teenproblem or is it?

[DawnTillery]

My daughter which will be 15 next mth, was talking to my husbands niece (her step cousin) well, it all got back to me, some i didnt want to know.. Like im a mean parent.. well... maybe I am, i wont let her trance around with whoever and I wont let her do a few things maybe other parents will...
any ways.. my thing is, I think we all have said our parents are mean and probably worse,, what ticks me and my husband off, is my daughter trusted her step cousin only to be treated wrongly by her step cousin and two step aunts. .. Like my husband said he said things he wouldnt want to get back to his parents.. he said it to his friends and to cousins. He didnt worry about that and she shouldnt either..
I think they delibertely did that just to get her in trouble, well she isnt in trouble, because those were her thoughts and feelings at that time... but she isnt allowed back over there nor does she want to..

what do you think?

 

[feline]

Not a parent, but I was once fifteen, and I believe it is totally normal for teens to vent about how "mean" their parents are. As for not allowing her to go back to their house, I would leave that choice to her. She most likely has learned a lesson and will not want to confide in this person any more.

 

[Princessperky]

I don't know a single teen who thinks (or adult who thought) their parents wern't mean, some had a major over inflated terrible view, some were just feeling stuck, some were oddballs trusted it was all with good intent (even if they disagreed with the methods/rules) but ALL teens think mom and dad are harsher than need be .

 

[Hisrosebud]

I think you are right. I would tell your daughter how you feel, it may make her trust you more and think about who she airs out to next time.....It can be a great learning experience without a whole lot of headaches. We all need to learn how to discern who it is where air our complaints to.


Jane

 

[Shannonkish]

I would agree. This is normal for teens. It is also normal for teens to [bold] occassionally[/quote] say something like, "I wish I were dead" or "I'm going to kill you."

As long as it isn't something that is said on a regular basis it is "normal."