Stressed and Burnt Out from Work

[IceJad]

I'm stressed from work. I have been assigned a project which after working a few months into it found out is beyond my capability to deliver. At least not to a professional standard. This is a big project and it is too far in and late to pull out and no one else in my company is able to help me (delivery wise). Partly because the project scope was not defined properly by the main contractor and we underestimated the complexities of it. I'm constantly underdelivering during meetings and the customer knows it. It is really stressing me out because I don't like to underdeliver. This is eating into my mental health. I'm burnt out. I don't have any motivation to work. I'm living each day scrapping by the bare minimum of project delivery. I can't take this any longer. I just want this to end. Days will go by paralyzed with inaction and doubt. This is the first in my life to ever have days like these. Where time moves so fast and I'm praying for time to stop. I needed time to stop for me to catch up (if this make sense).

I have talked to my boss and he is quite understanding. But understanding doesn't deliver the project. I still have to do something I know I will fail and make a mess of it. I'm trying but I can't even say it's trying my best. I have told my boss that I would be leaving the company. I feel guilty for not performing on top of the stress. I don't know what I will do when I have served my notice period. I'm thinking of a sabbatical. Money might be tight for a while.

I can't tell my parents regarding this. They are the type to over worry which add more to my stress and guilt.

When I put it into word, it doesn't seem so bad reading back but reality is it is really severe for me. I really feel trapped at this moment and words can't convey it fully. Am I worried about my reputation? my professional pride? my responsibilities towards others? I can't tell. All I know is I'm failing myself.

 

[AlexB23]

I have talked to my boss and he is quite understanding. But understanding doesn't deliver the project. I still have to do something I know I will fail and make a mess of it. I'm trying but I can't even say it's trying my best. I have told my boss that I would be leaving the company. I feel guilty for not performing on top of the stress. I don't know what I will do when I have served my notice period. I'm thinking of a sabbatical. Money might be tight for a while.

I can't tell my parents regarding this. They are the type to over worry which add more to my stress and guilt.

When I put it into word, it doesn't seem so bad reading back but reality is it is really severe for me. I really feel trapped at this moment and words can't convey it fully. Am I worried about my reputation? my professional pride? my responsibilities towards others? I can't tell. All I know is I'm failing myself.

Just leave the company, or ask for more pay. The USA has a huge problem of overworking people. Do not feel guilty at all. It is the American hustle and grind culture's problem, not you.

 

[Bradskii]

This is actually a problem for your boss. Tell him in writing that you aren't being given the help you need and detail the likely outcomes if you don't get it. Copy to HR and to his boss as well. Ask for a meeting to resolve the problem, take in a witness to the meeting and take notes re his responses. If you are a member of a union, contact them. If there is a union and you aren't a member then think about joining.

This is not your fault.

 

[JesusFollowerForever]

I'm stressed from work. I have been assigned a project which after working a few months into it found out is beyond my capability to deliver. At least not to a professional standard. This is a big project and it is too far in and late to pull out and no one else in my company is able to help me (delivery wise). Partly because the project scope was not defined properly by the main contractor and we underestimated the complexities of it. I'm constantly underdelivering during meetings and the customer knows it. It is really stressing me out because I don't like to underdeliver. This is eating into my mental health. I'm burnt out. I don't have any motivation to work. I'm living each day scrapping by the bare minimum of project delivery. I can't take this any longer. I just want this to end. Days will go by paralyzed with inaction and doubt. This is the first in my life to ever have days like these. Where time moves so fast and I'm praying for time to stop. I needed time to stop for me to catch up (if this make sense).

I have talked to my boss and he is quite understanding. But understanding doesn't deliver the project. I still have to do something I know I will fail and make a mess of it. I'm trying but I can't even say it's trying my best. I have told my boss that I would be leaving the company. I feel guilty for not performing on top of the stress. I don't know what I will do when I have served my notice period. I'm thinking of a sabbatical. Money might be tight for a while.

