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Soulmates
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peanutbutter12
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I think the word soulmate is very cheesy. It's a contradiction to say that soulmates exist and that at the same time, love is a decision. Plus, there is nothing biblical that says God has a specific person for us.
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I think that there's that one God has for us, yes there are options but they might not be the best fit for us...I personally believe that there's that individual God has for me who is going to compliment me in ALL areas...
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I believe there is more than one soulmate.
I believe I know two of mine. Even managed to marry one of them.
I believe I know two of mine. Even managed to marry one of them.
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invisiblebabe
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If your definition of "soulmates" is equivalent to the modern Christian notion of "the one," then I believe the idea of soulmates is pure bunk.
First of all, I believe it at least somewhat implies that our free will is null and void. If two people are destined for each other, do they even have a choice in the matter?
Secondly, it sets the stage for us to trust "signs" rather than how things are actually going in the relationship. After all, God isn't going to come down from heaven and directly speak to us and tell us who our "soulmate" is, so what other indications would we have? Waiting for some burning bush or the equivalent of it, will not get you anywhere. Marriage is a decision we are to make with God's blessing and guidance... it is not "destiny."
And on a similar track, 99.999999999% of the time, God will not tell you who you are to marry, when to marry, or where to look to find the one you will marry....especially before your supposed "future spouse" knows about it.
An argument to my stance could be, "But look at Isaac and Rebekah!" Yes, look at them. Their being brought together was a direct result of prayer, not God's dictating. Rebekah had to choose to go with Abraham's servant. He didn't tell her, "God told me you're supposed to marry Isaac, my master's son. C'mon." And, he actually wasn't 100% sure that Rebekah was to be Isaac's wife until she agreed.
Thirdly, the whole concept sets you up to idolize romance and romantic love. It is certainly a good thing to desire a relationship of that sort, but when all you think about is waiting to find that perfect other half who will complete you, and put that much energy into it.... you'll end up disillusioned and disappointed.
Finally, it also sets you up very well to blame God if the relationship ends up blowing up in your face. God does put people in our lives and take them away... but He isn't the author of some cosmic Disney romance.
God will certainly answer prayer, and He will certainly bring people together (and sometimes He will break them up if He sees a valid reason). What happens after that, though, is our decision.
First of all, I believe it at least somewhat implies that our free will is null and void. If two people are destined for each other, do they even have a choice in the matter?
Secondly, it sets the stage for us to trust "signs" rather than how things are actually going in the relationship. After all, God isn't going to come down from heaven and directly speak to us and tell us who our "soulmate" is, so what other indications would we have? Waiting for some burning bush or the equivalent of it, will not get you anywhere. Marriage is a decision we are to make with God's blessing and guidance... it is not "destiny."
And on a similar track, 99.999999999% of the time, God will not tell you who you are to marry, when to marry, or where to look to find the one you will marry....especially before your supposed "future spouse" knows about it.
An argument to my stance could be, "But look at Isaac and Rebekah!" Yes, look at them. Their being brought together was a direct result of prayer, not God's dictating. Rebekah had to choose to go with Abraham's servant. He didn't tell her, "God told me you're supposed to marry Isaac, my master's son. C'mon." And, he actually wasn't 100% sure that Rebekah was to be Isaac's wife until she agreed.
Thirdly, the whole concept sets you up to idolize romance and romantic love. It is certainly a good thing to desire a relationship of that sort, but when all you think about is waiting to find that perfect other half who will complete you, and put that much energy into it.... you'll end up disillusioned and disappointed.
Finally, it also sets you up very well to blame God if the relationship ends up blowing up in your face. God does put people in our lives and take them away... but He isn't the author of some cosmic Disney romance.
God will certainly answer prayer, and He will certainly bring people together (and sometimes He will break them up if He sees a valid reason). What happens after that, though, is our decision.
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Lizzi4Christ
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No.
We have free will. Am I to believe that every person who has stayed married found their soulmate? Out of billions? For the arguement that God directed them together, what about those who aren't believers?
I do believe that God blesses a relationship. But I just can't believe that there's that one perfect person.
We have free will. Am I to believe that every person who has stayed married found their soulmate? Out of billions? For the arguement that God directed them together, what about those who aren't believers?
I do believe that God blesses a relationship. But I just can't believe that there's that one perfect person.
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Nope... I think god gives us the choice to pick who we want (and who wants us) and we have to use our noggin to pick the one we "want"
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Maeyken
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I don't think there's any such thing as "soulmates". I think there are many people you are compatible with, and when you and one of them commit to each other, that's where the relationship comes from. I don't think there's any ONE person that you are "destined" to be with.
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KristianJ
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I voted no, but Mr.Cheese's point is quite valid IMHO. Otherwise, I have doubts about the popularised definition of a soulmate/the one, given that I'm sure many of us have been in the situation where they've thought "the one" came into their life but it wasn't to be.
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invisiblebabe
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KristianJ said:
Oh yes, and more than once. Before my fiancé, I'd seriously thought I'd found "the one".... *counts* five and a half times.
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LadyBird
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I voted "no."
The reason being is that about ten years ago, my best friend's dad was killed in a car accident...her parents were high school sweethearts, got married a few years later and lived a happy life together for about 15 years. After her dad's death, her mother remarried a few years later and is very happy now. How do you explain that? Obviously there are other people out there that you could be happy with. God gives us the freedom to make choices on our own. And we make them.
I agree.
The reason being is that about ten years ago, my best friend's dad was killed in a car accident...her parents were high school sweethearts, got married a few years later and lived a happy life together for about 15 years. After her dad's death, her mother remarried a few years later and is very happy now. How do you explain that? Obviously there are other people out there that you could be happy with. God gives us the freedom to make choices on our own. And we make them.
I agree.
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i think gods got a plan and purpose for youre life. we have a choice to follow that plan and purpose. but he does care about the details, and that includes the specific person he wants you to marry who enables you to fulfil your potential and to fulfil the plan god has for your life, and vise versa.
That doesnt mean that God wont bless your marriage and he wont do awesome things through the partnership you choose. But he cares about specifics and details, so i do believe he has one person for you. Its not logical to me that he would give you a list of people in your life who are compatible and then say "do what you want".
It's not totally clear cut, what if gods chosen one for you dies before you meet? What if theyre not spiritually on your wavelength at the right time? What if one of you makes a bad decision meaning that your paths never cross? So yeah, circumstances might mean that you dotn get it together with your "soulmate" and if they do then all is not lost. But i think if all goes to gods plan then soulmates can be a reality.
That doesnt mean that God wont bless your marriage and he wont do awesome things through the partnership you choose. But he cares about specifics and details, so i do believe he has one person for you. Its not logical to me that he would give you a list of people in your life who are compatible and then say "do what you want".
It's not totally clear cut, what if gods chosen one for you dies before you meet? What if theyre not spiritually on your wavelength at the right time? What if one of you makes a bad decision meaning that your paths never cross? So yeah, circumstances might mean that you dotn get it together with your "soulmate" and if they do then all is not lost. But i think if all goes to gods plan then soulmates can be a reality.
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As a Calvinist, yes, I do believe that God has a mate planned for me. It won't be by 'chance' that I marry and have children. It's all part of God's perfect plan. Proverbs 16:9 reads, In his heart a man plans his course, but the LORD determines his steps.
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