Stop? Continue?

[Mapik]

I was just wondering what all of you young adults think about this thread that I made.
http://www.christianforums.com/t716678
I am looking for some advice some people my age also.

After reading the thread continue here:
I know that if my girlfriend and I decide to stop having sex, it is just going to be something really hard (for me at least). I know that I'll have the urge while we sit around, but I know that we shouldn't. Anything tips on what will make this easier if we decide to stop. Also, anything you would to contribute would be helpful!

 

[Lyle]

Here's a tip for you, bud. Just try to never be alone. Whenever you're together, make sure it's with other people around.. Sure, it may not sound fun, but if this is an area where you struggle then it is better to wait then sin. Hodl yourself accountable with people around, to let them in on everythign that goes on. Those are two major tips that should help you out, though briefly written.

 

[swordsman]

i agree with Lyle. Also Mapik, I congratulate you that you want to follow the Lord. May God be with you.

 

[Mapik]

Thank you for the advice and blessing. Lyle, I've heard of this approach, but I think I'm going to stray from it. We are in no doubt a serious relationship, but by no means getting married anytime within the year (nor will the question be popped anytime soon), but being alone is something all couples in a serious relationship need. The both of us need to stay strong and do as the Lord tells me, and that is to stop having sex.

I'm guessing that she will agree with this, and if she doesn't that she will at least see where I stand and not pressure me into giving in. I can doubt that at this time that once this is discussed, all sexual sins won't stop. There will still be the touchy feel stuff most likely, which in time would be nice to put an end to so my heart can be in the right place with the Lord.
I feel that once we stop this, the Lord will help us through some of the difficult times we share. Thanks for the suggestion and blessing!

 

[tesnusxenos]

but being alone is something all couples in a serious relationship need

This is true but you can be alone in "safe situations". Alone in the far corner of a resteraunt. Alone in a park (but within site of people). Alone in the car. just don't make it easy to go too far. the old youth group thing of "no public display of affection" is the opposite of what you need, no private display of affection is what will keep you pure.

 

[EbonNelumbo]

Pray and never stop.


When you feel the urge...sick as it may seem...think about her being your mom or sister...that'll stop. I heard that's what my friend did to stop himself