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I'm sure this will open up a can of worms, but here goes. I am a very new believer (it hasn't been a week) so I know very little. But I have been reading about Calvinism for years, out of curiosity and, well, because it terrifies me.
I understand (and feel deeply) that God is sovereign. I even understand how some people can believe that free will takes away from God's sovereignty. What I don't understand is why both can't be true-why can't God be sovereign AND allow free will? Now, I get that greater minds than mine have debated this, so I am trying to get to the place where I am okay with not having to know the answer to every question. This is hard.
But here's the thing-I can't quit crying. I get that God can do anything he wants, but Calvinism makes me so sad. I went to see my seven-year-old niece last night and all I could think about was if she were to ask me if God loves her, what could I say? Maybe? We'll have to wait and see? He might actually hate you and take delight in your everlasting punishment?
My whole life the one constant was "God loves you" (I grew up in a non-denominational Arminian church). Calvinism turns that on it's head. To me, it turns John 3:16 into "For God so loved the ELECT that he gave his only begotten Son..."
But here's the rub-my belief FEELS like a gift. If someone had told me two weeks ago I would be a Christian, let alone a bible-believing Christian, I would have thought they were insane (I had contemplated "becoming" a liberal Christian, thinking I could pick and choose what I would believe, if you can imagine, but never an orthodox Christian).
So, I don't know what to think.
Also, I'm open to private messages if people don't want to post on the thread.
I have never attended a Calvinist church so can't really say what they are teaching. I came by my agreement with Reformed Theology twenty years after being in free will communities and have been Reformed for the last twenty. I read the works of reputable Reformed teachers and checked all against Scripture and my own understanding of who God is. I understand from this thread that many people have encountered Calvinist churches and people who say we believe things that aren't true, showing they have a poor understanding of the theology themselves. So don't please lump us altogether.Why can't they fall away, exactly. Show me biblical proof of that?
How can you tell if they were never saved? What do you look for, I mean where is your biblical proof?
And you do realize we aren't so much interested in what "reformed teaches" as we are what the bible says on the matters. So please explain how you knew someone who fell away, was never saved to begin with. I mean beyond assuming it because Calvinism told you to assume it...where does the bible verify it?
We "place" ourselves in Christ when we choose to accept him. What you are claiming is we were forced/placed into Christ when we can't possibly be in Christs if we don't choose to willingly. As in, I "placed" this class of water on the table, and the water nor the glass had anything to do with getting there, or, in so many words, I forced it to be where it now is..
Where does the bible verify that we are "placed" in Christ and we do not place ourselves in him willingly by doing as he expects of us, as in taking the action that is, in turn, actual "faith"?
You aren't describing "faith" there, but "ability" to have it, two separate things.
Question is why is it really distorted? It's not the fault of Gods word, and honestly from what I just saw, it appears to be getting distorted right here. Again, faith is not an ability, an ability is ability and faith is faith.
Jesus is able to "make" us do anything he likes but he simply doesn't work that way. Please show me the scripture to which you refer there, and lets see what it says?
side note 1), it's best to quote the scriptures you refer to, if for no other reason it can save the time of the other party asking for the quote and you having to repose.
2) I hate to assume here but after seeing these things play out so many times in the past, and also to save a little time, please answer all the questions posted in this or any post for that matter, so we can know you are able to back up what you claim. If you cannot/will not do that, the inaction will speak for itself..
Look forward to your reply.
This passage is from the long sequence of teaching that nominally took place in Gethsemane. This is normally understood as the heart of Jesus' message, containing things like "Do not let your hearts be troubled. Believe in God, believe also in me. In my Father’s house there are many dwelling places. If it were not so, would I have told you that I go to prepare a place for you?" "If you love me, you will keep my commandments. And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Advocate, to be with you forever." It makes no sense at all for John to include 3 1/2 chapters of Jesus' most important teachings if they weren't relevant to us.When Jesus said "Ye have not chosen me, but I have chosen you" - He was speaking to His disciples, right? The 12, including Judas Iscariot. Isn't this true? Would anyone agree that to make that verse apply to Soteriology, and to future Christians in general, is unfounded?