I can't tell my parents regarding this. They are the type to over worry which add more to my stress and guilt.

When I put it into word, it doesn't seem so bad reading back but reality is it is really severe for me. I really feel trapped at this moment and words can't convey it fully. Am I worried about my reputation? my professional pride? my responsibilities towards others? I can't tell. All I know is I'm failing myself.a document in writing describing the problems and also some solutions

if your boss does not give you help then he does not deserve you, you can try one last time with a document in writing describing the problems and also some solutions, explaining it cannot be completed on time without outside help. Let him them decide what to do, if the project fails it will be on his head not yours since he does not provide the requires help. you will have a document trace stating the problem and solutions if it goes bad it will be on your boss's head not yours.

Your health very precious do not lose it for a job!

 

[eleos1954]

I'm stressed from work. I have been assigned a project which after working a few months into it found out is beyond my capability to deliver. At least not to a professional standard. This is a big project and it is too far in and late to pull out and no one else in my company is able to help me (delivery wise). Partly because the project scope was not defined properly by the main contractor and we underestimated the complexities of it. I'm constantly underdelivering during meetings and the customer knows it. It is really stressing me out because I don't like to underdeliver. This is eating into my mental health. I'm burnt out. I don't have any motivation to work. I'm living each day scrapping by the bare minimum of project delivery. I can't take this any longer. I just want this to end. Days will go by paralyzed with inaction and doubt. This is the first in my life to ever have days like these. Where time moves so fast and I'm praying for time to stop. I needed time to stop for me to catch up (if this make sense).

I have talked to my boss and he is quite understanding. But understanding doesn't deliver the project. I still have to do something I know I will fail and make a mess of it. I'm trying but I can't even say it's trying my best. I have told my boss that I would be leaving the company. I feel guilty for not performing on top of the stress. I don't know what I will do when I have served my notice period. I'm thinking of a sabbatical. Money might be tight for a while.

I can't tell my parents regarding this. They are the type to over worry which add more to my stress and guilt.

When I put it into word, it doesn't seem so bad reading back but reality is it is really severe for me. I really feel trapped at this moment and words can't convey it fully. Am I worried about my reputation? my professional pride? my responsibilities towards others? I can't tell. All I know is I'm failing myself.

Well ... not sure ... is it your failure ... or is it unrealistic goals being set? I've was once put in a position where it was way above my knowledge ... however ... after discussing with my supervisors about it they changed my duties to more of a coordinating/managerial role of the project and allowed me to hire people who actually had the knowledge needed. I was placed in this position by them ... not something I applied for. If something can't be worked out then you have no choice but to look for something else. Remaining in a frustrating work environment no matter what the cause is extremely frustrating and causes severe anxiety and that's no way to live.

Are the goals realistic? If not ... seek to change them ... if not then move on.

 

[Jermayn]

I'm stressed from work. I have been assigned a project which after working a few months into it found out is beyond my capability to deliver. At least not to a professional standard. This is a big project and it is too far in and late to pull out and no one else in my company is able to help me (delivery wise). Partly because the project scope was not defined properly by the main contractor and we underestimated the complexities of it. I'm constantly underdelivering during meetings and the customer knows it. It is really stressing me out because I don't like to underdeliver. This is eating into my mental health. I'm burnt out. I don't have any motivation to work. I'm living each day scrapping by the bare minimum of project delivery. I can't take this any longer. I just want this to end. Days will go by paralyzed with inaction and doubt. This is the first in my life to ever have days like these. Where time moves so fast and I'm praying for time to stop. I needed time to stop for me to catch up (if this make sense).

I have talked to my boss and he is quite understanding. But understanding doesn't deliver the project. I still have to do something I know I will fail and make a mess of it. I'm trying but I can't even say it's trying my best. I have told my boss that I would be leaving the company. I feel guilty for not performing on top of the stress. I don't know what I will do when I have served my notice period. I'm thinking of a sabbatical. Money might be tight for a while.

