It was this exact question, more than anything else, which led me as a teenager to conclude that the Christian God does not exist, and soon afterwards to reject the concept of all Gods. It was as obvious to me then as it is now that the idea of a benevolent loving creator was completely incompatible with the 'creation' we can see on a daily basis. The suggestion that a kind creator could develop a world in which his creations need to eat each other alive to survive is quite clearly flawed. Nature just does not care about our feelings, however much we would like it to, illustrated yet again this weekend by the man tragically washed into the sea while scattering his sister's ashes. This of course does not rule out the existence of a benign or malevolent creator, but few people seem keen on worshipping such a God.
And interestingly, it's not just the likes of me, and Fry, and Epicurus who think this way. The problem of evil is a question regularly brought up by children, such as the girl who recently
stumped the Pope, and my 8 year old Godson who recently asked me why God put his friend in a wheelchair from birth. "A question which does not have an answer" said the Pope, though of course religions the world over have for centuries been engaging in some incredible mental gymnastics in order to come up with an answer they felt they could get away with.
Islam will tell you that all bad things are simply Allah testing your faith. The 2 month old baby dying of malaria is, we are to believe, either having its own faith tested (seems harsh on a baby), or this is a quite brutal and horrific way of testing the faith of its parents (slightly reminiscent of Isaac, but one step further?). Christianity will tell you it's a result of our forefathers eating a naughty apple, after having been instructed not to (why did the apple even exist in the first place? I call entrapment!). Other religions give us bad Gods, engaged in a celestial struggle against an omnipotent good God (how does one fight that which is omnipotent?). None of this makes even a shred of sense.
My Mum recently confirmed that I did ask her about this problem as a young child, so I guess the years of Sunday School kept the wolf from the door until I was old enough, and confident enough, to make up my own mind. As soon as I had, the whole thing suddenly seemed so crystal clear; that such a philosophy was all the creation of man. The years I have spent away from inculcation, and from societal pressure, have served to make my conclusion even more convincing.
One popular challenge, from those who believe in a creator, goes something along the lines of "well, then how do you explain bad things?". When you feel you have to shoehorn the idea of agency into nature then the problem of evil abounds, but when you don't need things to be part of some overall plan, then everything becomes so much more straightforward. The flesh eating bug exists because it adapted to take advantage of a niche. It does not exist to test anyone, or to punish anyone. It simply exists because that is what it evolved into, and it is successful. If you stand by the sea on a stormy day then you run the risk of being hit by a big wave, and whether or not you are scattering your sister's ashes is completely irrelevant to your odds. Nature was not designed for us, and doesn't care about us, and the second you accept that, you instantly rid yourself of the need to perform the mental gymnastics which believers must attempt.
So when a non-believer states, as Fry did, that they would like believers to realise what they have realised, much of it is probably motivated by the desire for others to experience how refreshing it is to accept things as they are, and to no longer have to be concerned with the problem of evil, and with the type of question for which the Pope says there is no answer.
Fry going on about bone cancer again (has he lost someone to this disease?) reminded me of this video, which seems relevant:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6v83X9-oJ-w