As I said Halie, you'll get all kinds of 'opinions' here based upon lots of different motivations. Just remember this, the tongues of Pentecost was two different tongues. ONE was unintelligible to men, and when this "
sound" was first made in the temple, it caused an uproar and a gathering of the crowd on the day of Pentecost. The second tongue on Pentecost was languages of the men in that crowd who had gathered because of the unintelligible tongue. A tongue which caused those who were "
ungifted" or "
unlearned" in the crowd concerning this gift, to call the disciples "
drunk".
ACT 2:15 For these men are not drunk, as you suppose, since it is only the third hour of the day;
Years later at the tongue speaking church in Corinth, Paul was concerned that those same kind of ungifted ones would say these tongue speaking people were "
mad". Today they say we speak '
gibberish or babel', neither of which is even biblical, but just demeaning. It really should be called 'goading' or 'flaming' according to the 'rules' here, but it never is.
NAS 1CO 14:23 Therefore if the whole church assembles together and all speak in tongues, and ungifted men or unbelievers enter, will they not say that you are mad?
This verse above sounds like the "
ungifted" category which you and your boyfriend might be in. That is ,of course, unless you aren't even Christians... but are in the category of
"unbelievers".
You just need to decide if you think someone here who does not have the 'gift of tongues', and therefore is in the "
ungifted" category, is really qualified to speak to this situation correctly. IMO if you are "
ungifted"/NAS or "
unlearned"/KJV, you're at least partially
UN QUALIFIED. But that is a decision you will have to make.