telling your husband

[shainamsu]

how did you tell your husband that you were pregnant? was he there with you when you took the test? did you surprise him with something special? how did you do it?

with shiloh, we weren't trying at all and it was a little devestating to me at first, so i stomped up the stairs, suck the urine stick with the positive readout in his face and said "what does THAT say?!?!"

yeah, so not exactly a romantic thing. i'm thinking since we've been trying for another one for a couple of years and we might be getting close to being able to get pregnant, how i would tell him. i've heard of people waiting until they have their first ultrasound and showing him the picture. i would LOVE to think i could wait that long, but i don't know if i could.

so, if you could, share your stories. i'd love to get some ideas!

 

[tiredwalker]

I didn't want DH to know that I was taking a test because I had so many negative tests. I bought one on the way to work, took it at work, and they called my DH crying. It was great. Not really romantic, but I didn't want him to see me down if it was negative again.

 

[Hadassah]

DH and I did the test together.

He didn't think it was fair that I could "pee on a stick" and then hold the results hostage, so I peed in a cup and to ensure the results were correct and we didn't have to re-test, HE wanted to do the test. LOL

So we both knew at the same time. We were like "ok, so even the lightest shade of pink is pregnant..." as it took it's time, and immediately after saying that it got really, REALLY dark purple.

I took a photo of the test and emailed it to my parents and called them and said 'suprise! Open your email!'

We went immediately after that over to my inlaws (they live 2 blocks from us) and suprised them with the test.

Let's just say we all were suprised all the way around, except for my mom and dad. How they ever figured it all out before we did, I dunno - but they did.

 

[lovesdolphins]

my hubby wants to be there when I test.

I have tested a couple of times w/o him knowing - lucky for him they have all been negative.

 

[Jilly123]

I took the test at about 4am (I couldn't sleep)...I nearly fell off the toilet because I really wasn't expecting it to be positive. I desperately wanted to wake my husband up but I didn't. But as soon as he opened his eyes and looked at me he knew. He knew that I was planning on taking the test that morning and one look at my face told him I had already done it.

We also took a photo of the test and emailed it to my parents and ILs (we were living in Canada at the time). So my mom emails back and says "whats that? "

 

[Assisi]

With #1 I made a special dinner, bought some non alcoholic champagne and set us up for a candle lit dinner date at home to tell him.
With #2 I was so excited that I called him and told him over the phone.
With #3 I met him for lunch and said 'congratulations, you're a father of three'.

I always want to do something special, but when it comes to the positive test I want to tell him immediately - so I'm not very good with the planning.


I heard a great idea I wanted to try. Take him out for a drink and stick a little note saying 'we're pregnant' to the bottom of his glass so that when he finishes his beer he can read it at the bottom. But it takes more planning than I have been capable of so far...

 

[Called2Grace]

Well DH knew before I did this time, he was the one who told me to take the test, and when it didn't come up straight away, I threw it out. Anyway I went back later (I know, that is a big no-no) and there was a line, I was about to go and pick up dinner with a friend, so I did another test and left it with DH. He messaged me at the 5 minute mark to tell me there was two lines. I had to take another 5 tests over the next week though to confirm it. I guess we knew that I was fertile at the time, but we had also "cheated" before and nothing had happened. (We use nfp) but we were then and still are over the moon!

I went to the Dr a week later (we were holidaying in QLD at the time) and I asked him if her was going to do a blood test to confirm it, and his response"Not with 6 positives HPT's I'm not"

I could never wait until the U/S, for one, DH likes to come along and I think he would be disapointed if I kept it from him.
We didn't tell family until I was 6 weeks, after I had been to the Dr.

I guess because we use nfp, we are both aware of my cycles and when things are due to happen. He is pretty good like that, and it will probably always be something that we will do together.
I could never save the stick to show others though, I just feel weirded out, that I have pee'd on it

 

[llghoney]

Ours wasn't romantic it was just more of taking the test & when he came home I showed him. He knew I had taken sooo many tests already & when I said I ahve something to tell ya I think he knew. it was more romantic making the baby!