The answer to the first question is all that think that they chose Christ apart from a work of the Spirit.Since Dave doesn't read posts over 2 paragraphs, I'm going to very loosely assume, unless I missed his reply, that's why my 3 sentence post, each separated by a space went unanswered. So I'm posing it again to be sure it wasn't just skipped as I suspect. I suspect he just didn't answer because half the posts here are over two paragraphs, and Dave himself posts them more than two paragraphs, so something doesn't sound right. I go through all that because something seems odd about the skipping posts comment, but mostly because the question had to do with posting false/tricky information in order to back Calvinism, and that needs to be pointed out, beyond doubt for new Christians or seekers of true and proper doctrine.
2 questions) Who is it that saves themselves with Gods help there as you claimed? I ask because I have no idea who claims that, yet you call it one of the only three possibilities to salvation. Also, do you know from where those so-called 3 possibilities originated?
I'm a little old fashioned I guess...........being predestinated according to the purpose of him who worketh all things after the counsel of his own will:
You can take the words "all things" as far as you want.
Soil is inert. The sower and the growing seed are active. Of course no parable is a complete theology of soteriology. There are plenty of other places that tell us we have to obey, and describe consequences. But this particular parable sees us as purely receptive, and God's Word as the active force.Hedrick, I disagree that the SOILS in the parable are PASSIVE. They represent PEOPLE, right?
People who hear the WORD, some accept with joy, but let cares choke out, some produce crops, 30, 60, 100 fold - they all DO something with the message, they are not inert dirt
Apostasy comes in many forms. Listening to Leighton Flowers hastens it.I am with you. I was appalled when I went to a Calvinist church and heard God doesnt love people!!! i mean come on God is Love. so yes many aspects of Calvinism are in my opinion very wrong. it troubled me as well and after reading what the pastor at the calvinist church gave me and looking into it (Leighton Flowers has some interesting youtube clips) I have decided I'm not a Calvinist and have left the Calvinist church (because they cant help but weave Calvinist stuff into every sermon). feel free to not believe Calvinism you'll be a lot freer in Christ for it I believe...I have a lot more peace being a non-calvinist.
your neice has every possibility of coming to believe, God does love her very much, she can choose to accept the gift of Salvation Jesus bought for her on the Cross, she is not excluded from that if she wants to believe in Jesus she totally can. this is the good news that we can know the Father through His Son Jesus Christ.
Be at peace friend and toss Calvinism out the window. God loves people He just does
Calvinism has an arrogance about it that I dont like either. theres a lot wrong with it. they will say you dont know the Bible enough if you dont believe it, I reckon you dont know God enough if you do believe it.
We receive grace the same way as a glass receives water. It is empty and needs only be filled. It has only to receive water passively. It does nothing but be filled.Hedrick, I disagree that the SOILS in the parable are PASSIVE. They represent PEOPLE, right?
People who hear the WORD, some accept with joy, but let cares choke out, some produce crops, 30, 60, 100 fold - they all DO something with the message, they are not inert dirt
Good. You are on the road to truth.I'm a little old fashioned I guess.
But I take "all things" to mean exactly that - NO exceptions.
Let me get this straight. According to the scriptures:the passage from Isaiah doesn't show that God has ordained everything that comes to pass.
See also 15:19. Yes, this is all said to the disciples, but surely the whole thing about sending the Spirit, and preparing a place for us, and all that, applies beyond them.If the teaching -the CHOOSING I referred to, is in Gethsene, it may not include Judas, although elsewhere Jesus said " Have I not chosen you 12, and one of you is a devil?'"
I agree the context is important, I was not originally thinking of 3 1/2 chapters of John, of course everything is in some way "for us" as well as who it was addressed to - but who it was addressed to is important.
I've said above, it's equally a mistake to deny God's initiative in choosing us and the importance of our response.The reason I posted about "Ye have not chosen me, but I have chosen you" is because many times Calvinists have thrown that verse at me as "proof" that our own choosing is meaningless.
Our own choosing is not meaningless.
True. It tells us who will and who will not believe.The CHOICES made by the PEOPLE who hear the WORD are significant to me, the parable is about how people respond to the WORD, not about dirt.
Absolutely! We do choose Christ. We choose Him because we know that He is our only choice. It is up to Him to save us and we fall at His feet begging mercy.I've said above, it's equally a mistake to deny God's initiative in choosing us and the importance of our response.
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