Talking on Long Distance Relationships..

[HolyOne87]

Just had a few things on my mind about it
Just wanted to ask.

How did you meet the person you are currently in this relationship with?

What led you to know you wanted to date this person (knowing in your mind they live far away)?

Do you think Long Distance relationships can be a little more beneficial then having a relationship with someone who lives a few minutes away?

Just wanted peoples thoughts.
thank you much!

 

[catofhope]

I met Randy here on the board.
Because we clicked and felt God brought us together.
I never want to limit God and His infinite wisdom.

I had previous been in a long distance relationship.
There are benefits especially for shy folks.
We were able to communicate more in depth more quicker.
And you do not have to worry about "physical" temptations.

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

How did you meet the person you are currently in this relationship with?

We met here on CF


What led you to know you wanted to date this person (knowing in your mind they live far away)?

When we first started dating we weren't long distance, but we are now (about 200 miles). However, I knew that I would be moving shortly after we started dating so that was a factor. But to us, it wasn't that big of a deal.


Do you think Long Distance relationships can be a little more beneficial then having a relationship with someone who lives a few minutes away?

No, I think its better to be closer. I liked not being that far away from my bf, now we only see each other about once a week, which still really isn't all that bad. But we have to plan for it and can't just randomly do stuff, and its more expensive.

 

[PassionateOne]

How did you meet the person you are currently in this relationship with?Just came across each other on here (CF) and made friends.

What led you to know you wanted to date this person (knowing in your mind they live far away)? We just were so alike it was 'mind blowing' and made an instant connection.

Do you think Long Distance relationships can be a little more beneficial then having a relationship with someone who lives a few minutes away? Well, you definately have to work at it and it takes BOTH people to make it work, but it's the exact same in ANY RL. It just depends on how much effort both people will put into it. There have been guys that lived 5 minutes from me, that I've dated in the past, that wouldn't lift a finger to make a phone call. And nowadays, with cell phones, txting, email....it's really not that big of a deal and we live clear across the U.S. I'm on the westside and he's on the east coast.

And it makes the times you do see each other sooooo much fun!!!!


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[peanutbutter12]

How did you meet the person you are currently in this relationship with?

We met through the band Skillet.

What led you to know you wanted to date this person (knowing in your mind they live far away)?

She was exactly what I was looking for in a mate.

Do you think Long Distance relationships can be a little more beneficial then having a relationship with someone who lives a few minutes away?

In ways, yes, in ways, no. Yes because you can spend more time getting to know the person through communication. No because you can't spend that special time with them in person. It really boils down to whether or not they are worth waiting for and if both are willing to compromise to make it work in the long run.

 

[CoolMom6]

I met my bf through a single parent site.
I liked him because he was straightforward and went for what he wanted and has always been honest about who he is.
I have gotten to know him well over the phone first.
We have spent time together in person on his turf and soon to be on mine.
We will know more once he experiences my life and family.

 

[Weasel7711]

How did you meet the person you are currently in this relationship with?
On CF

What led you to know you wanted to date this person (knowing in your mind they live far away)?
Her personality, her caring nature, and she was very attractive. After meeting in person a few times we started going out officially.

Do you think Long Distance relationships can be a little more beneficial then having a relationship with someone who lives a few minutes away?
Not really. I think its about the same. I think being closer is more beneficial however because you can spend more time with them and get to see how they live and react to every day life situations better. I think, however, that having an LDR builds a lot of trust between the two of you.

 

[ImperialPhantom]

How did you meet the person you are currently in this relationship with?

What led you to know you wanted to date this person (knowing in your mind they live far away)?

Do you think Long Distance relationships can be a little more beneficial then having a relationship with someone who lives a few minutes away?

1: On CF

2: She didn't live far away at the time. But even if she had, I still would have wanted to, cuz she's cute and even back then was one of my favorite posters here

3: Depends on the couple. For us, we like being closer better.