 

[jgonz]

With most of the kids I was so excited that the Second I got a positive HPT, I'd call him at work to tell him. LOL

With this current pregnancy, I was in denial, so didn't tell him for over 3 weeks after I knew... But I was a little sneaky and sort of felt him out on how he'd feel "if" we were pregnant, so he already had been thinking about it a little... I finally told him after we'd had lunch at a restaurant one day. Right as he was leaving to go back to work I whispered in his ear, "I took a HPT and it was positive" then I ran out the door! lol I couldn't deal with his reaction (even though it was good). When he got home he was all "hey preggo, how ya feelin'? " and he elbowed me in the ribs. So he was ok with it... I wasn't though, and we waited 'til I was about 9 weeks to tell the kids, and then after I was 12 weeks to tell the grandparents and most other people.

 

[lovesdolphins]

With most of the kids I was so excited that the Second I got a positive HPT, I'd call him at work to tell him. LOL

With this current pregnancy, I was in denial, so didn't tell him for over 3 weeks after I knew... But I was a little sneaky and sort of felt him out on how he'd feel "if" we were pregnant, so he already had been thinking about it a little... I finally told him after we'd had lunch at a restaurant one day. Right as he was leaving to go back to work I whispered in his ear, "I took a HPT and it was positive" then I ran out the door! lol I couldn't deal with his reaction (even though it was good). When he got home he was all "hey preggo, how ya feelin'? " and he elbowed me in the ribs. So he was ok with it... I wasn't though, and we waited 'til I was about 9 weeks to tell the kids, and then after I was 12 weeks to tell the grandparents and most other people.

How old is your current youngest?

 

[jgonz]

My current youngest is 5.5 yrs old. My kids are 25 (married now), 23, 18, 16, almost 14, 9.5, 7.5, and 5.5 (she's going to be nearly 6 when this baby is born! yikes)

 

[Called2Grace]

My DD will be almost 5 when this one is born. We have a larger gap than most.

 

[stealingheaven]

I'd been ill with a virus and thought that's why my period was late, I left it a week until after AF should have arrived because I didn't want to test and see that negative that I was so sure I'd see. My husband bought a test home with him on his way back from work though and made me test, we both sat on the edge of the bath waiting patiently, watching for that 2nd positive line to appear, when it did we just looked at each other with huge smiles and hugged each other tightly, it was lovely, we didn't need words.

I love the way we told my Mum, she'd been depressed about money issues so we invited her up after work and after she sat down and was comfy we handed her a little basket which we filled with baby powder, baby wipes, cotton wool buds etc and told her she'd be needing these in a few month (I say few, if only it were a few lol) and left her to guess, she stared at it all blankly and asked us if we'd had a clear out of our bathroom and why were we giving her these things, then almost as she asked us it dawned on her and she just burst into tears.

I was glad i was able to cheer her up with such wonderful news!

 

[Called2Grace]

That is beautiful Stealingheaven. My mum would be over the moon with a second, if she was here. She passed away when I was pregnant with DD so she didn't even get to see her. I really miss her. Unfortunately I didn't realise her amazing love for me as her child until that first moment when I held DD in my arms and thought, "This must be what my mother felt when she held me in her arms for the first time".

 

[stealingheaven]

I'm sorry your Mum isn't here and wasn't able to meet your daughter. I must admit I don't appreciate my Mum enough, we were estranged in the past so I find it difficult to show her how grateful I am for her or how much I love her, I hope somehow that becoming a mother myself will make me appreciate my mum more and bring us closer together.

 

[etmama]

With my current pregnancy, my 4yo daughter wrapped the test stick up in a present and gave it to my husband when he got home from a business trip. Not only was he happy to see us, but got an additional surprise as well!

 

[angelsgirl]

My husband was there when i tested...
i knew i was pregnant...so it wasn't much of a surprise for me...
He was a little shocked. We had only been married for a month and it was all a little too much for him at that point!!!
But he is super excited about it now!!!