Support for Self Injurers

[Cerulean_Butterfly]

Here's a thread for support of those that self injure. Not only cutters. I have been a cutter for almost 5 years. And i know that sometimes we feel alone. So i started this thread for ya'll so that you know that you're not alone. There are others out there that are struggling with the same things. s

-Jo

 

[goldenviolet]

management by taking one accomplishment at a time. going from a goal of one day at a time to one issue at a time.
PRACTICE changing your thinking. Practice …growing… one day at a time!
if you fail, get back up and start again...
taking one accomplishment at a time. going from a goal of one day at a time to one issue at a time. PRACTICE changing your thinking. Practice …growing… one day at a time! if you fail, get back up and start again....
taking one accomplishment at a time. going from a goal of one day at a time to one issue at a time. PRACTICE changing your thinking. Practice …growing… one day at a time! if you fail, get back up and start again....
taking one accomplishment at a time. going from a goal of one day at a time to one issue at a time. PRACTICE changing your thinking. Practice …growing… one day at a time! if you fail, get back up and start again....
you all are on my heart. if you ever need someone to just listen and encourage you, i'll be there with love and prayers.

 

[TheMainException]

Thank you....I'm not a cutter...although I tried it a couple times and burned a couple times...I usually take to beating myself and banging my head on things....

 

[Cerulean_Butterfly]

Hang in there, hun.

Jo.

 

[els_bells]

Thanks so much for starting this thread. It's nice to know I'm not alone.
Self harm is taking over my life, my thoughts, my actions. I hate it.
For 7 years I've battled with this and I don't know how to stop. Stopping also scares me cos i can't remember life without self harm.
However I know that God is greater than this situation and He is there in everything even when it feels (as i does at the moment) that my world is falling apart.

 

[NJA]

*If* u can hear what The Lord is actually saying to you, then by obeying u become "under New Management", the Master Builder will make you his glorious temple of praise and glory:-

Matt.:7:24: Therefore whosoever heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them, I will liken him unto a wise man, which built his house upon a rock:
25: And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell not: for it was founded upon a rock.
26: And every one that heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them not, shall be likened unto a foolish man, which built his house upon the sand:
27: And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell: and great was the fall of it.
28: And it came to pass, when Jesus had ended these sayings, the people were astonished at his doctrine

 

[BlackRain]

i used to be controlled by cutting. it was the most horrible 4 years of my life, but i know yall can do this! i want to encourage you to approach the Lord with confidence during this time in your life. yall can conquer this. just take it one day at a time. it's not easy, but its very possible with the Lord's help. the really cool thing is: he WANTS to help you! he wants to relieve you of this burden that weighs heavy on your shoulders. it'll be ok...yall are going to overcome this. when you think you can't handle it anymore, open up the word of God and read it. when temptation jumps at you..RUN! don't let it control you!! i know you're stronger than you think you are.
my heart goes out to all of yall!

 

[Cerulean_Butterfly]

Thanks so much for starting this thread. It's nice to know I'm not alone.
Self harm is taking over my life, my thoughts, my actions. I hate it.
For 7 years I've battled with this and I don't know how to stop. Stopping also scares me cos i can't remember life without self harm.
However I know that God is greater than this situation and He is there in everything even when it feels (as i does at the moment) that my world is falling apart.

Aw, sweetie... i know exactly what you're going through... I've Self Harmed for 5 years... and the thought of stopping scares me too... for the same reasons as yours and others too.

Jo.

 

[Cerulean_Butterfly]

Black Rain- I LOVE your screen name.

-Jo.

