You raise an interesting point that being reform would be the best way to be all inclusive. Because as we both said before being Jewish is an all wrapped up package. You can be a Jew but only keep the High Holy days and other but you still identify member if the Jewish people.
I disagree, I came to the Messianic movement, while in Israel, being taught by Messianic Jews, some of who did not fit at all in some of the Messianic Congregations in Israel, do to them not being able to meet their theological beliefs, such as Orthodox Messianic, more and more there are Messianic Congregations popping up that fit a Orthodox atmosphere, but at the time, they simply continued in their
non-'Messianic' Orthodox community, and continuing to attend Orthodox Yeshiva's and Synagogues, because there was no Messianic home for them and they felt much more at home among their Orthodox brethren. So the reform can only go so far, in my opinion, reform would be better for all the Messianic Jews, who love their Jewish culture, but want to maintain their Christian theology.
The question is, is there such a thing how to be Jewish? Is it Messianic Judaism job to teach a Jewish believer how to be Jewish meaning more levels of observance after they get in? I say no it's Yeshua that matters.
I say yes, in reality, I think what you are proposing is a false dichotomy, or at least it sounds that way: "Yeshua matters, not God's Law..." Even though that might not be what you mean, it definitely seems that way. Moses writes all about Yeshua, that was Yeshua's own words, not mine.
I hear people say, we focus on Yeshua, not the Law... It is such a strange thing to hear, what that translates to me is: "Yeshua and God's Law are not compatible, so Yeshua is who we should seek, not God's Law"...
For me, being a seeker of Torah observance, my main focus is Yeshua, as I try to imitate Him, who by the way, is the Greatest Jew who has ever walked the face of the planet and the greatest Torah keeper to have ever existed. I don't see that as incompatible, in fact, I look at it the complete opposite... If one teaches Yeshua, without teaching the Torah, and the commandments, one is lacking a proper understanding of who Yeshua is, what He did, what the whole plan will be. etc.
Conclusion:
We can't separate Yeshua from the Word of God, or we would have to create a new religion, and most likely call it Christianity...
I joke! On a serious note, we will have a distorted message, which will produce a different end result, thus a different Yeshua.