Suicide

[hernyaccent]

Yesterday morning my grandmother decided to take her own life. How does one deal with the grief & guilt associated with this?

 

[goldenviolet]

my dad took his own life. there was a mix of things i faced, including blaming myself. what i learned over the years was that grief is a long process. to say goodbye is one thing. but the confusion suicide leaves behind takes awhile for us to think through. my suggestion to anyone feeling loss is to get a photo album and dedicate it with pictures, poetry, art, memories etc. to the person you are grieving. then you take it out and put it away accoording to your needs.

i'm sorry about your grandma i'm saying a prayer for you.

 

[rushingwind62]

I too am sorry to hear about your grandma. I know you are probably asking yourelf what you could have done but the truth is, it was her choice. Many times loved ones don't have a clue that anything is wrong until after someone commits suicide. You ever hear the saying hindsight is better than foresight? So don't beat yourself up for what you could have done had you known. Most suicide victims hold things in and put up a front. Just do like goldenviolet said...remember your grandma, put that scapbook together or photo album and remember the good times. It will take time to work through the grief and many of your questions may never find an answer. Unfortunately that is one of the downfalls that suicides leave in their wake.... I am praying for you and your family...God Bless You All....Rush

 

[ChrisCountryGirl]

Yesterday morning my grandmother decided to take her own life. How does one deal with the grief & guilt associated with this?

Pray & have faith in God to help you lead the way. I lost my sister to suicide also on Oct. 17, 2005 which is barely a year ago. She was 23 when she took her own life. (((hugs)))

 

[hid06]

I registered for the sole purpose of replying to you. I am very sorry for your loss. My sister took her life 9 years ago this september. It is the hardest experience I have ever went through. There are so many questions and no one can answer them. Time does help, but when it is suicide it is very hard to feel comforted. All you can think of is the pain that your loved one must be going through to feel like the only answer is to kill themselves.
As a fairly new christian, I have even more questions, but I know that I will have to just trust in God. One of the reasons I turned to God is because I realized that there was not a person on this earth that could help me through the pain, but since I have found Him I feel a strength I have never felt before. God Bless You.

 

[AndreayCard4]

After the deaths of two family members (On Jan 12 2004 My father passed away, and on May 28 2004 My older brother took his own life!) It has been a crazy storm for me but I am slowly getting through it! I definetly have a lot emotions I need to get out through my music. Music helps me through but ultimately God is the only one that can take away my hopelessness, help me through my sorrow. I know one day the storm I am going through will die down. But my grief will always be there. Here are some songs that help me through

1. Homesick-Mercy me
2. Hurt-Christina Aguliera
3. Strong Enough-Stacie Orrico
4. When I fall-Rachel Lampa

 

[hernyaccent]

Thanks everyone for your words of encouragement and wisdom. I really appreciate it.

 

[hid06]

Thanks everyone for your words of encouragement and wisdom. I really appreciate it.

Thinking of you and praying for you and your family. Try to surround yourself with people that will allow you to remember the good and try not to focus on the actual way she died. It is very hard to not concentrate on the what ifs... or If only's...trust me, thinking of these things prevents you from the grieving process. Remember that whatever pain your grandmother was feeling is gone now. Find peace in her peace. God Bless.