THE ABUSERS & their victims

[njcl]

ive never been abused but i have experience of this sort in my adult life,heres my advice on it

if your being abused by anybody immedietly go to the police,file charges against the perpertrator,he needs locking up not only to stop him abusing you but others,as i stated in another post this sort never change,ever

self guilt/feeling dirty - its nobodies fault but the ABUSER!!,he made a decision to rape/molest somebody,never the less the victim will need professional counsilling and healing sessions,healing can usually be sought out via the church channels or by a psychiatrist or both

The worst culprits - stepfathers,its not their flesh so its open season when they infiltrate a loving family via the mother,seen this many many times,they couldnt care less about nothing but their carnal urges - thankfully not all stepfathers are like this and there are some wonderful surrogate dads out there

thats the best i could write with my less than knowledgable mind on this subject........

 

[UnitynLove]

Thank you sis!

 

[BlessedMommy05]

Thank you but my story is a tad different than that.. And honestly my brother was reported 3yrs ago for what he did to all of us kids meaning me, and my nephews and any child under age 18.. See my brother should have served a prision term, but never did (Long story) from what I was told and no one cared enough but for his own sake and not us kids sake.. I know in Gods judgement it'll come down to that, and he'll be judged for doing what he did and so will my parents. Maybe some day I can write it out and share it on the abuse board to help others..

Again thankyou for the encouragement..

BlessedMommy05

 

[Bianca01]

Thank you but my story is a tad different than that.. And honestly my brother was reported 3yrs ago for what he did to all of us kids meaning me, and my nephews and any child under age 18.. See my brother should have served a prision term, but never did (Long story) from what I was told and no one cared enough but for his own sake and not us kids sake.. I know in Gods judgement it'll come down to that, and he'll be judged for doing what he did and so will my parents. Maybe some day I can write it out and share it on the abuse board to help others..

Again thankyou for the encouragement..

BlessedMommy05

Hi BlessedMommy05,

I was molested by my older brother. I don't know if that is what happened to you. For me, it's been hard to forgive him. He's so arrogant and I don't trust him. He's never acknowledged it or apologized. It's difficult to think of ever confronting him because I believe he still uses drugs. You know, I always wished I'd had a brother like John Boy Walton. It makes me sad when I see happy, loving and respectful brothers and sisters on television or movies.

Take care.

 

[cookiebaker]

I appreciate your post and advice....as someone who grew up with a out of control drunk father, I can say "amen" I WISH I had told someone about his behavior and my mother's neglect.

I think in those days, back in teh late 70's early 80's, it was more taboo and people didnt like to get involved even if they saw a child lived w/ a drunk parent, it was more of a 'family issue'.

I know that if cps had ever come across my dad in one of his drunk outbursts, we would have at best been taken from the home temporarily while he obtained help.

I think in my case, i was so used to this behavior, since a 5 yr old child, I was too repressed to even consider telling someone. I did once, in high school, but was afraid they wouldnt do much, now I wish I had at least called a hotline anonymously ,and suggest that any kid in a similr situation at least call anonymously, to find out what will happen if they report it.

I know as a result of his drinking and abuse and mom's neglect, I never came to be ther person probably God made me to be- I struggled with alot of insecurity, not even knowing how to heave healthy relationships with people, I also was painfully shy, withdrawn and hopeless and never got anything out of high school, so so sad. The things probalby God put in me, never had a chance to bloom under taht abuse and it affected my whole life. I went on to pick a not good choice for a husband, who then was also abusive, it really can mess up your life so I strongly urge reporting it and finding a safe place to live where you can be safe and have some happiness. That's my advice to young kids or teenagers in that situation

 

[CarleneB]

thanks for posting this. One day, I hope I will stop feeling guilty for what my abuser did to me. i wish i had reported him.

thanks again,
carlene