 

[Extronic]

How did you meet the person you are currently in this relationship with?

I met her through another person when she had some troubles with technology that I had knowledge in to help her.

What led you to know you wanted to date this person (knowing in your mind they live far away)?

Classify far away? Well about 1 - 2 hour drive. It's not an issue, yes I can't see her every day in person or anything like that, but I can talk to her every day, over the phone or Internet (VoIP). We just clicked together and the distance doesn't seem to be an issue.

Do you think Long Distance relationships can be a little more beneficial then having a relationship with someone who lives a few minutes away?

It can be, it'll depend on the couple. The small time we spend together, we make the most out of it. If we are busy or something like that, we'll both be busy at the same time if possible so we can still spend time together. When your only 5 minutes away you don't tend to do that, because you know you can see them in 10 minutes. When your over a distance you can be 'closer' that you try your best to be together as much as you can.

 

[The Princess Bride]

How did you meet the person you are currently in this relationship with?

At church, and my ex-BF introduced us .
(However, that had NOTHING to do with why we split....)

What led you to know you wanted to date this person (knowing in your mind they live far away)?

He lived near me for close to a year after we met, but at that point we were only friends. And after he moved back to NJ, we stayed in touch. It wasnt until he came back down for a visit 5/6 months after I'd previously seen him, that we decided to date.

And I wanted to date him:
1) Because I liked the qualities I saw(see) in him
2) We simply "clicked"
3) I'd first taken time to re-prioritize my relationship with God, and felt like I got the "OK" to date John.

Do you think Long Distance relationships can be a little more beneficial then having a relationship with someone who lives a few minutes away?
Yes, I do think they can be equally beneficial and equally frustrating.

They are beneficial because it FORCES you to take your time and get to know this person.

HOWEVER, you dont get to spend actual time with them and it can get expensive, (But worth it, if you feel that there may be more later on down the road...)

 

[none the wiser]

How did you meet the person you are currently in this relationship with?

On another message board.

What led you to know you wanted to date this person (knowing in your mind they live far away)?

He was worth taking a chance on. We hit it off really well, and had to wait 8+ months to meet, so we knew each other fairly well.

Do you think Long Distance relationships can be a little more beneficial then having a relationship with someone who lives a few minutes away?

In some ways. Communication is strengthened, as others have said. But it's starting to wear on both of us that there's no end in sight.

For me it was a good thing. I never would have gotten to know him as well as I did, just because I'm kind of reserved. But I'm ready for the long distance part to be over

 

[bubblegirl23]

How did you meet the person you are currently in this relationship with?
Online. I was having trouble with a website and my Dad -- who knew him kinda well -- asked him to help me. But we didn't expect he would sit there 16 hours to help me. Talk about my knight in shining armor!

What led you to know you wanted to date this person (knowing in your mind they live far away)?
Well, we live in the same state but have "distance" due to my health needs. We just talk on the phone and net. Well, we've been good friends for a while but every so often he does things that I wish we WERE together properly. When I was sick for a week, he called me every day to check how I was feeling. And when we play games online, he lets me have all the cool stuff he finds.

Do you think Long Distance relationships can be a little more beneficial then having a relationship with someone who lives a few minutes away?
I think they can be more rewarding. Instead of this push to be physical, you can concentrate on talking and getting to know someone. Instead of the flesh being temptation, you can really analyze what the person is like and if they'll be suitable. I dont' see the point of getting physical unless there's a chance of emotional attachment.

Let's face it, looks don't last forever

 

[MN John]

Just had a few things on my mind about it
Just wanted to ask.

1. How did you meet the person you are currently in this relationship with?

2. What led you to know you wanted to date this person (knowing in your mind they live far away)?

3. Do you think Long Distance relationships can be a little more beneficial then having a relationship with someone who lives a few minutes away?

Just wanted peoples thoughts.
thank you much!

