Thanksgiving (rant)

[RileyG]

RC only please, and please no negative comments that will bring me down...

SO I have a brother, who rejected Christianity, and is openly gay and has a "boyfriend" of two years.

His "boyfriend" has come over for this past Thanksgiving and other numerous family holidays.

I have one niece, and two nephews, ages 13, 10, and 4 respectively.

My brother habitually cheats on his boyfriend with random hook ups from random men he meets on GRINDR. This has been confirmed by my oldest brother who lives with him. It's apparently a constant thing.

It makes me VERY UNCOMFORTABLE when his "boyfriend" is at our house.

Not to mention, one of his ex-boyfriends lived with our family, he stole from our family, took some of my medication which caused me to go to the ER because my body went into shock, and used our debit/credit cards many years ago.

Should I speak up to my parents about how uncomfortable this makes me feel?

I am only thinking about my young niece and nephews.

God bless

(I am 29, have an anxiety disorder, and live with my parents, age 61 and 70).

 

[Michie]

I do not think there is much you can do except pray. It seems your parents and the rest of the family have already made their decisions on how to proceed which means they will tolerate it and they will be welcome at family gatherings.As far as the niece and nephews, pretty much the same. It is the parents decision if they want them exposed to that or not. The past behavior with stealing, etc. most likely does not do you any favors when it comes to your anxiety but since it is your parents decision there is not much left to do but to pray for everyone and your discernment on how to gracefully be in their presence without condoning anything. Sorry I could not help more but it sounds like the parents hold the reigns in this situation.

 

[RileyG]

I do not think there is much you can do except pray. It seems your parents and the rest of the family have already made their decisions on how to proceed which means they will tolerate it and will be welcome at family gatherings.As far as the Brice snd nephews, pretty much the same. It is the parents decision if they want them exposed to that or not. The past behavior with stealing, etc. most likely does not do you any favors when it comes to your anxiety but since it is your parents decision there is not much left to do but to pray for everyone and your discernment on how to gracefully be in their presence without condoning anything. Sorry I could not help more but it sounds like the parents hold the reigns in this situation.

Thank you

 

[Chrystal-J]

Being around atheists who have open distain for my faith isn't easy at Thanksgiving or Christmas. (I often wonder why they bother to celebrate Christmas.) I just avoid the topic of religion, try to enjoy what I can and leave before any heated argument can get started. I pray for them--that they find faith in Jesus. But, I also try to be realistic and not expect a dramatic turn around. (Although, I'm hoping to see a conversion some day.)

 

[fide]

RC only please, and please no negative comments that will bring me down...

SO I have a brother, who rejected Christianity, and is openly gay and has a "boyfriend" of two years.

His "boyfriend" has come over for this past Thanksgiving and other numerous family holidays.

I have one niece, and two nephews, ages 13, 10, and 4 respectively.

My brother habitually cheats on his boyfriend with random hook ups from random men he meets on GRINDR. This has been confirmed by my oldest brother who lives with him. It's apparently a constant thing.

It makes me VERY UNCOMFORTABLE when his "boyfriend" is at our house.

Not to mention, one of his ex-boyfriends lived with our family, he stole from our family, took some of my medication which caused me to go to the ER because my body went into shock, and used our debit/credit cards many years ago.

Should I speak up to my parents about how uncomfortable this makes me feel?

I am only thinking about my young niece and nephews.

God bless

(I am 29, have an anxiety disorder, and live with my parents, age 61 and 70).

Is there any way you could move out of the house?

 

[RileyG]

Is there any way you could move out of the house?

No. I’m dependent on my parents, regardless, I would still see them at the holidays.

 

[RileyG]

Being around atheists who have open distain for my faith isn't easy at Thanksgiving or Christmas. (I often wonder why they bother to celebrate Christmas.) I just avoid the topic of religion, try to enjoy what I can and leave before any heated argument can get started. I pray for them--that they find faith in Jesus. But, I also try to be realistic and not expect a dramatic turn around. (Although, I'm hoping to see a conversion some day.)