 

[guitar_gurl07]

Hey everyone! im just here to encourage the ones who self injure...i used 2 cut for 2 years and never thought my life would get any better...i attempted suicide 3 times, got put in the hosp. twice...im just here to tell you that you CAN do it! you CAN get better...i did and its the greatest thing thats ever happened to me! belive me...just keep trying...i know a lot of yall are really hopeless and are like i was and not belive this...but its true...it really can happen! well im here if anyone ever needs 2 talk to someone or just someone to listen to them
Love
Haylee

 

[~*Prayer GrrL*~]

Hey There. My name is Amanda. I'm a self-injurer. Compared to most of you, I'm a newbie though. Only a year have I been doing this. I cut, and it feels great. Like being drunk, you just forget about your emotions for a little bit. What hurts me the most is looking at my arm and seeing scars, scars that no one but my family and my 4 or 5 good friends see. I've cut every day or every other day practically for the last 6 months. So I know what this is, and this is an addiction. I can't control it and it definitely has me. I wish desperately I could. I've been praying for my salvation for 4 months straight now, I'm just begging for me answer. I write songs about it too, so if anyone would like to view them, just give me a heads-up!

Love, Amanda *yearning for the cure*

 

[BlackRain]

i just felt like saying:
God's got your back so don't be afraid to fall and start over with your life. sometimes that what you have to do. you tear it all down to build it up again. but, it's not like you're goin to be building alone...God will help you. i promise you that!! every one of yall are going to get out of where you are. i faith in yall. know i'm praying for every one of you!! if you need to talk, i'm always available.

 

[Cerulean_Butterfly]

Hey There. My name is Amanda. I'm a self-injurer. Compared to most of you, I'm a newbie though. Only a year have I been doing this. I cut, and it feels great. Like being drunk, you just forget about your emotions for a little bit. What hurts me the most is looking at my arm and seeing scars, scars that no one but my family and my 4 or 5 good friends see. I've cut every day or every other day practically for the last 6 months. So I know what this is, and this is an addiction. I can't control it and it definitely has me. I wish desperately I could. I've been praying for my salvation for 4 months straight now, I'm just begging for me answer. I write songs about it too, so if anyone would like to view them, just give me a heads-up!

Love, Amanda *yearning for the cure*

Aww... amanda I know exactly what you're feeling, and I'm sure alot of the other girls here do too. You can always turn here for support or comfort.

Writing about those feelings does help... I write too... not songs though. I write peoms. But it's a great way to let all of that negitive energy out. It doesnt always work... but when it does, its great.

Big S to you.

-Jo.

 

[~*Prayer GrrL*~]

Thanks, I just don't understand why I do it? But then again, do I really want to know why?

 

[katylees]

i know how u feel .. i dont understand why either really :S

 

[katylees]

...or maybe i do ...ish ..i dont know

 

[bliz]

For those who cut...

Stop focusing on stopping. You will find that you only want to do it more often and will feel like such a total failure each time you do it again. It becomes a terrible defeatest cycle.

Cutting - or burning, or banging your head against the wall or whatever - it's all just a different form of the same thing - is a symptom of the real problem. The cutting will fade away as the real problem gets better. You need to work on that problem - self worth, depression, anxiety, a painful home life, verbal abuse... the list goes on. When that emotional pain becomes too great, a physical pain often helps put out the flames of the emotional pain. In it's own way, cutting is a way of managing emotional pain.

Step #1 - figure out what is causing the emotional pain. Most of us benefit a great deal from having someone help us sort this out. Sometimes the source of the pain is not what we first think it is... a professional therapist or counselor can really help us fugure it out. When we work on the emotion al pain, the physical harm usually takes care of itself.

 

[sparrow]

Step #1 - figure out what is causing the emotional pain.

That's where I have my problems... Can't figure out what causes it/what triggers me.
Good post though...

 

[bliz]

I know... that is the hard part, and that's why I suggest some professional counseling to help you figure it out. Often, just knowing what the problem is makes a huge difference! Counselors know the kinds of questions to ask to help you figure it out and help stop that emotional pain.

Meanwhile, you can keep a cutting journal. Don't focus on what you did to youself.... focus on what was going on before you did it - what things happened, or were said or what you were feeling...

 

[fly high]

Looks like I'm the first guy on this thread to admit I cut. Have been doing it for 7 years have managed to give up but all ways end up coming back to it. Got a bit of a problem in that my new gf is going to notice my scars on my legs soon and don't really want to tell her all about it and why I do it as all ways just brings up more questions and i guess i don't want to seam week. Anyway stay strong and good luck if your trying to kick the habit.