

Yeah, that's what I thought ;]

Anyways, I just thought that was important to clarify, because of the temptation of using a form of celibacy (not real celibacy, as in the gift) as a burden and a means of controlling others (as in guilt manipulation).

I've got no problems with the real gift of celibacy or those who possess it.

 

[Kingsdotter]

Nanopants, am glad you have nothing against us.

 

[Saucy]

It's an amazing thing. I don't believe I have the gift of celibacy through no desire. I have admitted that I have a strong "drive", but when put in a position of being offered sex, for some reason, I am instantly turned off by that. So the desire remains strong for me to share it with my wife only, the person I'm committed to for life. But without that commitment, I'm just not interested in sex. And I don't mean that I don't lust and struggle with it, because it's a constant battle. But I've been blessed to make it 30 years without giving in. And I even regret saying no sometimes later, because 30 years is a long time to wait lol. But I think that is a gift God has given me and I know my future wife will appreciate it greatly.

I just strongly believe that doing my best to remain pure in mind, body and spirit is my reasonable service to God. Not that it makes me a better person than someone who gives in to those desires. God designed sex for one purpose and it's a very special thing.

Now, for someone who never wants sex for their whole lives, I don't know if that's a 'gift'. God wants us to have sex and designed us for intimacy. But if you don't want it, no harm in that. If I had to wait my whole life and I died a virgin, I would just deal with it. I find the longer I wait, the easier it becomes.

 

[AwesomeSock]

Of course it's celibate. Threads reproduce asexually.

But seriously, I think celibacy is admirable and shows great conviction.

 

[ImperatorWall]

It amuses me that people act like celibacy is some sort of gift or higher calling.

I have no sort of "gift of celibacy" whatsoever, yet I have always been, and I suspect I will always be so. It has nothing to do with having a gift, it's just a choice.

But if you can milk it for mad props, who am I to deny your self aggrandizement?