Still struggling...

[Jesus'TroublesomeAngel]

There is a link that I clicked on that I thought was supposed to have info on Saint Raphael, Patron of single people because I need him at the moment I'm crippled with loneliness and an overhwhelming feeling of sadness and self-worthlessness.

Instead, I see it's a singles cafe thing and nothing on Saint Raphael at all!

They just talk about this retreat for young people and have 18 year olds with 40 year olds which is disgusting IMO.

Furthermore, I can't make someone care for me and I have begged God to make me stop liking this person and yet I still like them. I just want to be rid of this all life is sad everything sucks and it's not a chemical imbalance in my brain. It's a realisation that life truly is horrible. I've done it all and still-sadness and death and loneliness and sadness prevail.

I want out. Why do I even bother with Prayer?

Anyone know an infallible Novena?

God Bless You.

 

[Dominus Fidelis]

How do you know its not a chemical imbalance?

If it truly isn't, why not get some counseling? Remember, there is merit in suffering, and God is closest to us when we suffer, but there is a point where you need to get some help.

 

[tjboie2001]

In my words I think that you should go seek some help. Go see a professional or go see a christian counsler.

 

[Jesus'TroublesomeAngel]

http://www.peace-of-mind.net/

I saw that link is that any good?

What am I supposed to say to a Counsellor? They'll ask me what my childhood is like and why I like this young man...and I have asked myself these very questions. Isn't there an online counsellor? I live ina teeny tiny town I can't see anyone here I have already spoken to Priests and Nuns. I want to get better but I am already on so mnuch medication I hate the thought of needing more.

Drs won't order any tests to see if it is a brain imbalance of chemicals. I was told to get over it and that the tiredness I feel wouldn't be because I am Iron Deficient. I've been to 4 different Dr's.

 

[Brother Simon]

Jesus' Troublesome Angel,

First, you are not troublesome to Jesus at all! He loves you very much! If you have doubts about this at all, read the Gospels. I assure you in there you will find nothing but love for all people from Him.

Secondly, I am praying for you. You're going through a hard time, and for that I am so sorry. Like others have said, you can seek counseling. They can help put things into perspective for you. Priests, although God's servants, may not have a special charism for counseling on these matters. Professional counselors, however, have to. So my advice to you is to seek someone like that out.

With love,
Simon

 

[ShannonMcCatholic]

Didn't we just go through all of this last week for the billionth time., GO GET PROFESSIONAL HELP- YOUR PROBLEMS WILL NEVER BE SOLVED ON AN INTERNET MESSAGE BOARD.

Prayer is not an instant win game- perfection of our natures takes time, struggle, pain, and sacrifice. Jesus didn't just plop down on the Cross and die- no, He first had to trudge up the hill....

And isn't it just possible, just maybe- that this slew of doctors, nurses, priests and nins -- might just possibly be right.....

 

[Abiel]

http://www.peace-of-mind.net/

I saw that link is that any good?

What am I supposed to say to a Counsellor? They'll ask me what my childhood is like and why I like this young man...and I have asked myself these very questions. Isn't there an online counsellor? I live ina teeny tiny town I can't see anyone here I have already spoken to Priests and Nuns. I want to get better but I am already on so mnuch medication I hate the thought of needing more.

Drs won't order any tests to see if it is a brain imbalance of chemicals. I was told to get over it and that the tiredness I feel wouldn't be because I am Iron Deficient. I've been to 4 different Dr's.

JTA, I feel your pain I have been there, and it is a daily struggle to stick to medical regimes, prayer, counselling, whatever when you are in such a dark place. I'm praying for you.
I struggled for ages. Medication has given me back my life. I know it is a real struggle to get motivation, but please try to seek out a specialist in depression. Do this alongside loving christian counsel. There is a path out of these feelings I am sure.

