Strong Vacuum - A Masturbation Issue

[VelocityTH]

A while back I finally realized that masturbation was a really bad thing and that I should stop doing that immediately, no matter what. Nevertheless, the more I resist, the more the urge to touch arises.
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Today, I am fully aware that if I ever want to get married, I must put an end to this thing; however, there is this "addiction vacuum" (an empty "psychological" space that occupies my thoughts and heart and insists on dragging me back to sinning [I cannot explain it better than that, I apologize for it.]) that keeps on wandering in my mind. The worst thing about this, is that I live in a "hot" place, so I got to see junk on a daily basis if you know what I mean (one of the reasons why I enjoy "colder" places), and as a result, I get a lot of "visual influences".
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The problem here is; how am I supposed to block/resist this sensation/urge and remove it permanently from me? I have read a variety of articles on the Internet, but yet, not one of them seems to help me. I really do not want to get into trouble in the future, so I must put a complete ending to this abomination. Can you people help in anyway?

 

[graciesings]

Personally, I don't find masturbation sinful, as long as it's done in moderation. But, here are some ideas to help you, I respect that you want to stop.

1) Download an extremely addictive game on your phone. I don't know what game it is, but whenever you're starting to feel the urge, nerd out and spend the rest of your free time playing candy crush or Tetris or chess or whatever interests you.

2) Use the public/your family as a help. Keep your door and bedroom windows open. Also, if you are struggling to fight it off, go take a walk. You won't touch if you keep yourself somewhere people can see you.

3. Pray yourself to sleep. If you keep your mind on God, there isn't as much room for other thoughts.

Also, I know guys who have struggled with masturbation up until their weddings... It is ok to struggle that long. Anyone who tells you that you can't get married until you've gone X amount of time without masturbating is... wrong. Before getting married, you DO want to make sure that you aren't obsessed with masturbation- or obsessed with sexual pleasure in general. That's a more common trap. But, you can get married even if you still fall to the temptation every now and then.

Wishing you God's blessings

 

[Grat1tude4Life]

very good advice from graciesings

 

[ParkerTrace]

I don't want to sound self-righteous because I too still struggle with it a lot, but masturbation is a sin. You can't say that it is't because I doubt that you can say, or at least I can't, that when you are doing it, you feel just as close to Jesus as you when you aren't. One of sin's definitions is: anything that seperates you fom Jesus, and masturbation definitely qualifies.

It is completely normal to struggle, but its not ok to keep living that way.
Getting rid of the desire completely wouldn't be a sacrifice because you wouldn't have to deny yourself of anything if you didn't have the desire.

Continually praising and praying works, and so does working for the kingdom, in any capacity. The more you are around godly influences, the less prone you are to do it or think about it. Its a daily battle, just like denying yourself of anything else.

 

[KCK]

One of the things you can do is to write in a piece of paper the reasons of why you should stop and everytime you have the urge just bring the paper and read it. Using the Bible for references to help you can work. But you can also have a partner that regulary checks your status during the day. You see you cannot simply say "I will stop" it doesn't work that way.

 

[SARGAM NAGDA]

A while back I finally realized that masturbation was a really bad thing and that I should stop doing that immediately, no matter what. Nevertheless, the more I resist, the more the urge to touch arises.

The problem here is; how am I supposed to block/resist this sensation/urge and remove it permanently from me? I have read a variety of articles on the Internet, but yet, not one of them seems to help me. I really do not want to get into trouble in the future, so I must put a complete ending to this abomination. Can you people help in anyway?

In my opinion there in no such thing as bad or good in the world.

Excess of anything can be harmful. Also repeating things becomes habit and this may lead to addiction.

Is you said "the more I resist, the more the urge to touch arises" which is quite normal for a teen exploring the growing body(Everybody has at some point of the life has masturbated)

And my personal opinion is that it is not a sin.

It is harmful to your health if done in excess, and you become addicted to it.

Your answer to the question "how am I supposed to block/resist this sensation/urge and remove it permanently from me?" is simple ......... You Can't.

Studies and psychology suggests that if I ask you not to think about something.
Your mind will sooner or later definitely think about it .(This is very well depicted in the movie INCEPTION)

Bur what you can do is undo the thoughts that enter your subconscious by developing the habit of positive thinking.

Do something that helps you productively and adds to your personality, get a hobby to divert your mind.

Example As soon as you get an idea creeping into your mind ,Read books that add value to life and that helps you to divert your thoughts.

or go for a walk or bicycling.


The thoughts will keep coming but the frequency will reduce and later at some point the thoughts will stop.

Please drop a message if you find this tip useful or need any thing to share

 

[grandvizier1006]

Masturbation isn't sinful. If you're looking and porn or doing it too much, then you should cut back, but sex drives are perfectly normal, and God knows this. It's how you manage it that counts. God prohibits sexual immorality, but not sexuality itself since that is a part of every person to some degree.