Spanking: Hand or Paddle

[newcreature]

As simple as stated. Should one use hand or paddle when spanking?
Give pros and cons. Back up your thinking with resources (Bible, books on spanking, websites, etc...).

I am curious, and would like some advice. thank you for your thoughts and ideas on this subject.

Elaine

 

[Katydid]

Definately some object, preferably a switch. Not a paddle or spoon. Your hand has to hit either bare skin or fairly hard for any effect. A paddle as well has to be on bare skin or fairly hard for an effect. A switch can be a light swat on the hand or leg, and the sting from that is quite enough. Try it some time, use a paddle or spoon on your arm, covered and see how much it takes, now take a switch and do the same. Almost no pressure, no actual force, therefore no chance of abuse or bruises.

 

[CarrieAg93]

I use my hand simply because I'm afraid if I can't feel it I won't know how hard I'm spanking them.

 

[Gennifer]

How old are your children, Carrie?

 

[Kalista]

I don't think I will use items for spanking. I feel my hand will convey the message enough. I don't agree with spanking to hurt. The reason I will spank is if they blatenlty ignore me. Then it will be used as a "Hey I mean what I say!" type of thing.

 

[newcreature]

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Thank you for the post, but that is not what i am talking about. This is for people who do believe that spanking is necessary under some circumstances.

 

[Addicted2~Jesus]

I alternate between hands and an object, less severe for lil thins that jes need attention gittin, objects when it's a structured disicpline or threat. If the paddle comes out it means buisness as well as the one wieldin it. I don't know that there's anythin specific in the Bible to say which should be used etc, the book of Proverbs talks bout a rod. I don't take that to mean a ten foot pole foot across like a club. Switches.... boy howdy that takes me back... they do smart, but used properly I think they are a fine instrument. Only thin I ever worry bout is 'losin control' er bein mad an a switch is real easy to git round here, so I prefer to either use a hand that hurts me back or go an get a paddle.

 

[andiesmama]

I use my hand only, probably because that's what my parents did with me...& that was pretty effective, let me tell you!

 

[b.a.t]

Thank you for the post, but that is not what i am talking about. This is for people who do believe that spanking is necessary under some circumstances.

I am sorry I thought you were just getting peoples opinions on spanking. Hope I haven't offended anyone.

 

[Zoomer]

When I do spank, it is with my hand and on a clothed bottom. I do not spank with object or on a bare bottom. It is demoralizing to have a child strip naked to spank, and it is hard to judge the force of the spank if you use an object.

 

[Addicted2~Jesus]

When I do spank, it is with my hand and on a clothed bottom. I do not spank with object or on a bare bottom. It is demoralizing to have a child strip naked to spank, and it is hard to judge the force of the spank if you use an object.

I actually find it to be the other way round, but I work wit my hands so much that havin sumthin in my hand is a better gauge to me then usin my hand, reckon it's jes cause tools an what not become more of an extension of my hands then usin my own.

 

[Redguard]

My parents used to use a belt on me and I remember the way my skin would swell up afterwards, so I don't plan on using any objects.

Haven't had to "spank" my kid yet. At most, I've only given her a bit of a 'whoop' on her but to get her attention, but nothing meaning to hurt her.

 

[Leanna]

Never use anything but your hand. I don't know if I will spank, my son is only 8 months. I don't think I will. HOWEVER, if you choose to spank don't use a paddle! With a paddle you can't tell how hard you are hitting as much and you may hurt your child.

 

[pmcleanj]

I don't plan on using any objects.

Wise choice.

The Supreme Court of Canada has ruled that section 43 of the Criminal Code (which protects parents from prosecution for Criminal Assault) doesn't cover corporal punishment using any sort of object or weapon. If a parent does use objects on their child, they can be criminally charged.

 

[CarrieAg93]

How old are your children, Carrie?

I have 2 boys. The oldest turned 5 last week and my youngest will be 3 in August.

 

[Addicted2~Jesus]

Wise choice.

The Supreme Court of Canada has ruled that section 43 of the Criminal Code (which protects parents from prosecution for Criminal Assault) doesn't cover corporal punishment using any sort of object or weapon. If a parent does use objects on their child, they can be criminally charged.

Ya know how big a joke I find this? I find any gov't er any agency that's gonna dictate what we can an can not do as parents a joke and simply wrong. I've had belts, paddles, sticks switches an hands an it's not the instrument that's important it's the attitude in the disicpline. Like ya said.... "object/weapon" Anythin even a hand can be used as a weapon.... it's how it's used not wether it's used, I heard bout Canada when they did that here 3 er so years back an find it absoultely stupid...

 

[newcreature]

I am sorry I thought you were just getting peoples opinions on spanking. Hope I haven't offended anyone.

That's alright. No offense here!

 

[newcreature]

In the past, I have read various Christan books on parenting (can't remember which ones they were though), and I remember reading somewhere that using the hand makes it too personal when spanking, and a paddle was the better choice because of this. I think it was Tedd Tripp's book "Shephearding a Child's Heart", or one of Dr. James Dobson's books. Does anyone else remember reading this. I am looking not only for advice, but clarity on the hand/paddle issue.

So far all of your posts have been very helpful.

 

[Katydid]

I know that Dobson discusses this and advocates using an object. I tend to disagree with the reason, but I do have a reason none the less. A child who is spanked with the hand, never knows when it might come. Whereas if Mommy has to go get a switch, they know, Mommy now has the switch, that means I am getting a spanking. They won't jump if you raise your bare hand to stretch, they won't fear that at any moment it is coming when they are being lectured. You have to have the object in your hand before you can spank. It gives them a sense of security, knowing that you aren't going to be saying "you shouldn't have done that" spank. It has to be, "get the switch" therefore, they know it is coming. Does that make sense? I am kinda tired and don't know if I typed this well or not.

 

[Caprice]

By hand is the only way I'll consider spanking my kids (I will not spank other people's kids under any circumstance) when other methods have proven ineffective at discouraging behaviour that would otherwise be more dangerous than the spanking itself (such as running out into the street or similiarly silly child actions).

I feel that it is too difficult to determine the amount of force one is using when applying it thru an object like a paddle, whereas by hand I feel the resistance directly and feel that I will be more likely to determine if I am being too harsh.

Just my two cents.