Support for Christian Engagements

[Mrs K 2004]

In my recent wedding planning attempts, I've found it's difficult to find people who understand what I'm going through! I want to keep God at the center of my wedding and marriage, and most people just want a "Cinderella" day!

I thought maybe starting this thread would be a fun way to have support from others with strong beliefs!

I suppose some "get to know you" is in order

Name: J (I'm still really cautious about my name! Sorry)
Future Spouse: Ryan
ages: Me 20, him 23
Date: June 28, 2004

 

[Erichero]

You're talking about making a God-centered wedding right? (I mean is that the purpose of this thread?)

I'm keen for all the romantic elements of a wedding, as opposed to a straight Church service. Use the things that warm people's hearts ... the traditions. But also allow space for people to talk spiritual things, such as people prophesying into your marriage, or speaking Godly words, reading a Scripture or playing a song for you.

Lay the foundation on the rock so that when the storms come and the cooey stuff doesn't seem so fresh anymore, then your marriage will still survive and hold strong. The divorce rate in America is frightening and it means that we can't take foundations for granted. Stand up for it if you need to.

 

[PegasusOnFire]

My wedding is far from the Cinderella story. We are haveing a Christ centered wedding with the pastor telling everyone what marriage is, as told to us in the bible.

Here is a little background on me.

My name is Bobbie, my fiancee is Jay. I am 22 and he is 23, we met in 7th grade, fell in love post high school, (He was in the service I was in Jr. College), got engaged Nov. 2001, getting married next weekend. Our first pastor moved to China, I am glad that we didn't ask him, the second pastor was in a car vs semi accident and in a drug induced coma, again I am glad that we didn't ask him. The pastor that we have now, is a good friend of mine, I used to watch his kids. I am very thankful that we asked him. He is very non-traditional and just an awesome guy. God really had his hand in this area.

 

[Living4Him03]

awesome! Congrads on your upcoming marriage! God bless you and your marriage !

 

[nicodemus]

Congratulations first of all!


I commend you for wanting to have a Christ-centered wedding as well as marriage.

There is no better way to have your marriage start off of the right foot than to have a wedding ceremony that is Christ-centered. What other purpose is their in life or marriage?

I heard my priest say this once about the Orthodox perspective on marriage: "Marriage isn't about fuzzy romantic feelings, although that is nice. Marriage is about two souls uniting together in order to help one another stay on the right path and attain salvation."

I would highly recommend the book On Marriage and Family Life written by St. John Chrysostom. The book was written in the late 300s! Any book on Christian marriage written 1,600+ years ago that is still in print obviously has some worthwhile things to say about marriage! The book also addresses the wedding itself and what it should and should not be. It should be required reading for all Christian couples wanting to get married.

 

[katelyn]

There are lots of things you can do to make your wedding Christ-centered. I would say that most of them would be stuff that you would talk over with your pastor. Our pastor gave us some cool ideas. He went over the gospel at our wedding, and what the Bible says about marriage. We also had Scripture readings by a couple family members.

Another cool thing to do is have an affirmation of faith, where the pastor explains specifically what becoming a Christian is about, and you state that you have done that. Or you could also do something like put your testimonies in the program for your guests to read. And, you can request ask about having communion at your wedding if you want.

Some friends of ours had a praise song in their wedding that everyone joined in singing instead of the usual contemporary love song. We had a hymn where everyone sang.

I hope that your wedding planning goes well! God bless, and congratulations on your engagement!

 

[Emma!]

My name is Emma and i am also engaged and organizing a wedding!!!

My fiancee and i are having communion together and he will pass it to me, to symbolise his role as the spiritual leader etc.

How long till the wedding??

There is also to organise insnt there!!

Good on you both for having a wedding the way it is suppose to be...centered on our God!! The one who gave us our partner in the first place, not to mention our lives!!

That what ours is going to be like as well, no short cut off 20min get married and then on your way, we are having a full service with lots of worship, a good message etc

Good on you!! God bless you both!!