the big question sex

[TwilightKez]

Am new becoming a christian still aren't there totally it's been over a year of long hard thinking and reading but am finally going to church on sunday and try to find what i've been looking for

Anyway the question i have is about sex, if i become a "fully" christian should i stop it with my boyfriend. We have been together 5 years, we have a children together. Currently we don't live together, he actually lives 500 miles away lmao I actually lefted the home because of the problems that we were having and it wasn't fair on anyone, but i never lefted the relationship because love is never easy and it's a hard road, you just can't give up even though the problem we were having many people would have "dumped" him for it, but in my heart and mind i already made that commit to be with him until death do us part, yes i lefted but at the time i felt it was the right thing to do (It's complex and can't go into to fully he didn't cheat on me or anything like that), We are working on our problem and i've always felt he is the one for me. Anyway when we do get together we do have sex not because we have to, if i wasn't with him i won't be out doing it with anyone and the same is for him, it because we love each and it does i feel creates a bond with us. He is not a christian in fact he has never been in a church due to his mother saying she didn't want her children to be forced ideas on them or whatever. I was actually brought up a catholic for many years until i lost faith. Yes we will eventually marry, that i am certain we wanted to get married many times before but "things" or should i say problems got in the way.

So the question is how to approach this ? what do i do ? Also from my understanding we shouldn't marry someone who isn't a christian why is this ? is it wrong ?

thanks for any advise you have

xxx

 

[NiobiumTragedy]

You've been together for 5 years and have kids, why not just elope at the local office and make it official? Then you have no worry.

 

[dayhiker]

Eloping would work, but I don't think I'd do that till the issues were worked thru. As for the sex ... I can't give my opinion.

 

[Luther073082]

Am new becoming a christian still aren't there totally it's been over a year of long hard thinking and reading but am finally going to church on sunday and try to find what i've been looking for

Anyway the question i have is about sex, if i become a "fully" christian should i stop it with my boyfriend. We have been together 5 years, we have a children together. Currently we don't live together, he actually lives 500 miles away lmao I actually lefted the home because of the problems that we were having and it wasn't fair on anyone, but i never lefted the relationship because love is never easy and it's a hard road, you just can't give up even though the problem we were having many people would have "dumped" him for it, but in my heart and mind i already made that commit to be with him until death do us part, yes i lefted but at the time i felt it was the right thing to do (It's complex and can't go into to fully he didn't cheat on me or anything like that), We are working on our problem and i've always felt he is the one for me. Anyway when we do get together we do have sex not because we have to, if i wasn't with him i won't be out doing it with anyone and the same is for him, it because we love each and it does i feel creates a bond with us. He is not a christian in fact he has never been in a church due to his mother saying she didn't want her children to be forced ideas on them or whatever. I was actually brought up a catholic for many years until i lost faith. Yes we will eventually marry, that i am certain we wanted to get married many times before but "things" or should i say problems got in the way.

So the question is how to approach this ? what do i do ? Also from my understanding we shouldn't marry someone who isn't a christian why is this ? is it wrong ?

thanks for any advise you have

xxx

You shouldn't marry someone who isn't Christian because the bible tells us not to be "unequally yoked with unbelievers". To yoke yourself means to tie yourself closely with someone. One way you tie yourself to someone is marriage. . . Another would be to start a business together. Anything that you can't easily escape.

Now the bible also gives instructions for people who are married to an unbeliver when they became a believer.

So in light of the fact that you have children together, you may morally speaking fit into the second instead of the first. That is your choice.

Personally from what I gather from your post, it doesn't seem like this relationship is healthy. So I'm not sure that marrying him is suddenly going to be a good idea.

But yes you should definatly legally marry the man or stop having sex with him.