Struggling With Heartbreak.

[GodsGirlSara]

I dated my ex for about a year and in that time I developed a kind of unconditional love for him that I had never experienced before. He broke up with me and could not really give me a concrete reason why. The only thing I have been able to gather since is that he wants to focus more on his studies and was not in a good place in his life.

My relationship with him was wonderful. We were best friends and felt so completely comfortable around each other. The breakup was so abrupt and unexpected which made it even harder to deal with.

Ten months later and I am still horribly torn up about it. This is VERY unlike me; most relationships that have ended, I was able to just accept it and move on pretty easily. I have prayed from every angle of my situation and continue to. I mostly thank God (my breakup caused me to lean on God and resulted in me growing closer to Him than ever before. Incidentally, I would not change that situation for anything in the world because of this), and pray that His will be done because I know His plan for me is FAR greater than anything I could dream of. However, I have also prayed that I could get over him and move on with my life and I have even selfishly prayed that He bring him back to me. I'm positive that it was no coincidence that when I prayed that, my ex came back and he told me that he missed me. However, this was just in time for me to move across the country, so we both decided that we don't need to start over.

I have reached a point where I'm convinced that I need to wait for God's response, but IT IS SO HARD. I've prayed for peace, understanding, relief, and more and I feel like I can't hear Him calling me anymore. I've been so frustrated and sad lately and I just need advice from some wonderful, Godly people.

Thank you for taking the time to read this, I really appreciate it!

 

[Wolfe]

Nothing I (or presumably anybody), can say will help you really.
The only advice that I can give you that I know holds water is, cling to God.

Continue to pray, I'll pray, and hopefully you'll get over it.
Time heals all wounds, as they say.

I'm afraid you're in the cloud of depression.
I don't know you well enough to help psychologically, I'm sorry.

But I will pray, I hope you feel better soon, God Bless.

 

[Dally]

Sweetie, it's ok if you haven't gotten over him yet. Breakups take time to heal and they are hard.
Have supportive friends around you that are good for self-help

Remind yourself that you are special and loved.
Go on walks
Do something that makes you happy and do it whenever you're down
Visit friends often
Read books

 

[Grandpa2390]

I have reached a point where I'm convinced that I need to wait for God's response, but IT IS SO HARD. I've prayed for peace, understanding, relief, and more and I feel like I can't hear Him calling me anymore. I've been so frustrated and sad lately and I just need advice from some wonderful, Godly people.

That sounds like a great idea. Your story reminds me of Daniel who prayed and fasted for 21 days to hear a Word from God.

In his case, the message was delayed because the angel was held up by the Prince of Persia who trapped him in combat until the angel Michael could come to assist.
We don't know why you haven't heard yet, but there is a valid reason I am sure. just be patient. Wait for God and it will be worth it. But be on the lookout. Be careful that you aren't missing it.

 

[Djdanik]

Unfortunately men in this day and age are very selfish and greedy. Lonelyness is a emotion and it sucks and sometimes we rush into things because of it.

Im a very kind and sweet guy and god knows how many times ive been hurt, cheated, stolen from.

My suggestion to you is pay very close attention to a guys regular behavior.

I was in downtown portland homeless and had like $30 on a mcdonalds card. I seen 2 parents and their child begging for money on the street.

I looked at their child and pain struck me, i had a very abusive childhood. I walked up to them and asked what they wanted from McDonalds and gave it to them. I got the kid his favorite mcdonalds.

Point of that is if u were with me u would have seen all of this. If i care about strangers and try to help then imagine me caring about someone i love such as a gf.