Thank you

No, not atheists, just lgbt and other dangerous behaviors.

I know he has messed around with tarot cards and ouija….just culturally Catholic, but absolutely not practicing in any way, shape, or form.

 

[fide]

No. I’m dependent on my parents, regardless, I would still see them at the holidays.

Well, if you're dependent on your parents and living in their house, you have to accept their rules. If I were in your place, I'd leave if those choosing to live in sin were coming, to avoid - for the sake of the parents - the direct controversy that would erupt otherwise.

 

[AveChristusRex]

Should I speak up to my parents about how uncomfortable this makes me feel?

Always remember that a peaceful resolution, though difficult, is the only Christian option. We are called to love those who cause us strife, and thus, we show them great love and pray that they will be driven to correct themselves through observance of our love. See the 1221 Rule of Saint Francis, Chapter XII: "All the Friars … should preach by their deeds."

 

[RileyG]

Always remember that a peaceful resolution, though difficult, is the only Christian option. We are called to love those who cause us strife, and thus, we show them great love and pray that they will be driven to correct themselves through observance of our love. See the 1221 Rule of Saint Francis, Chapter XII: "All the Friars … should preach by their deeds."

Thank you

Where can I buy his rule?

I am a Benedictine oblate and am very with the Rule of St. Benedict.

God bless

 

[RileyG]

Well, if you're dependent on your parents and living in their house, you have to accept their rules. If I were in your place, I'd leave if those choosing to live in sin were coming, to avoid - for the sake of the parents - the direct controversy that would erupt otherwise.

Unfortunately, I cannot leave my parents house, because I have panic attacks and am entirely dependent on them.

God bless you

 

[fide]

Unfortunately, I cannot leave my parents house, because I have panic attacks and am entirely dependent on them.

God bless you

Thank you for sharing that part of it all with us - you are in a difficult moral quandary. God - the God who loves you - has allowed this difficult moral situation to come to you, and will work some good in it and out of it. How? I don't know. Michie's response - comment #2 - is best: pray. A dear spiritual advisor once counseled me, "If you don't know what to do, sit down." That is, "don't walk until you know where to go/what to do." I would add to that, "don't talk very much, either." (James 3:1-12) We get ourselves in much trouble by speaking when we should not. May God be your saving light.

 

[AveChristusRex]

Thank you

Where can I buy his rule?

I am a Benedictine oblate and am very with the Rule of St. Benedict.

God bless

Apparently, there are no physical copies because it is an unconfirmed first rule, and has not been verified. I can only find it in full here: The Unconfirmed First Rule of St Francis (1209/10-1221) - CapDox

 

[RileyG]

Apparently, there are no physical copies because it is an unconfirmed first rule, and has not been verified. I can only find it in full here: The Unconfirmed First Rule of St Francis (1209/10-1221) - CapDox

Fascinating! Thanks

 

[RileyG]

Thank you for sharing that part of it all with us - you are in a difficult moral quandary. God - the God who loves you - has allowed this difficult moral situation to come to you, and will work some good in it and out of it. How? I don't know. Michie's response - comment #2 - is best: pray. A dear spiritual advisor once counseled me, "If you don't know what to do, sit down." That is, "don't walk until you know where to go/what to do." I would add to that, "don't talk very much, either." (James 3:1-12) We get ourselves in much trouble by speaking when we should not. May God be your saving light.

Thank you for your kind words

God bless

 

[RileyG]

Please, please, please, pray they will BREAK UP soon....

Ask for the intercession of our Lady, St. Jude, St. Rita of Cascia, St. George, St. Gregory the Great....and many others...

 

[Michie]

Please, please, please, pray they will BREAK UP soon....

Ask for the intercession of our Lady, St. Jude, St. Rita of Cascia, St. George, St. Gregory the Great....and many others...

Praying for your intentions. Are you familiar with the miracle prayer? Been clinging to that one lately…

 

[RileyG]

Praying for your intentions. Are you familiar with the miracle prayer? Been clinging to that one lately…

Yes.

I need to pray that prayer more often.

God bless