 

[Ave Maria]

I'd have to say that counselling should definitely be sought. I suffer from moderate Major Depression. I am on medication and am going through counselling. Thankfully, it is an effective way to battle depression. I have an article that might help you. It's not a Catholic article but I do think it could possibly help you. Here it is:

http://www.christiananswers.net/q-acb/acb-f001.html

I hope that article helps. If you have any doctrinal questions, feel free to ask your Priest. I am not Catholic (hopefully will be within a year or two God willing) and I really don't know enough about Catholic theology as of yet to know if there might be any errors in the document that are contrary to Catholic theology.

I am praying for you and your wellbeing.

 

[Seek Ye First]

I have felt the same as you, I will pray you get better, since I began saying the fifteen St Bridget prayers, ive felt a lot happier. God bless.

 

[Veritas]

http://www.peace-of-mind.net/

I saw that link is that any good?

What am I supposed to say to a Counsellor? They'll ask me what my childhood is like and why I like this young man...and I have asked myself these very questions. Isn't there an online counsellor? I live ina teeny tiny town I can't see anyone here I have already spoken to Priests and Nuns. I want to get better but I am already on so mnuch medication I hate the thought of needing more.

Drs won't order any tests to see if it is a brain imbalance of chemicals. I was told to get over it and that the tiredness I feel wouldn't be because I am Iron Deficient. I've been to 4 different Dr's.

As someone who has recently suffered from severe anemia, I can assure you that the condition can and does cause various chemical imbalances leading not only to crippling fatigue but anxiety and depression. The first order of business is to seriously amp up your iron intake. I started out at over 100 mg. a day. (please see a hematologist for the correct amount for you) Also, eat lots of red meat. I don't care what any vegetarian tells you, plant sources of iron are not readily absorbed by the human body. This is especially important during certain times of the month. Within a couple of months, you should be feeling better from that alone. Beyond that, I would consult a naturpathic doctor. They are better at treating some of these chemical problems and without always using drugs. It may not just be neurotransmitters in the brain that are effected, you very likely have hormonal imbalances. Your mood is so effected by the interplay of all these things. It could be behind your obsession (yes, I meant that) with this guy. And lastly, as harsh as this may sound, you gotta get over yourself. One of the things I notice about myself, is that when I'm feeling anxious or depressed or worthless, my focus is on me. Contrary to popular culture, it's not about you. The busier you are focusing on activities outside yourself (especially in service to others) the less you think about how miserable you are. Negative moods are circular and self-perpetuating. Prayer does help, but when you're angry a lot particularly with God, it just fuels the animosity. So calm yourself by praying the Rosary. It'll lower your blood pressure and heart rate and put you in the right frame of mind to focus on God, not yourself.

 

[tjboie2001]

Didn't we just go through all of this last week for the billionth time., GO GET PROFESSIONAL HELP- YOUR PROBLEMS WILL NEVER BE SOLVED ON AN INTERNET MESSAGE BOARD.

Prayer is not an instant win game- perfection of our natures takes time, struggle, pain, and sacrifice. Jesus didn't just plop down on the Cross and die- no, He first had to trudge up the hill....

And isn't it just possible, just maybe- that this slew of doctors, nurses, priests and nins -- might just possibly be right.....

You are right she needs to go get help. You have told her that and I just told her that on here. I am agreeing with you on this one.

 

[Jesus'TroublesomeAngel]

I have been on Iron injections and a Dr told me I may need to have an Iron Infusion but that there are great risks involved.
Anyone here had an Iron Infusion?

It might be best if I just cut contact with said guy I am apparently "Obsessed" with then? If it's all just in my head and my feelings aren't real.

I don't know what's real anymore I have been so focused on others of late and I still feel this way so..I don't know. The Dr I am currently seeing told me I shoulkd never have had iron injections because they create hard lumps under your skin and mark it like a bruise which it has done it seems.

I don't want anyone to think I'm self-absorbed or crazy. I might just withdraw from the few people I see for a while and try and figure this out. Maybe I should have an infusion I don't know.

 

[ShannonMcCatholic]

We are not the people to help you make medical decisions. Research it on WebMD or the like-- ask several different doctors. Seek counselling...