I can't tell my parents regarding this. They are the type to over worry which add more to my stress and guilt.

When I put it into word, it doesn't seem so bad reading back but reality is it is really severe for me. I really feel trapped at this moment and words can't convey it fully. Am I worried about my reputation? my professional pride? my responsibilities towards others? I can't tell. All I know is I'm failing myself.

If the customer did not properly define the scope of the work they needed then that's not on you. You need to be more assertive and tell them they are going to have to allot more time for you to get the right quality and quantity of personnel on the job to deliver what they need. If they don't like it, then tell them to kick rocks. It's not worth stressing over.

 

[SavedByGrace3]

I'm stressed from work. I have been assigned a project which after working a few months into it found out is beyond my capability to deliver. At least not to a professional standard. This is a big project and it is too far in and late to pull out and no one else in my company is able to help me (delivery wise). Partly because the project scope was not defined properly by the main contractor and we underestimated the complexities of it. I'm constantly underdelivering during meetings and the customer knows it. It is really stressing me out because I don't like to underdeliver. This is eating into my mental health. I'm burnt out. I don't have any motivation to work. I'm living each day scrapping by the bare minimum of project delivery. I can't take this any longer. I just want this to end. Days will go by paralyzed with inaction and doubt. This is the first in my life to ever have days like these. Where time moves so fast and I'm praying for time to stop. I needed time to stop for me to catch up (if this make sense).

I have talked to my boss and he is quite understanding. But understanding doesn't deliver the project. I still have to do something I know I will fail and make a mess of it. I'm trying but I can't even say it's trying my best. I have told my boss that I would be leaving the company. I feel guilty for not performing on top of the stress. I don't know what I will do when I have served my notice period. I'm thinking of a sabbatical. Money might be tight for a while.

I can't tell my parents regarding this. They are the type to over worry which add more to my stress and guilt.

When I put it into word, it doesn't seem so bad reading back but reality is it is really severe for me. I really feel trapped at this moment and words can't convey it fully. Am I worried about my reputation? my professional pride? my responsibilities towards others? I can't tell. All I know is I'm failing myself.

I understand totally. When I was younger, I worked in a mill that had a 12-hour-a-day schedule. At one point, we worked three 12-hour days followed by one day off, followed immediately by four 12-hour days. That is 84 hours in 8 days. I went back to college and got a better job in IT. I worked my way up the ranks until I became the interim IT director. If you have ever heard of the Peter principle, you will understand what I have experienced. I really hated it. It was more money and a certain amount of authority in the company... but I was in agony. The Peter principle says you should never exceed the level you are comfortable with. I was not comfortable with IT director. I am definitely a hands-on "worker bee," and that is where I excel and thrive. I was eventually offered the job of IT director of the four-campus college, but I turned it down. It would have meant a 40% raise... but it was not worth it. My wife went the same route in newspapers. She worked her way up to managing editor, which almost drove her batty. Too much. I eventually retired as a Systems Engineer... and was happy.
Trust the Lord. Suffer the loss of money if you have to. Believe the Lord for something that suits you better. He cares for you and will do it!

 

[marycherry3]

My last job I was constantly given more work and because I did it without complaining it never stopped. When I moved to a new company I was much more vocal when they gave me work so I didn't get into that situation again.

 

[SavedByGrace3]

My last job I was constantly given more work and because I did it without complaining it never stopped. When I moved to a new company I was much more vocal when they gave me work so I didn't get into that situation again.

Lol... yup.
I worked in IT. One of my co-workers kept telling me I had to mess up once in a while and not have such a fast turnaround because everyone would be calling me. But I liked the work and wanted to satisfy. Being an old military Sgt, I knew it was my job to make my boss look good. I even told my supervisor that. Needless to say, my goldbricking friend did not last long. I retired after 17 years.