struggling with anger

[susie1979]

I've been abused most of my life from my parents and then men. Never thought that I would find the right man for me and be good to my children. But God blessed me with a wonderful man 2 yrs ago which we noe married. But I find out that my son was abused by the same person that abused me. And he has acted out his anger of that so much on me and other children that I do believe that God guided me to seek help from social services. I volunteered to place him in foster care so he could get help and to protect mu other two children. Since he been gone I've been doing counseling and parenting classes. They telling me they want to get him thru school yr and hav him home by June. Thought I was doing well but my mom is using other family members to get messages to me which mu dad is our abuser. And the state has said tht my parents are to hav no contact with me or my children. It just brings all those feelings back.

 

[Criada]

I'm so sorry, sister
Anger isn't always wrong... and when someone hurts our children I think we sre bound to be angry. I was abused for years, and still struggle with it - but I can't imagine how terrible it is to know that it's happened to one of your kids as well
You and your son are in my prayers - God sees it all, and he will get you both through this.
You are a very brave person, seeking help must have been hard, but you did the right thing for your children - you can be proud of that

 

[susie1979]

Thank you. I can honestly say that I believe that im dealing with going on better. For I don't cry

 

[If Not For Grace]

Susie: GFU! You are beaking the cycle. Just because someone is "related" to you does not mean you have to be a doormat for them. We are "not to cast our pearls before swine" and are to "cast the dust off our feet" in some instnances you know.

There is no way someone/anyone can handle this stuff on their own. Without help abused children often grow to to be abusers or turn a blind eye, when they see it in their own because the pain is too great to bear.

Sometimes I have to smile a bit when I think back and realize that even Abraham had a problem letting go of his "crazy kinfolk" We need to surround ourselves with those who uplift, encourage and edify us and distance ourselves from those who would harm us with constant negativity. Again GFU.

We are capable of greater things than we realize..

Grace

 

[sevenmsw]

Try forgiving everyone even if it's hard including those who abused you. Then try and get your child away from the State. God Bless!

 

[susie1979]

My son will be in care til summer

 

[VincentHChough]

Dear Susie,

It is certain that Jesus has wept for you and your family. It is certain that He will pour His mercy out on your situation. Sharing your hurt and your story is also part of this healing. We can't understand why these thing happen -- it just doesn't seem fair.
But in God's mercy we can find some answers and hope.
Keep asking Jesus to fight for you. Pray a lot.
And always know that Jesus drank from the same cup of suffering...

Praying for you,
Vince Chough

author of
Brave Fish: Identity, Love, Faith
Ashes to Eucalyptus
Your Messiah as Metaphor

 

[susie1979]

Well thank you all! My son is doing better. In a few months he should be coming home. And God has blessed my husband with work that is close to home instead of being a truck driver. I find myself getting past all the hurt I've been thru. And I feel family isn't just those of blood relations. Ill always hold a place in my heart for my parents for they did give me life. But that is all it is cause you can't be around a person u can't trust around ur children. I praise God for the life he has given me and I know it thru his love for me and my children tht he sent me my husband to me and for me to get thru all this! Thanks again!

 

[VincentHChough]

Well thank you all! My son is doing better. In a few months he should be coming home. And God has blessed my husband with work that is close to home instead of being a truck driver. I find myself getting past all the hurt I've been thru. And I feel family isn't just those of blood relations. Ill always hold a place in my heart for my parents for they did give me life. But that is all it is cause you can't be around a person u can't trust around ur children. I praise God for the life he has given me and I know it thru his love for me and my children tht he sent me my husband to me and for me to get thru all this! Thanks again!

It seems like the Lord is giving you peace and wisdom through all of this. I am humbled by your attitudes.

Thank you so much for sharing your story.

Grace, blessings and prayers for you,
Vince