 

[Veritas]

I have been on Iron injections and a Dr told me I may need to have an Iron Infusion but that there are great risks involved.
Anyone here had an Iron Infusion?

It might be best if I just cut contact with said guy I am apparently "Obsessed" with then? If it's all just in my head and my feelings aren't real.

I don't know what's real anymore I have been so focused on others of late and I still feel this way so..I don't know. The Dr I am currently seeing told me I shoulkd never have had iron injections because they create hard lumps under your skin and mark it like a bruise which it has done it seems.

I don't want anyone to think I'm self-absorbed or crazy. I might just withdraw from the few people I see for a while and try and figure this out. Maybe I should have an infusion I don't know.

I never had iron injections or a blood transfusion which they sometimes do. But if it's safe (get a few medical opinions), then it may improve your condition immediately. It took me a while with the pills. I also didn't say your feelings for this guy aren't real, just maybe not healthy. Get yourself back on track physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually and then revisit the guy thing. Take care of yourself right now.

 

[PeterPaul]

AngelicJedi?

 

[Rising_Suns]

AngelicJedi?

There is a resemblence isn't there.

Anyway, Shannon is exactly right. We can be here for encouragement for you, but we cannot give you medical advice. We can support you, but we cannot give you a diognosis of your condition. You must seek professional help.

 

[RedTulipMom]

(huggs). I am sorry you are so depressed and feeling so badly about life right now. I will definitely pray for you.
My only advice is to Seek after God with all your heart. Open your bible and start reading it. Get the word of God in you.
Rom 12:2 "Be not conformed to this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind".
Give praises to God. I know it is hard to praise God when we are feeling down. But it isnt about your feelings. Your feelings arent showing you reality right now. Try to make a list if the things in your life you are grateful for and Praise God for those things. Remember that the Holy Spirit of God lives in you.
"Walk in the Spirit and you will not fulfill the desires of the flesh".

"Seek after God and his kingdom and everything else will be added unto you."

Don't listen to lies, believe Gods truth.

Phil 4:13 "We can do all things through Christ who strengthens us."

Seek medical help if you need it. Maybe you need to be on some anti-depressants for awhile.

God loves you!
karen

 

[tjboie2001]

We are not the people to help you make medical decisions. Research it on WebMD or the like-- ask several different doctors. Seek counselling...

Ok I have to say you do have a way with words. I all ways seem to have to agree with you again on this one.


She is right we can not give you any medical advice for you that is something that you are going to have to do on your own. We are all trying to tell you in a nice way here and has Shannon here you need to go and seek professional help.

The only thing that we can do for you is pray for you.

 

[Jesus'TroublesomeAngel]

My Mother is worried the Infusion will kill me and every Dr I have asked has told me it is a bigger risk with the way my Asthma is. Apparently, they said that if I had an infusion that if it works it could really turn things round for me. On the other hand they said that the chance of it cutting off my airways is there and tha they would have a respirator and defibrilator handy aswell.

My only other options are: Oral Iron which I've tried. Needles-which I've also tried.

I don't know what to do and I know you can't advise me. I have been here before under many different names as you all know and as I have stated many times. Maybe I should just try the infusion but truth be told I am scared that if I die they won't be able to bring me back and if they do, how do I know I won't be a vegetable? I don't want to put my family through that but on the other hand I don't want to be tired and depressed and ill my whole life.
I will see another naturopath and pray about this. I haven't had a normal Iron level since I was about 12 the female Dr I have seen since that age simply refuses to acknowledge how tired I am because my haemoglobin is ok at times. It's basically my ferritin that is always low. Anyway I'll push on.

 

[tjboie2001]

Ok you need to do that. Like I said and Also what Shannon has said it that we are not doctors we can not give you any advice on something like that. You need to go and see a trained professional which we are not.

We are just people that you are talking to over a computer. We can listen to you and pray for you but that's about it. Sorry