1. We were introduced by a mutual good friend.

2. We became friends first.

3. Yes, definitely for the mature person who is ready to make the most of those benefits.

 

[Braticus]

1. How did you meet the person you are currently in this relationship with?

2. What led you to know you wanted to date this person (knowing in your mind they live far away)?

3. Do you think Long Distance relationships can be a little more beneficial then having a relationship with someone who lives a few minutes away?

1. I met my sweetie on CF.

2. We talked for about 6 months before we decided to start something more, partly because I was in another relationship. I knew he was special right from the beginning, but after talking for a while, ew have the same standards and the smae goals in life.

3. I dunno, I've never had anythign this special with anyone that I loved close to. I think it is beneficial to get to know someone well before you get into a physical relationship with them. I like to think about all the positive things baout being so far away from my sweetie!

 

[Sariebeth]

umm i met my love on Myspace i honesty dont remember how we added eachother but i'm sure we did... i remember him leaving me a comment on my blog and i was like who is that... and then i check his page out and talked a little.. he called me and we be came good friends talked on the phone some and some of his college friends then added me and started calling me and i got along with all of them.. we were friends for about 2 years and i started liking him back in dec 2006 and i told him in Jan of 07 and he liked me but we just remained friends until Dec of 07 i love him alot and i'm so blessed that he is in my life...
i think Long distances relationships are hard but at the same time rewarding cuz we talk about everything, we are seeking the Lord.. although its hard i think its a blessing at the same time.

 

[Teufelhund]

How did you meet the person you are currently in this relationship with?
We met on CF.
What led you to know you wanted to date this person (knowing in your mind they live far away)?
She was absolutely perfect. We could talk for hours about evil lairs and death rays and philosophy, at 0300. She was the most wonderful woman I had ever talked to.
Do you think Long Distance relationships can be a little more beneficial then having a relationship with someone who lives a few minutes away?
In some ways yes. It helps to establish the foundations for a relationship. Esp. when one of the parties is in the military and it is inevitible that at some point the two will be seperated. Although at this point I would much rather be with my fiancee than away from her.

 

[Beauty4Ashes]

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[Blank123]

strange i never saw this thread before



How did you meet the person you are currently in this relationship with?

here on CF

What led you to know you wanted to date this person (knowing in your mind they live far away)?

It sounds really cliche but God opened my eyes to the possibility there could be something more. we were just very casual friends at first and one day i heard God tell me i needed to pray for him which lead me to get to know him better(within weeks we were just chatting for hours on end about literally anything and everything ) and that in turn lead me to see what a Godly guy he was and just what an awesome guy he was and once i started developing feelings for him i just turned to prayer because i figured it was pretty much impossible anything would happen and left it entirely in Gods hands to do with as He willed

Do you think Long Distance relationships can be a little more beneficial then having a relationship with someone who lives a few minutes away?

hmm... depends on how its handled. Any relationship handled without proper care (lack of communication, lack of concern for the others feelings, rushing things too fast etc..) will die regardless of if they're living close to each other or are long distance. if both people in the relationship are honest, open, loving, committed, and mature than it should work out.

 

[AlexeiKaramazov]

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[K9_Trainer]

How did you meet the person you are currently in this relationship with?

On a wildlife forum.

What led you to know you wanted to date this person (knowing in your mind they live far away)?

This one is complicated. For one, we are so alike it's scary. It feels like we complete each other. And for two, we've known each other for almost 3 years now but only recently got together. If the things that happened during the first 2 years we'd known each other gone exactly as they did, we wouldn't be together. I never used to believe in soul mates, but huge strings of coincidences like that don't just happen on their own.

Do you think Long Distance relationships can be a little more beneficial then having a relationship with someone who lives a few minutes away?

I think it has it's benefits. It requires more faith and trust which is deffinitly good for the relationship. You don't see the person on a regular basis so you learn to appreciate the time you do have with them and don't take things for granted. It allows you to focus more on communication than on cuddling and being physical.